I (21 f) keep getting UTIs after sex
My boyfriend and I recently discovered that being fisted and deep penetration is what gets me to orgasm but a day or two later I get a UTI and this has happened the past three times we’ve done this. Has this happened to anyone else and is this going to be a permanent situation or do I need to just get used to it?
pris_27: You need to make sure you pee right after sex (within 30 min) so that if potential bacteria had entered your urethra, you can flush it out before it becomes an infection. of course, there is still potential in this happening even if you do urinate.. but it reduces that chance. Make sure you both are clean too. Wash with some anti-bacterial soap before anything takes place (edit: hands not vagina….that can offset your PH level potentially causing either bv or a yeast infection to occur).
Also, drink lots and lots of water and pee as much as you can. UTI’s happen because the bacteria sits in your bladder and replicates without being flushed out. Best thing you can do besides good hygiene, is to be sure you pee lots.
Tay_tay_anne: Hand washing is a must, have him cut his nails. This will prevent anything under his nail from disrupting the ph, also use lube…not spit. Bacteria is what causes this issue. Make sure he is accurately and lightly fisting to start and to stop. And make sure you ALWAYS pee after. This will push bacteria outnof thr urethra. Maybe you could take a cranberry pill to help with preventing issues with bacteria.
DrHugh: Make sure he washes his hands before sex, or ask him to wear a disposable glove — and dispose the gloves after use.
Be sure to not touch the anus before going into the vagina.
You might consider checking with a gynecologist to see if you have some unusual bacterial fauna in your vagina — I’d think that it could contaminate your urethra, but it may be that it doesn’t normally get enough there until you do the fisting.
Christmas_in_July: I used to get them all the time when I was younger. I started rinsing off (quick water shower) after sex and they totally went away. Haven’t had one in over 20 years
Quailpower: Being on hormonal birth control also increases the chance of UTIs in sexually active younger women.
Switching to progesterone only does help women who are particularly prone to recurrant UTIs.
Most UTIs in under 30s are caused by Staphylococcus Saprophyticus, its skin bourne, generally harmless and present down there in 40-60 % of the population, so chances one of you have it as part of your skin flora is probable.
In younger women it is rarer to get UTIs from e. Coli and similar coliforms, so unless you are doing some ass to vagina it is unlikely to be those.
Try to avoid soaps, or use ones like Sanex that wont interfere with your natural pH. The vagina is naturally slightly acidic due to lactobacilli, this helps prevent other bacteria or yeasts from getting up in our business.
After sex always urinate, but seeing as sex is rarely fun with a full bladder (unless you are into that of course) many women find it easier to gently rinse themselves down after sex. Coconut oil is naturally antibacterial and antifungal, some people like to use this after sex (particularly if youve taken a pounding!) or even during sex as a lubricant. Silicone based lubes can cause you to be more prone to infection as they do not break down as easily or quickly as water based and can create ideal growinv conditions for bacteria outside of the vagina.
Staying well hydrated is a must. The more you pee, the more difficult it is for bacteria to adhere to the urethra. To get twice the preventative power you can also get cranberry suplliments and cystitis relief drinks. Im a big fan of isotonic drinks, as long as consumed as part of a healthy diet.
Sorry for the lecture just your friendly nighbourhood microbiologist and a chronic uti sufferer in my teens.
OliviaL825: I used to get them after sex every time. I went to the urologist and he gave me nitrofurantonin(sp?) To take after sex. It’s amazing. No more UTIs
fap_fap_fap_: can’t comment about the fisting part… but regarding regular sex:
* like everybody else said, go pee right after sex. not 30 mins, but within 5 mins
* make sure his dick is always clean before sex. it’s easy to slip when going for second or in the morning when you had sex the night before, but it takes 2 minus at the sink and can make a huge difference.
HighOnGoofballs: My ex kept getting them after sex with me, and it turned out I actually had a UTI too. once i took the antibiotics it stopped happening.
jv3456: My wife tried everything suggested here without any luck. We spent 15 years playing E. Coli roulette. She finally found a Dr. That prescribed her an antibiotic to take every time we had sex. After a couple months, she was able to stop taking the pills and never got another UTI.
Banana_slug_dub: D Mannose. I used to get UTIs constantly, I like really long sessions of PIV and I’d get one after each session. This stuff changed that, I’m so grateful I found it!
Help_Me_Reddit01: I had this problem until I began taking cranberry supplements. After starting the supplements, I haven’t had a UTI in months.
My doctor was close to sending me off an a urologist if they didn’t stop. I have I believe 4 within a matter of a couple months.
mewi2671: I saw other users provided other over the counter or natural supplements but I wanted to chime in for an option when those don’t work! I had this issue and I had to turn to a prescription as I was just susceptible regardless of washing hands/peeing right after sex. I was prescribed Macrobid by my gyno. I take one pill after every time I have sex and have never had a UTI since. Good luck!
bounce-bounce-drop: Just take D-Mannose. It’s a pretty big pill and you have to take a few, but it stops the UTI in its tracks and doesn’t require a doc visit. I was on a cycle of antibiotics, yeast infection, repeat for six months before I found D-Mannose. Best thing ever.
NoodleNickyy: Take. Cranberry. Pills. Or you could drink a glass of cranberry juice every day, but I prefer the pills. I swear by it. I used to have UTIs all the time and they stopped completely.
Also what others are saying, you always need to pee after sex.
RunsRealFast: I had a gf that was allergic to latex condoms and she kept getting UTIs. It took awhile to figure that one out but we switched condoms to a non-latex kind and it resolved the issue immediately.
Mowglio: OP! If you are taking antibiotics often to treat UTIs you really really need to be taking probiotics too.
