I am confused why I’m having these disturbing thoughts about my girlfriend.
“My gf/wife (SO) is too hot to be fucked by one man only”
“It wouldn’t be fair that she fucks only one guy”
“An ass with that body needs to be seen by men as much as possible”
“That ass needs to be seen and enjoyed by the world”
“Her bangin body needs to be in form-fitting outfits”
“She needs to be jerked off to by men”
“That ass needs to be fucked well”
“That sexy frowning open-mouth face needs some good spitroasting”
“She needs more cum”
“She needs to walk around showing off her assets by wearing form-fitting outfits and high heels”
I kinda have hotwife fantasy. Not into humiliation. Not cuckold.
“She needs to bend over at waist in front of other guys”
“She needs to wear a tight pencil skirt with a high back slit”
“Damn, no other girl turns me on and this big slut can only turn me on. I cannot even jerk off to other girls. God, I could fuck her all my life.”
“With that ass and that tight high rear slit skirt and those sexy hot heels on her, she deserves as many cocks and as much fucking as she wants.”
“The sluttier she gets, the prouder and the happier I am.”
“No one can make me cum as fast as she can.”
I don’t know whether I should embrace these fantasies or try to get rid of it.
I also don’t really see how her fucking around would affect me negatively and I don’t see anything wrong with a woman showing off her beautiful yummy body and having fun with as many men as she wants.
Plus, we’ve been together for about 4 years and she’s not my first. I’ve had girlfriends before her and I’ve slept with 2 girls with her permission and I couldn’t even get a proper hard on.
Sultrystoner: Where’s the disturbing part
arriflex77: None if this is disturbing, in fact as a girl I would probably find this really hot. If you guys can communicate clearly and want to try experimenting just take it slowly and check in with each other. If you trust her and everything is consensual for both parties you are good! I would loveeee an MFM with a trusted SO! This is my dream! Think about how totally ubiquitous the common male fantasy of an FMF is, nobody thinks it is “disturbing”.
Drop_: These aren’t disturbing, unless they bother you.
Do these thoughts conflict with what you want from your relationship?
goldenstream: This is among the most common kinks for guys in committed relationships. This is very normal.
Guys often are surprised and deeply disturbed at how they suddenly focus on fantasies of infidelity. This can be deeply disturbing – the idea of getting turned on by your SO with another guy seems counter to our self-image. Most of us never imagined we would like this – and then suddenly, it’s almost an obsession. Well, welcome to one of the little surprises that evolution left for us.
What’s going on is, scientists hypothesize, an outcome of **human sperm competition**. There is a lot of research on this, but the idea is simple. Your SO fucks another male. From an evolutionary perspective – from the perspective of what will move your genes into the next generation, what do you do?
* Get angry and beat the guy up. Well, you could do that – but 50% chance you loose that fight. And this does nothing to get your genetic heritage into the future.
* Get angry at/Beat your mate. Once again, this doesn’t help you get offspring. In fact, it could to the opposite.
* Leave your mate – Once again, this may help your pride, but it does nothing for your genetic heritage.
* Screw your mate – a lot. Yeah, that’s the ticket. Now your sperm is in the game and might get your mate pregnant before the other guy’s sperm finishes the job. And it get’s better – your penis is shaped like a plunger – and will actually pull the other guy’s sperm out of your mate’s V and insert yours instead. Now you’re competing – your genes get to move on to the next generation.
The point is that you are, it is believed, genetically programmed to respond to infidelity by getting excited. Well that sucks – it can really mess with your head. Thanx evolution.
Should you embrace these fantasies? That is a hard Q. First, should you encourage your SO to sleep with another guy? Only if your relationship is ROCK solid and your communication is great – and if you set rules ahead of time. Opening up relationships can be great fun – but only if you both feel in control and positive and have a clear idea of what you and your partner want from this.
Should you embrace the fantasy or try to ignore it? I see no harm in embracing it.
FalconStickr: I have all of these thoughts about my wife. Nothing wrong with it.
alittlebirdy1: These are pretty typical thoughts for someone with a hotwife kink. I wouldn’t classify them as disturbing.
n0mad26: Are these things you’ve talked to her about?
3Quarksfor: I feel the same about my GF and we have full filled those fantasies many times. She loves it and I love it. We both adore each other. Go for it.
ver9999: Don’t feel disturbed by this. Fantasies are odd creatures. You decide what you want to do with them. The one thing you probably shouldn’t do is try to get rid of them. This is something that turns you on and that you should enjoy, not get rid of!
Embracing a fantasy doesn’t always mean that you have to go through the entire act. It could mean something like role-play or some non-judgemental visualization in the moment. You decide what you do with your fantasies!
Also this seems (within the realm of what I’ve heard) SUPER common. Tell your girlfriend about it; maybe you two can both pretend you’ve got an audience.
ItsMeKate17: I think the only thing that would be disturbing is if you say uploaded porn of her without her consent for example. If you really want to do something like that, just talk to her about it 🙂