There is a massive difference between giving your man oral sex and sucking his dick. Oral sex is certainly a sensual and enjoyable experience for your man while sucking his cock is a more intense, erotic, inhibition-free, animalistic act.
Now let’s jump in and learn how to suck dick in a way that will leave your man breathless.
RULE #1 – TAKE THE INITIATIVE
The first rule for sucking cock like a pornstar is being able to take the initiative and start blowing him without any prompting from him. Taking the initiative works incredibly well for many reasons.
You know that feeling when your man just can’t take his hands off you and just “has to have you?” It’s irresistibly hot to be desired by someone who can’t control themselves around you. He experiences those same feelings of being desired when you take the initiative and start sucking him off when he’s not expecting it. So use this to your advantage.
Another reason is due to the power and pleasure many women feel when giving their man oral sex. A recent study has shown that over 30% of women enjoy the feeling of power they get when they are sucking cock and in another study, 28% of women reported that they find the act of giving their man oral sex to be very pleasurable . So if you already enjoy these feelings of power and pleasure when sucking his cock, this is another reason to take the initiative.
Here are a few examples of how you can take the initiative and start sucking your man’s cock:
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BJ Surprise – Let’s say you’re both sitting at home, watching some TV. When he’s least expecting it, cuddle up beside him and start massaging his crotch with your hand to get him hard, before pulling down his pants and giving him a blow job.
Road Head – The next time he is driving you home at night, do the same. Start massaging his testicles through his trousers, before unzipping them and giving him some road head. Just make sure you aren’t breaking any laws! This idea works equally well if you are both sitting in the back of a friends car.
Morning Wood – Let’s say you wake up before your man on a lazy Sunday morning, why not wake him up with a surprise BJ?
Take Control – The next time you’re both alone and feeling frisky, push him down into a chair, pull his trousers down and start sucking his penis.
The key is catching your man off guard and taking the initiative. Even if you don’t follow the rest of the advice in this chapter of the Blow Job Guide, you can use it in conjunction with any of the tips in Chapter 2 or Chapter 3 to surprise and delight your guy.
This instructional video is a bit shocking, but it will teach you how to build sexual tension, keep your man thinking about you and how to have passioniate sex by whispering some very simple “dirty” phrases in his ear. Check it out here.
RULE #2 – ANIMALISTIC ENTHUSIASM
The next technique for sucking his cock in a way that totally blows him away is making sure you do it with a high level of animalistic and almost insatiable enthusiasm.
Most guys see this as the single most important technique you can have in the bedroom to be good at sex and oral sex and I talk more about how enthusiasm is a vital component to giving a satisfying blow job in Chapter 1 here, but to further explain how important it is, I want you to do something. Imagine this scenario…
Your man hasn’t seen you for almost an entire week, and you’re waiting in your place for him to arrive. When he opens the door and lays his eyes on you, he immediately rushes forward and grabs hold of you. As he embraces you, he leans in, opens his mouth and gives you the most intense kiss you’ve ever received.
But he doesn’t stop there, he picks you up and brings you into the bedroom, tears your clothes off and has his way with you. You don’t want him to stop for a second and even if you tried to stop him, you probably couldn’t as he is acting on every animalistic impulse in his body. There isn’t a single logical thought going through his head right now. It’s just pure testosterone and lust running through his veins.
There is something ridiculously hot and passionate about this…his passionate enthusiasm. When you reverse the situation above, and you become the aggressor, the one who acts out of pure lust, and you attack your man with animalistic enthusiasm while sucking his dick, you can make it an experience that surpasses anything he could ever imagine. Even if you aren’t using new techniques or positions in the bedroom…it can make a dull sex life into a highly charged one.
RULE #3 – TALK DIRTY
Another way to make the experience feel magical for your man is to talk dirty to him while sucking his cock. While the Dirty Talking Guide goes into great detail teaching you exactly what to say and how to say it, here are a few guidelines that work great for talking dirty to your man while sucking him off…
Tell Him What You’re Going To Do – Before you even meet your man, you can start building anticipation with him by getting his mind thinking of you AND what you’ve got planned for him. If you’re on the phone to him, you can let him know that you have something planned for him later. But don’t let the cat out of the bag just yet! Try to be a little vague about what you’re planning so that he keeps thinking about you and trying to figure out what you meant.
