Belgian reality star who became a regular cast member on the lifestyle reality show Marseillais during its third season. She arrived on the show after having appeared on another reality series, Les Ch’tis à Hollywood.
Bonk Anyone You Like …
The future of Snapchat filters could allow you to have virtual sex with whoever you want
Have you ever thought about using Snapchat’s filters during sex? Try it! It could really up your role-playing game—you could turn your partner into a Disney princess, a cat, or even a strawberry! As soon as we overcome the turn-off of holding a bulky piece of glass and rare-earth metals between you and your lover, augmented-reality sex could become the next big kink thing.
Augmented reality (AR) uses a technological interface—such as a smartphone or Google Glass-like goggles, such as Microsoft’s HoloLens—to overlay computer-generated images on top of your real vision, fusing a virtual world with your own. Snapchat filters and Pokemon Go have been the two breakout examples of this nascent tech thus far, but Silicon Valley is only just getting started. This technology will soon saturate every part of daily life—including our sex lives.
Since AR overlays whatever virtual images we want to the real world, it will release us from the permanence of our given biological features and allow us to alter our appearance on the fly. When we apply this tech to our most private moments, it will also allow for the quirkiest of our fantasies to become visually real.
This will be an entirely different experience from virtual-reality sex. In VR sex, the totality of your real, intimate experience is replaced by a virtual one. In AR sex, however, your real, intimate experience won’t be replaced—it’ll be enriched and heightened. The realness of the other will still be there—the touch, the emotion, the energy—but you’ll be able to project whatever visuals you wish on top of them. The tech is approaching maturity quickly: You can already create a 3D model of anyone’s face from their photos using photogrammetry software. Coupled with today’s level of facial tracking, you could soon be able to turn your partner into anyone: celebrities, fictional characters, your ex, or even your friend’s cute fiancé.
AR will also bring online dating to the next level. If you’re just looking for a hook-up, why worry about matching with the right person on Tinder when you could just apply whichever facial filter you want to the first person you swipe right on? Porn stars will sell access to detailed models of their faces and bodies, and new privacy laws will emerge to protect celebrities and citizens alike from their digitized forms being hacked and used as aphrodisiacs. “U up?” will become “I got a full-detail Kanye West fbx, 50k+ polygons. Come over?”
It won’t just be about seeing whatever you want to see—once we’re all wearing AR headsets (or contact lenses), you’ll be able to control how other people see you, too. Forget facelifts, implants, or time-consuming make-up contouring: AR will be a cheaper, safer, non-permanent way to enhance your appearance. You’ll be able to overlay your fresh, tanned face from your last holiday for your next date—or why not have a program analyze your potential partner’s taste to determine the best possible cheekbone structure to make them fall for you? Professional dating experts can already assist you in creating a highly rated dating-app profile, so why not let them style your actual appearance, too?
You might not need to date a real human at all. Japan has already bots that replace the uncomfortable compromises of a real-life relationship with the safe, predictable companionship of artificial intelligence, tirelessly supporting you through long work nights, and always giving you love when you need it most.
There will inevitably be a backlash to the AR revolution. A counter-movement will arise, cherishing our biological bodies and arguing that these technologies are just another mask obstructing us from our “true self.”
The ability to change the appearance of one’s gender, ethnicity, age, and body would provide a temporary alleviation of discrimination. But this “true self” is often tied to our physical appearance and confines us to fixed societal positions. Concepts like “natural” and “biological” are more often than not exploited as arguments for racism and sexism. The ability to change the appearance of one’s gender, ethnicity, age, and body would provide a temporary alleviation of discrimination in a deeply unfair world. For example, what if you could choose which face to wear for your next job interview? Technology will never solve these deeply ingrained social issues, but as it could allow us much more control over first impressions—and hence more control over how we are positioned within society—it could be used to circumvent oppressive systems.
