Do guys expect that women are completed shaved or waxed?
Hi! I (26F) have just gotten out of a 9-year relationship. I am entering into a FWB situation and wondering if a guy around my age expects women to have no pubic hair. I don’t really like to be completely shaved, but I keep things trim. Is a guy going to think that is weird?
Obviously, I know that, ultimately, it is up to me what to do with my body, but I’ve been out of the game for such a long time that I have no idea if a guy would be surprised if a woman had pubic hair.
narutomanreigns: Some people definitely prefer completely hairless, but I don’t think anyone would be shocked to find out a woman has pubic hair. Personally, I prefer it.
Joeybing9: I don’t mind pubic hair at all especially if it’s neat and trimmed. Not really a fan of a 70s Bush however. LOL
So for me neatly trimmed pubic hair is fine or completely shaved is fine. It’s the woman’s body the woman’s choice.
UsernameForSexStuff: I’ve personally seen nine vaginas up close and personal, and exactly one of them was completely shaved. If that’s anywhere near the rate in the general population, a whole lot of guys are going to be disappointed if they expect no pubic hair.
changhyun: I usually shave my labia (but not always) and just keep the top trimmed. Nobody’s ever had any complaints about it, nobody’s ever refused to give me oral, nobody’s even commented on it to be honest.
Azael_Descends: I actually prefer the natural look (of not shaved) but I do believe I am in the minority. I don’t know why but for some reason bush is really hot, to me.
That’s just a preference though I always think my partner should be free to do whatever. If I see pussy, I have no complaints. I’m getting laid, what’s to complain about?
JR477: I’ve seen a lot of qualifiers like “as long as it isn’t an out-of-control 70’s bush.” I’m here to put in my two cents in support of the out-of-control ’70’s bush. I grew up watching ’70’s porn and had my first sexual experiences in the ’90’s. At least in my experience, the vulvas I was blessed to encounter in the ’90’s were as hairy as the vulvas featured in the ’70’s porns I had watched. Maybe it had to do with attending a college in a cold weather town. I had come to expect vaginas to have significant triangles of hair around them, and I loved it. When the 2000’s came around I made more of an effort to find women that did not shave (though the opposite was really starting to become the fashion). By 2003, I started dating the woman who would become my wife. She had blond pubic hair that was trimmed. I asked her to grow it out. She has been completely full and beautiful to this day.
radioactive_koala: I don’t expect anything, I just prefer shaved 🙂
otherac1256: If I’m giving oral I prefer shaved just cause Im not a fan of hair in my mouth. Otherwise I don’t really care
voxfemme: I’m 36 and I normally keep trimmed short. I don’t think you’ll have any problem with guys being bothered by that.
aloofman75: Think of it this way, if a guy expects you to be completely smooth and is disappointed when you’re not, he just let you know that his turn-ons are based more on porn than on actual women.
It’s fine to have a preference, but expecting it is ridiculous.
RIPcherryboyRIP: Never really thought about it in that sense, so no, there is no expectation. I’m not going to be disappointed either way.
I do prefer shaved but, some girls have a magical looking bush looks amazing so who knows.
mtfx: Different strokes for different folks…I have always encouraged partners to grow theirs out. I prefer hair down there. I have dated a couple women that were shaven, and I would ask them to let it grow out….there was a sense of relief from them.
Shaving leads to stubble, which is just really uncomfortable to me.
OP, rock what ever YOU are comfortable with.
nakedinthebreeze: Hell no. If anyone expects that he’s watching too much porn.
EmpoweredWoman95: I have a bush myself, and never had any complaints.
Putnamehere_: No absolutely not.
SuperMarketBanana: I’m a female and prefer to shave. I haven’t left it unsaved since I was 15 but I remember it being uncomfortable
marlan_: Different people like different things. A safe medium is just trimmed.
I think it’s rare people like a full bush, and people who like it fully shaved will generally be fine with trimmed.
csajhr: Despite all the bush lovers in this thread (I’m one too), in my experience the majority of guys your age are going to expect you to be hairless.
Just because you aren’t doesn’t mean it will cause some kind of meltdown, but it has been known to happen. I don’t think anyone will expect you to have hair or criticize you if you don’t, so if you want to err on the side of caution, go for the Telly Savalas.
TieFighterAlpha2: Well, first you asked if guys EXPECT it. I don’t think most do. It’s possible they’re hoping that things are well kept though. As with some of the other commenters, I prefer shaved the most. Trimmed is good. Wild is not. At that point it’s just common courtesy, honestly. I mean I trim my stuff back so some girl doesn’t have to suck my hair, and I’d hope the same bit of diplomacy was extended my way.
ooo-X3R0-ooo: My wife splits her pubic area in two, her mound and her pussy.
She shaves her mound for her comfort with panties and thongs.
She shaves her pussy because I like.
Have I ever refused to give her oral because she had not shaved, no never.
Does pubic hair turn me off, no absolutely not.
I have a preference and I have a wife who is awesome enough to give me what I like. Never have I demanded her to shave, I asked if she would be willing, she was. Her body her control, all I can do is ask.
neuenono: Trimming is reasonable to expect since it makes oral easier. Pretty much everything else *should* be considered a fashion choice and respected as such. If a guy ever expresses disgust or disappointment at something like that (you choosing to have pubic hair), take it for the red flag it is.
janto98: I also strongly prefer hairless, but don’t assume anything.
mysexdoc: Expect? No.
Stoked if they are? Yes.
All I expect is for it not to be an out of control 70’s bush.
blkgrl_25: I hate to go against the grain (so to speak) but I have noticed a real difference in enthusiasm when I’m waxed vs trimmed. And this has been across the board, from ladies and gents…I’ve experienced…
Fully Waxed = brash, rough, unabashed, shameless, muff-diving.
