22 year old virgin
Alright, so I’m 22 and I’ve never had sex. The only guys I’ve ever made out with happened while I was very drunk. Basically, I’m completely inexperienced. I was always more school oriented than guy oriented (I’m a girl) and now that I have the time to even start thinking about guys and sex, I realized I don’t know the first thing. Any and all advice is appreciated.
Edit: I’m worried my inexperience will make me less attractive to guys. Is that something I need to worry about?
pezzi21d: Be upfront about what you don’t know. Take your time. Don’t push yourself because you think your partner will be happier
nibblesonpie: A good partner will be more than happy to show you the ropes (not literally. At first, anyway?). Don’t pressure yourself, and when you’re in the moment, just be concerned with paying attention to your partner’s body language and learning what works for them. Long as they return that favor, the rest will be pretty easy to figure out as you go.
And if you end up with somebody just as inexperienced, just do your best to figure it out together. We’ve all been there!
LaserZagz10: I’m a guy and I didn’t lose my virginity until I was 25. (Waited until marriage.) At 22, you’re still young. Lots of guys wouldn’t mind that you’re a virgin… some would like it. A good partner will go easy with you.
The_Gaming_Kitchen: It’s different for women than men. You dont have to worry about much.
throwaway2425reply: 25 yr old male virgin here. Haven’t even held hands before. I have however had this discussion with my male friends and it seems like the general consensus is that they wouldn’t mind. They would prefer a heads up so they can be aware that they need to show you the ropes.
aggressively_hangry: I’m a 26F who is also a virgin, by choice. IMO it can be challenging. Those who just wanted sex weren’t really worth a relationship because that’s not what they wanted. So it kind of acted as a natural filter for that. It hasn’t really hindered any of my relationships. I’ve had the “I really respect that” to the “fetishing the innocence” kind of interactions. My current BF (23M) is neither of those extremes. He respects my decisions and my past, even though they are polar to his. If anything, it’s made us get really figure each other out.
So overall, don’t sweat it, but watch out for the creeps who want another V card in their pocket.
Siris0: A good partner won’t care if you are inexperienced and most guys won’t find you less attractive if you never had sex.
ratemykik555: Stop thinking that way. Take your time! 🙂 Good guy can be happy with your small experience. Really. Nothing to worry about 🙂
Vesnuha: What to worry about? Literally any guy would prefer his gf to be a virgin