Edging BF – What to do? How many times?
OK SO never tried edging before really and wanted suggestions as to
1. what to do
2. how long to wait between stopping and starting
3. should i am to do this 2 or 3 times before letting him cum?
Want to give him the best- was thinking of mixing up sex and blow jobs but would love thoughts. thank y’all
tsotherland: You are taking on a path of giving insane pleasure 🙂
1) What to do: The idea is to stimulate him TO but not OVER the edge. No rules on how to do that. You can pick what works for you two based on your experience. Here are a few ideas assuming that you are a woman and ‘driving’ the experience. First off tell him what you’re going to do. Tell him that he is not allowed to cum until you say so. This is not a Dom/sub thing. But he has to be willing to let you drive the game. Also, if he isn’t normally communicative about his impending orgasm, ask him to be this time. Common techniques are to start with a hand job. Work your way up to it. Tease, don’t just go for a ‘toss off’ (BTW, nothing wrong with developing skills to just get your man off. Different things for different times) Use your finger tips up and down and around his cock. Hold it while you stroke his balls, etc. After a while, start working on motions that you know make him want to cum. Standard up and down. Grip, etc. Keep going as he starts to tense up and get close. But do NOT let it happen. You can experiment with slow ramp up and slow ramp down mixed with taking him right to the edge and just STOPPING. That one is harsh but can be super exciting. You can let go. Or you can just stop moving at all. Try different things. The first few waves, don’t try to get it too close or you’ll be playing ‘let’s do it again’ rather than edging. 🙂
2) How long to wait: That depends. You have to read him. Don’t wait so long that he’s just giving up on ever enjoying himself. The shorter the ‘down time’ the better as long as it let’s him reset so you can go back up the mountain with him again. Remember, in this game, your job IS to torment him. The payoff will be great. If you feel bad you can tell him that you promise to get him off eventually, it’s not just a tease.
3) 2-3 cycles is a beginners game 🙂 Do it as long and as many times as you are enjoying it. Personally, the best ones I’ve ever had lasted well over an hour and I lost count of the waves.
4) BJ and Fucking. These are fair game for this play. HOWEVER, be careful because control is harder for you and him. Oral can easily be mixed in with hand work. PIV, is trickier. One game can be to tell him that he may not cum until you’re on him. That then becomes both the sign he can let loose and a magical home for his cock at the end.
Most of all have fun with it. HE will have frustration in the purpose of pleasure. You can do whatever you like. BTW, don’t forget that edging isn’t just for guys. Show him how awesome it is and later ask him to work you.