Cute Trimmed Triangle = careful, intimate, timid, tame, “by the book” oral sex.
Both have been equally satisfying, but totally different. My main take away has been…what makes you happy/comfortable will make your partner happy/comfortable…
(all this is just my experience and my 2 cents…)
rickprice521: Shaved preferably over any hair
blasphemicassault: I used to shave all the time but now I just keep it neat and tidy. I’ve found more people like the hair than they did when I was shaved.
It really comes down to personal preference, but as long as you’re taking care of yourself there really shouldn’t be a problem.
keloidoscope: As an older guy, can just say that neat is really great, then within that, it’s whatever makes each woman feel good. FWIW, I was never into the ’70s bush thing even when that was the era of the porn I had access to.
But I will say, it was a revelation to move on from a long term partner who was naturally fine haired, but wasn’t into oral, and now be with with a woman who has had laser hair removal and is really into receiving head. Wow. Super nice…
PositivelySexual: Honestly I think it just depends on the guy and in particular his experience level and open-mindedness. There is a huge variety of different experiences that guys in their mid-20’s can have. Some might not be very experienced and/or exclusively watch mainstream modern porn and have their expectations skewed by that, those that are more experienced or have been with women that don’t shave or watch more realistic porn will probably not particularly care one way or another.
I think you should just keep yourself groomed the way that you want, and if you encounter a guy that has a problem with it then he can either take it or leave it. Most guys will not leave it.
darklordoftech: I wouldn’t have any expectations one way or the other.
drjamesstone: He won’t think it’s weird if it’s what you prefer. If he thinks it’s weird and you find that weird, I think you’ve found the first speed bump on the FWB highway and you’ll proceed according to how you feel.
Mrrgsx: Smooth is great but I’ll take it just long enough to not be scratchy just the same.
f1del1us: I am 26/m. As long as I’m not wading through a rainforest, a bit down there is quite encouraged. You’re a woman, not a child.
Elephlump: I expect every woman I’m with to be different. I prefer shaved or trimmed, but I expect nothing.
DJ_Molten_Lava: Trim and neatly kept pubic hair is my absolute favourite on a woman..
bobosnubs: Trimmed is fine, most guys don’t mind. Although a very smooth and freshly shaven hooha is always appreciated
skycowboypilot: I am fine with both, but as most others have saidn have a neatly trimme bush should be ok.
fekdav: Whatever they got i can work with
enjoyoutdoors: As always with personal preferences, they differ.
Personally, I prefer trimmed over bare.
The best is always to keep it the way you prefer it.
And, you know. If you get into some kind of permanent arrangement and your partner suggests that you should try going bare, that is easier to do than mysteriously quick growing out something you just shaved of…
stopitnancy: Hey, It’s your body. Do with it as you please. That being said, my personal rule is to shave anywhere I want my partners mouth to go and keep the rest f
trim and tidy. In return I Appreciate the same effort. To me pubic hair is sexy. It’s a display of femininity and masculinity.
Garaharagara: I got out of a 7 year relationship at 27. I find that a shaved labia and trimmed pubis is generally the most accepted. Completely shaven is preferred to a bush but let’s be real, most of the time “completely shaven” means prickly 2-growth which isn’t so comfortable for anyone.
NondenominationalToy: I’m married (40M) and my wife has offered to shave her pubic hair off for me. I’ve always said no. She prefers to have hair down there, and it’s never worried me in the slightest. If she was happy being shaved or waxed, that’s fine too – but I’d never insist on a specific look.
NoThanksJustLooking1: > I have no idea if a guy would be surprised if a woman had pubic hair.
No. No one would be surprised. Completely natural, trimmed, bare… They are all pretty common these days.
Keep it the way you like it and if he says he has a preference then you can decide what to do at that point. Keep it the way you like or go with what he likes as long as you’re not completely against it. The choice is yours.
cbmirada69: I personally like shaved, but trimmed is fine, just not a fan of totally natural, too much to work thru when eating out 😉
ChollaIsNotDildo: I prefer unshaven and trimming makes little to no difference.
But it’s really not that important regardless. If it’s a dealbreaker for someone, I kind of wonder what’s wrong with them.
The_Real_Scrotus: Some guys do, some guys don’t. I prefer my women hairless from the eyes down, but I’m willing to accept neatly trimmed pubic hair. As long as you don’t have an enormous 70s bush, I doubt too many guys will make an issue of it.
nuhartman: I strongly prefer shaved, both for looks and feel (when going down on her). Unfortunately, in China that is really not common, so I don’t expect it.
juke_box_zero: I’m 31, honestly it’s what the girl prefers. Is she does t feel sexy with how she has things down there. I know she’s going to be worried what I think and not get into it. I like a little hair down there. Nothing like down around d the b-hole but a little triangle, landing strip keep it short. Some women with totally shaved look too much like a kid and it keeps me out.
my_perfect_kombi: Frankly, I’m just a big fan of the V so if there’s hair or it’s waxed, it doesn’t make much difference – I know I’m going to enjoy it either way!
jay_jay_man: Out of dozens of girls I hooked up with last year, only one had any significant hair and she had just put herself back on the market after a long relationship with her bf. The second time we hooked up a few weeks later her clam was clean shaven. Most girls were somewhere between clean shave and peach fuzz.
As long as you aren’t rocking a 70’s afro bush I’m good.
stonewallpattern: Well, if u go to the gum, if u make your hair, put makeup, and all that sort of stuff… Guys will expect you got some time for that part of your body too, I guess… But, as said before. Hair or not, is your decision