(25f) gift idea for boyfriend (33m): erotica written by me about the two of us, yay or nay, hot or not?
-At Christmas we’ll have been together 6 months
-he has a really high sex drive and loves anything to do with it, ie. talking about sex, etc
-he loves reading
From the erotica I’ve read, I know lots of it is truly bad, cringe-y etc. I’m hoping to avoid this style of writing.
I would be writing it from my own perspective, and it would be based around me touching myself/masturbating, and explaining in detail the various things I’m thinking about to get off. They will all involve him, some things will be about things we already do, and others will be different fantasies I have.
I’ll also write in my own thoughts/feelings about things so that it’s not only describing sex acts, but also hopefully creating a sort of intimacy through an inside look at how I view/feel about certain things we do, or things I want to do.
I’m confident in my writing ability, as well as my ability to write about acts, body parts, etc without using the cringe-y language found in some erotica. I also know what kind/style of sexual language he likes from our sexting/dirty talk.
Does this sound like a fun idea? People of Reddit, how would you feel if you received a gift like this from your partner? (I will be giving him other things as well). Would it turn you on/would you like it??
tl;dr would you like it if your partner gifted you a well-written piece of erotic writing about the sex you have together / various fantasies they want to try with you?
n0mad26: I would find that very sexy, how are you planning on giving it to him?
sydwais: I would find this very hot. I have written erotica for partners before, and they’ve always loved it.
melonmagellan: To be blunt, very hot if you’re good at writing erotica. This type of thing is either SO hot to me or highly cringe-worthy.
aFyllickTed: Way hot. I would love it – in all its erotic detail. Describe every feeling, mental and physical.
I love writing things like that and am disappointed when someone cannot or will not respond in kind because they’re too conventional or are afraid of appearing slutty.
Contivity: If I’m the recipient, I’d definitely ask, “Should we make a movie adaptation of this story?”. So I’d recommend put something that you’d actually enjoy too in there.
Dennis_Laid: I kept a triple X-rated diary the first few months I was together with my girlfriend. Tons of graphic detail, totally raunchy, extremely explicit. I let her read parts of it and it made her fall head over heels in love with me. I’m going to have it printed up and give it to her on our anniversary.
Dennis_Laid: Yes, it was simply done as dated journal entries. My first person experience of our encounters, plus the context of what was going on in my mind before and after.
I wound up getting up to around 40 or 50,000 words, which is plenty long enough for a Kindle book. So I just found an editor on Fiverr and I’m going to have the names changed in order to upload it, then we can have copies printed out on demand if we want.
I figured, why not it’s pretty juicy and people would probably get a kick out of reading it. Do you want to check out some of the chapters? Or be on my launch team? P.m. me. Thanks!
throwaway93_4: I’m thinking how I can make my gf read this tread or hint her about it without seeming too obvious
Irresponsibleguy_420: Reads Reddit . . . Updates Christmas wish list.
Sounds like a great idea. Go for it. Lucky guy.
(I’m a guy and would greatly enjoy this.)
meltallica82: I think that’s a great idea. Personally I’d be happy to receive a gift like that. Are you aware of any kinks he may have that you guys haven’t tried yet? That may be a good topic to focus on, if it’s something you’re also interested in.
ggporngg: That would be amazing! It’s also a nice way to talk about each others fantasies after reading.
novaskyd: Hell yeah. My partners have done this before and it’s awesome to get. This is one of my #1 favorite things to do in a relationship because 1) it’s fun, 2) it’s basically porn tailor-made to your relationship and sexual preferences, and 3) you learn a lot about what your partner likes too and then you can bring that into the bedroom.
kmacaze: Yuuup, I had a girlfriend in Highschool do this for me once was a huge turn on.
Drop_: This would be a particularly good way to indicate new kinks or fantasies you want to explore with him.
vice3-: Definitely yay. I often found out that most times when you think something is corny with an S/O they will love it
Diablo165: Is he into erotica?
surfnabitofturf: Oh hell yes. Thanks for the gift idea btw.
MyCatMerlin: I would 100% use it as a how-to guide. also, former long-distance speaking, a lot of what gets said is kind of in a less-edited format anyway, so having an edited format would be interesting.