Any other women feel you all of a sudden look hideous during sex?
During sex, all cards are on the table. You are making noises, making faces, and you’re body is in all sorts of positions that may have you thinking, “does that look hideous from the other’s point of view?
I personally think when I moan or make faces my teeth/mouth look terrible. Does any other girl wonder if their SO is secretly disgusted with something your body naturally does during sex?
Men is there something that you absolutely are disgusted of from your point of view? I think about this so much during sex. Sometimes it’s a passing thought, and other times I feel like I can’t go on knowing I may look hideous.
Anyone experience this and if so what’s your take?
UPDATE: these replies are so amazing and have really made me think how selfish it is to be self conscious while making love. It is so sweet how many people have said even the worst positions/faces/body parts are amazing to them while intimately having sex with their SO. If you haven’t told your partner these little things you go crazy over or are blinded by such amazing sex with them you don’t even notice the small things they’re insecure about, I encourage you to. It is simply beautiful the love you have for your SO and they should hear it! Even if it’s they have a sexy butthole whether it farts on your balls or not. Lol that was just an example but I thought it was something hilarious to imagine.
leftcoastandcoffee: Writing as a man: Watching a woman’s moaning face is the most beautiful thing in the the world to me.
ScorpioLoverboy: I don’t think about any of that. I’m too excited to be having sex, too eager to please her, too into the moment to focus on that sort of stuff. I don’t care if your tummy jiggles when you ride, if you have butt acne, prickly hairy legs, cellulite, if you make “weird” noises or faces. None of that registers. If I’m sleeping with you, it’s because I find you attractive. *All* of you. We all have flaws, so it would be hypocritical to find things like that unattractive but ask that she accepts *my* flaws.
Europaenceladus: Women: can he see x? Is my x body part a turn off? Does he think this sound is annoying or a turn off?
Men: I’m having sex!!!!
monobirdCF: Nah, during sex everything is full of *feels* and my partner touching me makes me feel very fucking attractive.
SusannaBananaRama: Yes! Especially when I have a blemish or I’m in an awkward position where I know he can see my tummy pooch or something.
I try not to dwell on it and just get out of my own head, because if I stay in that mindset then I’m not having much fun and he picks up on that. I just focus on him or the sensations and figure hey, he’s still hard and he still climaxes and he still comes back for more, so it must not be that bad, right?
G_o_o_d_n_a_s_t_y: People look weird and sometimes hideous whenever they’re doing something intense, whether it’s fucking, dancing, or exercising. Interacting with others in real time means we can’t carefully stage every angle and that’s perfectly OK.
subtly_homoerotic: Oh I always look hideous.
It’s sort of a sadomasochism thing for me and I’m like “ahahahha, sucker, you have to look at this face while fucking ahahahha”
KnowOneHere: I am horrified by my blow job face
inkedblonde13: Its nice knowing that you can send your SO wild. Just don’t take sex too seriously. Funny noises happen, funny faces are made, laugh about it. Me and my friends had a few drinks the other night and all did impressions of our SO’s sex face (inc SO’s)- hilarious.
Ghostlylemondrop: I’m beyond sure I look hideous in certain positions, but unless the sex is boring I’m too focused on what’s going on to care.
mucho_deniro: One time, my wife and I were 69ing (something we don’t do often due to the height difference between the two of us) and the angle I was at, I got a front row seat to her black butthole. Like, *right there*. I stopped eating and realized ‘Yeah, mine is probably just as fun to look at as hers”, and continued on.
The human body can be kinda gross at times, but with sex, those parts are heavily outweighed by everything else good going on and it’s all normal and natural. At least from my perspective, there might be a gross thing I catch a glimpse of, but then there’s everything else that is my wife which I can barely control myself with at times.
JabberwockyJurist: I never wondered if my SO was disgusted, but I was pretty self conscious in my 20s. It wasn’t until I hit 30 that I pretty much lost my inhibition in regard to my body. It is what it is. I figure he wants to be there and if he didn’t, he wouldn’t be. It’s more fun that way. I can’t explain what happened at 30, I think I just hit my groove.
RoxieLou: Yes i get this feeling too. I try not to think about too much but more i do that the more i think about it
i-just-need-a-minute: Yeah sometimes but don’t really concentrate on it because I’m having sex and enjoying that
_trinidad_: My girlfriend was really self concious in any position where she thought I could see her butthole. She never really thought of it as something that could be attractive. Once we started getting a little more kinky that went away pretty quickly. Personally I think everything about her is amazing from every angle so I’ve never really thought about it before
worried19: Nah, I don’t have inhibitions like that. During sex I’m too busy thinking about how good everything feels and how hot my partner is.
quesoandcats: I feel you. It can be hard for me to turn my brain off during sex cause I’m worried he thinks I look stupid.
peregr1ne: Yes. The entire time I’m having sex with someone, I’m mindful of my appearance. Missionary is my favorite position and it makes my belly look flat, but it also makes my boobs disappear. I’ll get on top to make my boobs look better, but my tummy pooch returns. Alternate to doggie so they can’t see my facial expressions of belly or boobs…But then maybe my butt looks bad. There’s no winning.
pavlikmmm: Heh, my gf says that she both looks weird and is pretty shy with moaning and making noises if we talk about the subject , out of bed.
But when we get going she kind of forgets about it.
And i find all of what she does wery , wery sexy, come on any guys here all of that just shows how much she is enjoing it and for me thers , pretty much, no better turn on then a long moan or just the thougth that she is really into it.
On a side note i think that i look awful during sex but she tells me othervise so who knows.
subbadubbdubb: So I’m probably weird on this.
I had a string of highly toxic relationships before my current respectful one. In the past, I felt pretty hideous, but I didn’t really care about it because I felt like I was just an incidental body attached to a set of sex-capable orifices; if the only thing your partner is interested in is clearly the stuff he can stick his dick in, does it really matter what you look like?
Now, I’m starting to think I might not be hideous (at least, my partner has said I’m attractive many many many times), but I actually *care* this time how my partner thinks I look, because I love him and don’t want to lose him.