I went through this same UTI debacle and the issue was heavily exacerbated by all the antibiotics I was taking. You can get decent Probiotics over the counter anywhere. It is so important
Justine772: If you keep getting UTIs you will develop scar tissue and it will not be fun. Please don’t think this is something “to get used to”
Ridog: What kind of lube are you using?
Zoloftmilkshake: Im prone to them, I was getting them every time and very very quickly after sex so I wasnt quite sure if it was bacterial (some tests came back clean). Peeing straight after sex was like knives.
Got him to start trimming his bush and havent had one in probably 6 months or so… I think irritation and roughness to the area can be a factor for some people
hailhydr4: One thing that worked for me was switching lubes to one without glycerin. Since then, no issues! I also stopped drinking sugary drinks, not sure which helped more.
alpengloww: Peeing before and after sex, dry cotton underwear, LOTS of water, and cranberry supplements all help. However–Renew Life 90 billion CPU probiotics are THE only thing that have kept me from UTIs, BV, yeast infections, etc. This shit is my holy grail and I recommend it to allll my lady friends. Seriously, give it a go.
ohmydearlucia: I had this problem for years. Taking one Macrobid before or after sex (prescribed by a urologist) avoided it, but eventually I went to a urologist who specialized in women’s issues. She diagnosed me with interstitial cystitis, and it’s not been an issue in the 3 years since I did a course of meds for that.
Make sure you have a culture done to see what bacteria is causing it so you’re treating it with an appropriate antibiotic, then have another one done to make sure it’s totally cleared. A quick analysis can show white blood cells in your urine–which can indicate an infection, or it can be an IC flare. Urgent care will usually prescribe Macrobid (or something like that) based on the presence of white blood cells in your urine.
If you go to a urologist–not a bad idea after 3 in a row– try to find someone who specializes in women’s issue. Good luck….UTIs suck.
virus5877: Go to a gyno!
justpu: tried literally EVERY hint in this thread… mannose, peeing, washing, antibiotics, condoms, gloves (fisting), no hormones and every other hint in the books. nothing really helped, infections always came back.
Vaccination! (Yes there is a shot (actually 3+1) you can get to become imune to one certain branche of bacteria.) in this case it helped instantly and ever since. cost: 120 Euro. worth a try and less than all the mannose and cranberry supplements.
StroVac : http://urologytimes.modernmedicine.com/urology-times/news/modernmedicine/modern-medicine-now/preventing-recurrent-urinary-tract-infections-?date=&id=&pageID=4&sk=
tl;dr: three out of five patients would have no further UTI in the first 6 months following administration
melonmagellan: * Pee before and after sex
* Clean up after sex (soap & water)
* Drink a ton of water
* Look into taking a D-Mannose supplement (more effective than cranberry juice)
* Ensure your SO has a clean penis & fingers before sex
* Just when you think you’re drinking enough water… drink more water
* Ask your OBGYN about getting a ‘one as needed’ antibiotic to take after trigger events. I take Macrobid and taking one after “trigger sex” (for me this is really long and hard penetration) works 95% of the time
* Make sure you air out your vag. I skip wearing undies to bed most nights
* Thongs may be a trigger for you… they aren’t for me but YMMV
* Wipe front to back
* Use a mild, vag friendly soap for washing up. Dove is okay for me personally. I make sure that I never get soap anywhere near the inside of my pussy. Same thing with laundry soap (it can be a trigger)
* Let your SO know this is an issue for you so he can be your partner in preventing them
* If you let your SO come inside you, I notice it can mess up my PH. I use a boric acid vaginal suppository occasionally (I get them on Amazon) and this really helps keeps things in balance
* Get tested for yeast or BV if you have chronic UTIs. These things can all be related. There is a reason, generally, that you’re out of balance
* As soon as it starts to occur go to the doctor or urgent care right away. While it may get better on its own, not worth risking a kidney infection or bladder scarring. Trust me on that one
* You can buy UTI test strips to use at home to see if you really have an infection. Sometimes random pelvic floor pain can seem like a UTI
* Symptoms of IC can be similar to a UTI. Worth looking into if it is chronic for you
* Some people report that taking high doses of Vitamin C resolved their issues. Worth looking into
* Don’t ever go A to V during sex or allow oral after rimming. This is highly likely to cause an issue even if you wash up after
Yes, I get a lot of UTIs.
The preventative antibiotic after “trigger sex” has really been key for me as part of an overall prevention strategy.
Sometimes, after a really bad one, you should just wait 7-10 days to let it totally heal up before having intercourse again. I have a lot of intercourse (10+ times a lot of weeks) and it causes a ton of issues if you don’t give yourself time to heal. I had what I could call a “perma-infection” for 2-3 months because of this. Trust me, let it heal up… even if you’re taking antibiotics.
burnerthatsmolders: This is why gloves were invented! Make sure you’re washed up before you start, and make sure the lube you’re using doesn’t have anything in it that irritates you, and then have him do it with nice, snug fitting gloves. It can be a sexy ritual, and they come in black, grey etc, not just dentist-office blue. I got myself used to/enthusiastic about condoms by building a response that foil tearing noise + latex-y smell = sexy fun times, and you could probably do the same with the glove-snapping noise once you get used to it. Check out your nearest queer-friendly sex shop if you want fancy ones.
uptowngyal: When me and my ex boyfriend had sex very often (like everyday) I got a uti constantly . But it was mainly because I wasn’t emptying my bladder after.
am03lett: Thank you everyone!
Suitsjacketsslacks: Probably something that’s gonna happen to somebody more than others. Guys aren’t gonna mind
WayneCider: My wife suffered UTI after UTI for years until we got a bidet. Hasn’t gotten one since