How often do you find yourself asking for sex?
So I’ve been dating my now gf for a month and some change, and when we first started hanging out we’d have sex every day.
Things have since settled a bit and the frequency has gone down a lot. My gf has implied that whenever I’m in the mood, to just make my move and she’ll get down with it. Problem is I hate asking for sex and I feel like my signs that indicate I want sex aren’t really strong so she might miss them. I’ve asked her for sex a few times and she’s always said yes and engaged with enthusiasm. I feel like part of this might be her being submissive.
How many times do you guys and girls ask for sex in your relationship or towards your SO?
psilocybes: I don’t so much ask as I get a hard on and rub it on her. Basically
thatdudeyouknowsorta: Married for 6 years. After our last child was born my wife had some complications down there. Sex was sometimes painful for her and so it was a very delicate thing to ask for it. After a while tho like many things I became comfortable with it. Because if she sad no we would snuggle and go to bed. If she said yes we would go to town. However thru out that time I lost a lot of my “moves” as far as getting her turned on. Since it hurt often she couldn’t get turned on easily because she was always afraid it would hurt so she locked down. Fast forward to now. She had surgery to correct things 6 months ago. And about 2 months ago she realized it doesn’t hurt anymore and she came to life. We have had sex pretty much everyday for the last couple months most days are 2-3 times. But I still ask her for it. And it’s getting to where I hate it because I know 99% of the time the answer is yes. But still don’t want to get worked up and her not be in the mood. So I am also struggling with finding ways to turn her on and ask for it without words. My advice to you is to always make out, you can get a lot of view on how she is feeling by kissing. If she is making out with you and you can tell she is into it start rubbing her body. Maybe get on top and dry hump a bit. If she’s not in the mood she will let you know. She’s wanting you to take charge and be the one to initiate it. If she’s into being submissive just lay down next to her. And say “you know what looks amazing? When your on top of me and I get to watch you ride me, and see every angle.” And if she says oh yea say “ yea and I just love laying down and watching you make yourself cum, and that face you make just gets me so damn hard!” If she’s in the mood that should get it started Atleast
fulanoderock: My wife of 10 years has issues asking for sex. She was raised strict catholic so I think she has this mentality that initiating is sinful. I have no problem asking. You have it good right now, keep asking or just bust a move since she’s not turning you down.
thatdudeyouknowsorta: She is wanting you to take charge more. As in be a man and take what you want. She even said she still wants you like that don’t make no mistake. Which says she’s still horny. Women are complex. And she hits her “brakes” with school and work and everything else. Men have sex on our brain daily. Women can be horny but not express it because sex. Have yal made love or do yal just fuck? And really think about that question
nycukiss: To be fair, i just start kissing her, while also tounchig her brests or ass. When she also wants, she starts touching me back, and when not, is like i am kissing a brick. Si to answer, i dont literaly ask, but do show my intention by touch.
thatdudeyouknowsorta: Kinda sounds like with her wanting to please you that the ideal of you asking for it gets her going. Have you tried mid day sexting?
thatdudeyouknowsorta: You texted her that you weren’t getting it enough? And she said enjoy where you are?
incognitoguy: Google “responsive desire”. It might fit your gf. Or, your gf might be submissive. If your gf suggested you initiate when your want, then just go with that. Its all good. But, if she frequently rejects, then your problem is more complicated.
edubkendo: In a relationship I don’t “ask” I just start kissing and progressively touching her and it either leads to sex or I pick up on body language that lets me know she’s not in the mood.
thatdudeyouknowsorta: Make sure you have eye contact, and yes just roll around and explore each other. The next time yal do make sure to tell her how she looks. But use words like gorgeous beautiful and amazing and say I love you during. It might be the spark she needs! Keep us updated
thatdudeyouknowsorta: Yea saying it now is romantic. But if she liked when you said you need to fuck her she wants you to be dominate. Start googling orgasm control for her, and get ya some handcuffs and a paddle. Talk together about a safe word in case you get carried away. And basically make her your little “Bitch” cause that’s how she wants it
thatdudeyouknowsorta: The decrease in sex is life. You have to learn your partner and know it’s not always gonna be the same. You have to step up as “king” and learn to please her as well.
thatdudeyouknowsorta: Communication is key to healthy relationship and sex life. You both have to be open and honest about what you want without judgement
kind_rooster: > Problem is I hate asking for sex
She never asks for sex… I get it one or twice a day. Frequently I hold her down to start… until she’s into it.