Women, how often did you really think about sex as a teenager?
I am struggling to understand to the media image of teenage boys being sex-crazed. It is a hormonal influence at play here but I struggle to understand how it can be that different to women.
Here sex means not actually PIV sex or sexual intercourse. Things related to sex. How often did you experience this HUM?
NewbieWithARuby: A lot. I think it’s unfair and unhealthy that it’s only boys who are seen in this light, growing up as a very (solo) sexually active girl, I thought I was really weird, like I knew it was normal for guys to be so sexual but for girls it’s denied.
It wasn’t until I actually started speaking to other women when I got older that I realised just how normal I was.
My sexdrive always felt wrong and shameful which was a hard thing growing up when you’re self conscious about everything anyway.
beccamoo518: Me a my gfs talked about sex constantly, what guys were good, what guys were great, what guys were hung, what guys were small, what guys would do. We were very active sexually. So ya i thought about it alot, as much as the guys did.
Lola36492: All the fucking time!
RinkanShojo: Oh god all the time, it was insane. Masturbated all the time and craved cock and women non stop. Still remember getting pictures of Sora Aoi from my friend and hiding them under my bed, masturbating to her every night and every time my parents were out. I managed to get a stash of western porn with pictures of men with HUGE unbelievable dicks and read a lot of hentai manga DX. Parents were so conservative and everyone at school thought I was all innocent and shit so I couldn’t have sex with anyone at school.
It created unrealistic expectations for me though, I was expecting cocks and sperm to be much more extreme than they actually were.
I practically raped my first boyfriend (not actually raped, I mean was horny beyond belief on the day I met him and fucked him without question, instigating it myself).
Tiny-toker: Loads! I was unbelievably curious about knowing everything and luckily I had good parents/sex ed teacher who would answer anything…. no matter how embarrassing….so I knew it was normal for me to feel this way. I also hung around with a big group of guys which probably stopped me being so embarrassed about being it coz teen boys may seem shy but some of the stuff out of their mouths blew my fucking mind! They were willing to help a teen girl work out any urges lol
rileyeak: Currently a teenager and all I think about it sex. It has only enhanced recently as I am back with my boyfriend so regular sex is happening, and I’m always thinking about what I want to try. At the moment it’s getting so distracting and I’m ALWAYS horny.
In saying this, at a time when I hadn’t had sex in about 6 months I remembered realising that I barely got horny anymore. I think it really depends on the situation your in or the stimulation you’re around (hot boys, people always talking about sex, ect)
Oksus69: All the time. Since around 10 or 11, it’s been on my mind. Even before then I was constantly fantasizing about bondage, but I didn’t even know what sex was, so it wasn’t exactly sexual in nature.
shy_in_bed: I’m one of few that literally never ever thought of it unless it was a Sex Ed class or something. I never really thought about sex till I became sexually active at 18.
Lovemeonly2018: My sex drive was off the charts as a teenager. I am a survivor of child sexual abuse, which can make kids and teens hypersexual. I was thinking about sex so much where I couldn’t concentrate. I used to think, “is something wrong with me, because I am being told that women don’t have high libidos.”
As I got older (I am in my 30’s now), my sex drive toned down. I did a lot of trauma work on myself. I would say I am still very sexual, but I have more control on things. I think about sex regularly, but it’s nowhere near my teenage self! I don’t relate to people who say “a woman’s peak hits your 30’s.” I think my peak hit starting age 12-13.
Thekillersofficial: All the damn day. I’d pretty much spend boring classes thinking about getting rammed by whoever the cutest guy in the class was.
Srslyjc: from like 13-15 it was constant. literally everything turned me on haha
kasuchans: Masturbated on a super regular basis, went to school with an ache deep in my cunt because I really really wanted sex, wanted to kiss (and tried to kiss) every decent looking guy I saw, etc. Wore ridiculously short skirts because I wanted them to want to fuck me. Watched my crush play guitar and had to dig my nails into my hands to keep from moaning. Dropped my notebook because another hot guy wore really tight shirts. Read so much fanfiction porn during classes on my phone. It was insane.
sangetencre: I wrote and read a lot of smut as a teenager, so….most of the time.
biglebowski55: Constantly. Also had a ton. Highly recommended.
PM_ME_YOUR_KINKS_PLS: So so much. Thought about and talked about it as much as the guys. Still do though.
Rezlier: Well, not much until recent events. Welp, I’m still a teenager(18), so here’s my 2 cents 🙂
dontwantanaccount: I didn’t think about it much, I mean I’d go for so long without sex.
Now I’m 30 and I think about it a lot!
micro-morticia: Every day. I was frequently late to school because of masturbating. I was writing porn on the internet literally before I even knew what a “clit” was or much of the other slang, when I was like 11-13 years old. I generally masturbated at least once a day, and I started masturbating literally too young to remember. I didn’t actually have an orgasm until I was at least 16 or so though.
Swarleymon: I masturbated a lot!!! But then I was scared to do anything real with any boyfriends I had. It didn’t help at like 14-15 I ended up with a penis phobia because I wasn’t ready and my bf shoved my hand down his pants wanting a handjob. So I stuck to making out and maybe over the pants stuff but I don’t think it ever got that far until I was almost 18. I made myself get over my phobia by a hookup (just for bjs) from AIM. It worked I wasn’t so scared any more, still had a crazy high sex drive but didn’t want to have actual sex because at that point I wanted to wait till marriage. (Personal choice) Lost my virginity prom morning to my amazing boyfriend who I loved but seriously was ready to loose my v card yet because I freaked out. But I think of all the stupid shit and weird places I got off at is kinda cringe worthy, I had no shame some times. Thought alot with my vagina.
jonathanwickk91: It’s not different to women. 90% of teenagers writing smut ( written porn ) are girls. At 14 I had read a ton and written some myself. By then I also had 10GB or so of porn on my PC and it only grew from there. By 16 I’d lost track of how much porn id watched, read, written. Thought I’d lose my mind I was that horny.
