With all the sexual allegations coming out from various people in Hollywood, are these people who need help or just don’t give a fuck? “sexual addiction” more taboo than other addictions?
I honestly feel like someone that has let sex and pornography (sexual gratification) from taking over my life.
I think everyone, Louis CK, Weinstein, Kevin Spacey are wrong. Totally and completely wrong, but do they deserve to get help. Can they be helped?
I feel so powerless at times and find myself, well, I just think about the negative stigma of what being “sex addicted” means. I feel like most people will just think I’m a pig. I feel like other addictions actually kind of let you bond with other drug users. But with sex addiction you’re almost stripping yourself of a bond with someone else cause you get close to someone I always think about having sex with them.
But who would want to have sex with someone with an addiction and is maybe in danger of getting a disease. I’m really struggling right now and all these sexual allegations and seeing the negative backlash with people saying stuff like sexual rehab is bullshit. I’ve never done something as horrible as these people, but I’m just… maybe I just need a break from the internet world. I’m really fucking struggling right now, I want to connect with people… I want to be happy.
I’m so fucking unhappy. And on edge all the time. Ican’t sit still. I find a lot of things unenjoyable anymore. What’s the point.. I don’t feel like it. I don’t what’s wrong with me and it’s killing me from the inside
CanYouGuessWhoIAm: Most of the time in cases with these Hollywood stars it’s less about sex and more about power and a loss of perspective.
When you hit a certain level of fame or influence people stop saying no to you. What’s more, a lot of these people live lives that are entirely devoid of consequences. That can really mess with your head, the way you approach people in general, and people you’re sexually attracted to in particular. When your assumption is a “yes,” you sometimes do just whip your dick out for no fucking reason, because you genuinely don’t realize that what you’re doing is sexual assault anymore. It’s just something you *can* do because you’ve never been expressly told *not* to do it, because you have a whole cadre of people whose job it is to make you happy and comfortable.
Sex addiction is an entirely different thing.
luckycharms4life: Sex addiction is NOT the same as sexual harassment or assault.
I see that you’re really struggling and I am.so very sorry. You DO need support but I’m not a therapist and I can’t help you. But if you were my kid, which is how mom me interprets every situation now….
You are worthy of love. You’re worthy of life. You’re worthy of happiness. Nothing you do has taken that right from you or anyone else. You have to believe that about yourself because until you do, no one can help you.
stink3rbelle: It’s people who don’t give a fuck, or, more accurately, people who have been enabled for *years*. It’s a very old pattern, and it’s something that has been prevalent in other industries as well. There’s an attitude that people (usually men) in positions of power should be able to also expect sexual favors. Many old movies showcase this (How to Succeed in Business without Really Trying, 9 to 5 come to mind), and newer movies showcase it, too (Horrible Bosses). It’s a cultural thing.
But that is not really that relevant to your situation, and I don’t see why you’d compare yourself to these people. I recommend you look into some support groups for sex and love addiction.
AsAlwaysItDepends: What makes you think your a sex addict?
whiskey_pants: Sex addiction isn’t about victimizing others. You are melding things in your mind in a way it doesn’t work. Someone could be a sex addict AND a predator. Or a drug addict AND a predator. But they are not the same thing and one isn’t going to make you do the other.
I am so sorry you are struggling. Any addiction is difficult to live with. I do not think sex addiction is in itself unacceptable. What I won’t justify for any addict is harming other people with their addiction. I believe that urges and compulsions along with addictions don’t absolve us of our obligations to not hurt people. That said, everyone (even non addicts) mess up, make mistakes, and work to make amends.
Forgive YOURSELF for having issues. We all have them. Know that you are stronger than the issues you have and that you are worthy of a good fulfilling life and the work you put into making one is always worth it. Love to you while you are at a tough spot.
dusky_grouper: That has nothing to do with sex addiction. Not at all.