If this technology one day becomes available to all, we will be freed from our biological restraints. This radically rewrites our visual conception of identity, making the flesh face obsolete as the ultimate signifier of who we are and allowing us to always be whoever we want. As Laboria Cuboniks writes in the Xenofeminist manifesto, “Alienation is the labor of freedom’s construction.”
These AR technologies might initially produce a visually homogenous world as we all strive to look like the same idealized version of beauty, like a real-life version of a Korean beauty contest. But they also carry the potential to produce a vastly more heterogeneous one if we allow ourselves to have some fun. Your morning subway ride could be filled with superheroes, you’d buy your coffee from Skeletor, and make small talk at the stoplights with a weird fusion of Amy Winehouse and Stephen Fry while dodging a dozen smiling Trumps beasts on the street.
But what happens when we turn the tech off? We’ll become our own portraits of Dorian Gray, sparkly and vivid through layers of code, hollow and unrecognizable without it. Will we get so used to augmentation that we’ll become creeped out and put-off by our real faces? When the battery dies and you see your partner’s face for the first time in weeks, gloomy, bleak, and incongruously human—that’s the biggest buzzkill of all.
We’re still waiting for accessible hardware that will beam virtual images straight into our eyes, which will enable this glitchy and chaotic post-real future to manifest. Meanwhile, we might wish to have a look around us, take a walk, and cherish the last period in human history where we still share the same reality.
More concerning are people who interrupt because they lack emotional control. If your interrupter is being defensive and cutting you off to start an argument, don’t take the bait. Start by making sure the interrupter knows he was talking out of turn, and say, “I’m going to finish my point and then we can talk about your concern.” If that quick jolt doesn’t cause him to sit back and wait his turn, you’re better off deferring. “Okay John, you’re concerned that we’re not taking a tough enough stance. What do you propose?”
Once you’ve heard him out and asked at least a couple of questions to understand, then you can return to your point. “You’re worried that if we don’t react strongly to this, we’ll see more aggressiveness from our suppliers. I’m concerned that our relationship hangs by a thread and we need to tread lightly. How can we send a strong signal that this isn’t okay without driving key suppliers away?” If your interrupter is agitated, the best course of action is to let him get his thoughts out first. Once he feels you’re listening, he’ll be more open to hearing what you have to say. Unless, of course, your interrupter is making a…
Then there are people who strategically—with the goal of putting you on defense and throwing you off your game. If anything in the other person’s tone, body language, or context suggests you’re being interrupted by a bully, none of your constructive, polite tactics are going to do you any good. You need to respond to strength with strength.
Don’t yield when you are interrupted; keep talking. If anything, lower your volume a little so others will have to strain to hear you. Make prolonged eye contact first with the interrupter and then with any powerful or supportive people in the room. If these approaches create the space for you to finish, stop there.
If you’re still getting interrupted, appeal to the good judgment of the rest of the audience. Strongly, emphatically say something that indicates you believe in your point and won’t back down: “I am talking about the single most important customer we have. We have an obligation to discuss this issue fully.” In this case, use a forceful tone and strong body language.
If you know you’ll be dealing with the power play again, look for allies and enlist their support and assistance before and after your interactions with the interrupter. Ask for their help to ensure that important issues get a full hearing.
Show your strength
In all of these cases, remember that the interruption isn’t about you. The power play is about the bully’s fragile ego and inability to win by following the rules. The emotional outburst is about the interrupter’s lack of self-control. The over-exuberant interruption is about the excitement associated with the topic at hand. Remembering that it’s not personal will help you remain calm and polite. Do not back down or use tentative language such as, “May I finish?” or “I’m sorry, but.” And while open body language—such as smiling and sitting in a relaxed position—works well in many contexts, it’s better to avoid in these situations, lest you appear passive.
There is one caveat to all of this advice: It may not go over well with your audience. Because of ingrained sexism, people often get annoyed with women who are determined to make their points. That’s not how things should be, but that’s how it is. Thankfully, women like Sen. Harris have the courage to make sure their voices get heard.