If you’re messaging him, try sending one of the following, “I’ve got a little surprise for you later!” or “I’ve had you on my lips all day, can’t wait to see you later!” or even “Don’t make any plans for later. I need to see you.”
Tell Him How Turned On Your Are – This works fantastically well both before you meet him and when you’re together. Again, you can either call him or message him…but in general messaging is easier. Try sending one of the following messages to him, “Ugh…I wish this day would just end! I’m too horny to be in the office today” or “I’m sitting here at my desk and all I can think of is wrapping my lips around your cock.”
Tell Him How Much You Enjoy It – Now that you’ve used dirty talk to amp up the anticipation and have your man salivating and eager to feel your lips on him, it’s time to use dirty talk to enhance your blow job. The best way to do this is to tell him how much you’re enjoying it and how much sucking his cock is turning you on. Here’s a few examples:
- “I love feeling your cock in my mouth!”
- “I want to feel you explode and cum all over my face.”
- “Just having your dick in my mouth makes me so f**king wet!”
- “I want to feel you throb in my mouth when you’re cumming!”
- “I want to be on my knees every day for you.”
You can whisper these dirty talk phrases in your man’s ear before you go down on him, or you can say them midway through. You can learn more dirty talking phrases and examples in Chapter 2 and Chapter 3 of the Dirty Talking Guide.
YOUR HEAD IN HIS HANDS
A super powerful way to intensify this oral sex experience is to allow your man to take control and dictate things. You can do this by getting your man to hold your head while you keep your arms down by your side or even tied behind your back. (Learn more kinky sex ideas here and some BDSM ideas here).
Now that your man is in control, he can dictate how fast you suck his dick AND how deep you take it. All of this is perfect if you enjoy your man being in total control, but it’s not so much fun if you have an overactive gag reflex…unless of course you like the idea of throwing up midway through.
Some people call this “skull-fucking,” especially when your man gets aggressive, but we see it more as a simple act of submission, of handing over power to your man. If the idea of submitting to your man turns you on and you know he respects you enough not to go too fast or too deep, then putting your head in his hands can be incredibly erotic, arousing and fun for both of you.
I’m not going to talk too much about deep throating your man right now, as Chapter 7 here is devoted to deep throating.
All I will say is that if you don’t have a super-sensitive gag reflex and are with a man that you trust, then you should try it at least once. Deep throating provides your man with yet another set of sensations when sucking his cock that will help make him see you as a sexual goddess. Check out the deep throating Chapter here for a step-by-step guide on how to do it with style!
If you’ve successfully used all the techniques in this guide on sucking cock like a pornstar, then it’s all built up to this moment. And if you finish him off just right, you can give him an orgasm so powerful he’ll get amnesia.
While giving him a regular blow job, you’ll probably just spit or swallow his load or finish him off with a hand job as I explain in Chapter 4, the chapter on finishing your man off in style. But, when you’re sucking his dick, you’re putting on a performance for your boyfriend. You’re trying to be his very own pornstar!
With this in mind, here are a few additional ideas you should try when your man climaxes so that sucking his dick becomes a piece of performance art.
Swallowing With Attitude – As I mentioned earlier, you can just swallow your man’s load when he ejaculates. But to make it more intense for him, try swallowing it like you haven’t had a drop of water in days and are desperate to have his cum inside you. The moment he climaxes and explodes in your mouth, swallow it while still sucking for more. When your man sees how desperate your are for his cum, it can seriously intensify his orgasm.
Licking Your Lips – A simpler way to finish him off while making it incredibly hot is to have him cum in your open mouth. Then after you swallow his load, lick your lips and ask him, “When can I have some more?”
Facial Plus – Letting your husband cum on your face can be incredibly hot for both of you. But you can make it more intense, by having him cum on your face, then collecting it on your fingers and licking your fingers clean.
Rubbing It In – Another super erotic way to finish off your man when sucking his dick is to have him cum on your breasts or stomach and then start rubbing it and massaging it around your breasts and stomach, putting on a show for your husband. You can even use it as lube and start masturbating with it. Check out the Masturbation Guide on masturbating for incredible orgasms here.