So in terms of how often, say upwards of 10 times a day?
Women’s sexuality is not quite so publicized but it definitely doesn’t mean that as teenagers boys are horny and girls aren’t.
Mange-Tout: The idea of men being “sex crazed” is a fairly recent invention. Throughout history men have claimed that women were more lusty and carnal than men and that women were always tempting and seducing men. Good men were chaste and god-fearing, but women were from the devil.
FiddleWithIt: Well I started masturbating very young, and despite what people say now about children and masturbating (“it isn’t sexual”) at some point before puberty, it was definitely sexual, but not in a way that made me want to seek a partner, if that makes any sense.
I have kept a diary for most of my life and I actually could go back and count how often I did it (I had a code) but from memory my most active year (all solo) was around 15. I considered myself very sexual but I was also extremely private about it.
SquishyButStrong: I was super horny as a teenager. I masturbated a lot, often fell into sexy daydreams in class, wrote erotica, and was sorta always chasing a new guy. Loved making out. Didn’t really get into being super sexual until 18 (once I broke that conditioned upbringing) but I was into dark and kinky things pretty early.
I sexted, cybered, cammed. If it was sexual in my room alone, I did it lol. If I spent half as much time on my calc homework as I did masturbating, I’d have been an engineer lol. I fucking love sex and have since like age 10-12.
runs_in_circles: (Currently) (over 18 tho) sooooo much and so do most of my friends. I know for at least a few (and me) that it’s definitely hormone-related or like involuntary body/libido related. Often to the point that it’s distracting or uncomfortable and literally needs to be handled. It feels wild. I think that particular public image of opposed masculinity/femininity is slowly becoming less authoritative, but I’m betting it’ll be around as long as sexism is around — we’re pretty uptight about our sexual morays and definitely in the way we raise kids (to generalize recklessly). (US)
dualdee: Thought about it a lot, but was never really interested in actually *having* it until my twenties. But I don’t think I’m even close to average there.
_planetoi: With myself? Daily. With anyone else? Literally never lmao. Lost my virginity at age 20
AngelicAmour: I’m a female, 18 and my friends and I talk about sex A LOT but only with each other because we’re supposed to be good girls and not talk about it or want it but I’m from a really conservative area (southern US). I remember being younger and hearing adults talk about girls and calling them sluts and whores but guys were “just being guys.” It really stuck with me and made me feel bad when I started thinking about sex. The first time I masturbated I was upset because I thought I was going to hell.
My friends really helped me get over that and we talk about it all the time. And Reddit and other places I could talk to people who are more open minded.
scosgurl: I couldn’t get enough porn. I had to make my own sometimes because I just couldn’t get enough (drawn porn, get your head out of the gutter). However, up until I was 22, I was all about no sex before marriage, so even when I was dating, I never did anything about it.
goingtospiritlake: I guess mostly when I read smut and masturbated. I got off many days of the week for years (still do lol) (I’m 21, now, and must say I’m the most sexual I’ve ever been. Think about it a couple times a day I guess? Having it regularly has sure amped me up.)
Shiksagodddess: Way more than I do now to be honest.
whiskey_pants: Well being a teen lasts a while, so at first I thought very little about it, later teens it was nonstop thinking about it.
urbancamping: Almost never. I never masturbated until a year or two after I lost my virginity at 22ish years old (with my good boyfriend, I had had many orgasms from him) and didn’t have much interest in boys.
I had crushes on boys but I guess I never thought about sex. Now I have had several sex partners and I masturbate several times a week 🙂 I’m not a sex addict for sure, but definitely not a prude either.
It was probably the way I was brought up… sex was not a taboo subject in our house and was sometimes talked about, but my mom did forbid me from having a boyfriend until after I graduated high school.
feelingallthevibes: I’m 19. Through most of my teens, I didn’t think about sex at all, but then I hit 18, because “sexually awakened,” I guess, and then I started thinking about it all the time.
I’m also single as shit, so it’s the worst.
topturts: Talk to someone who is transitioning FtM, they can give you some insight on the differences once the hormones kick in.
Akasha63: I thought about sex constantly from probably age 9-10 onwards, but was raised in a really strangely conservative environment so I didn’t even realize I was having sexual fantasies for years! When I finally put it together I tried to repress all sexual urges. Didn’t work. Talking about sex felt safe when it was with my friends but when it was just me and my brain I felt like a sex-crazed demon whore, especially because a lot of the stuff I was into was way weirder than anything they brought up.
omgwtfd: Tons, daily, and like many I thought I was broken. I masturbated probably every day, even a few times in public when I could get away with it.
yayo_rza: All the time
GimmieMore: All the time.
And when I started having sex with my gf we were doing it twice a day when we could manage.
EMBIenTe: Constantly. Only once I started having sex though, before that it was just a passing thought now and then, but once I started I would think about it all the time. I had a much higher sex drive then than I do now.
chaoticbeauti: It was talked about alot between friends when I was a teenager. The gossip on who was doing it and with who, etc.
As far as me and my thoughts it wasn’t on my mind a lot until my bf and I actually started doing it. Then it was all about where and how often we could get away with making it happen.
So thoughts about sex before becoming sexually active weren’t really there. After though, haha….yea all the time for the first year.
Raingembow: I’m still a teenage girl so I can answer this one pretty accurately. I spend an embarrassing amount of time thinking about sex if I’m completely honest. I can’t speak for women my age, but based on conversations with close friends it’s fairly common.