Any tips for going down on a girl
Hi! I (22 M) love going down on my girlfriend, but would like to get some tips and techniques to get her to want more oral. So far I have tried humming, and getting more touchy while doing the act. It takes me about 10 minutes to get her to orgasm. Is there also anything else I can to do to make her feel good afterwards? I understand that the clit gets overly sensitive to the point of discomfort or pain. (She doesn’t seem to like fingering, even though I try to be as gentle as possible and clip and file my nails). I would really like to explore multiple orgasms with her because I would love a longer session.
pantene2inone: With my wife, if i spend 10. Minutes teasing her, she cums HARD in no time once I start on her clit. If I to right for the clit it takes just as long and often doesnt cum as hard. I kiss lick all round her clit but not actually touch it, then back up her body… kissing… nipples.. more kissing thighs .. getting so close to her clit .. when I finally put my mouth on it and suck lightly she spasms. Getting her to multiple almost always involves piv after..
rainymidnight: try this: do the action above the clit skin, this way she gets all the pleasure without direct contact.
kaseylegg: Glad you want to make a proper effort! Show enthusiasm ♥️. Lick her everywhere except her clit for the first ten minutes – it’s a tease move but it works. Now, this might not be popular with all of us, don’t penetrate with your finger, but apply pressure to her ass at the same time you start to kiss and suck her clit. I promise she will love it – will surprise her a bit but we like that. Let me know how it goes! Remember to penetrate with one finger from the other hand after you have her really wet, or two.
Lizzard-Rambles: The easiest way? Ask her. All vaginas are different and some women love what other women despise. If she doesn’t know what she wants either, spend a day exploring each other. Touch her in different ways with different pressures and ask how she likes it. It’s not as wildly sexy, but it’s more romantic and will help in the long run.
Most importantly though, Whatever She Says Overrides Any Advice We Give.
Good luck, and happy lapping
josh251: How about wide licks from near the bottom of the vagina up to the clit. It’s a bit teasing since you’re getting the lips but not going very deep and not focusing on any area in particular.
lost_in_the_clouds: I think my single most important advice to eating pussy is pacing. Way more important than any technique!!
Women and men have very differently timed sexual response cycles.
I’ll make a few assumptions here. Typically as a man, once I get horny enough, I get hard, and then I can stroke vigorously until I cum.
But for many women, their sexual response is slower. Their desire has to be stoked into a flame with foreplay, time, and gradual teasing. Play with the clit too early or vigorously before she’s properly turned on and she’ll feel overstimulated and have pain.
One thing you can try is edge play and see how she reacts. This is where you slow everything down to build up desire and watch carefully her body language. Make out with her longer than you usually do and see if she seems more aroused (eg moving her hips, nipples get hard). Have more gradual transitions such as kiss her neck and abdomen for awhile, go back to kissing her on the lips. Take your time to even take off her clothes or her bra. She wants you so there’s no hurry to get there. By the time you take off her panties (much later), she should be wet and her clit engorged. Never stop teasing. Kiss the area around her pussy. Let your face brush by her vulva/clit. Let the first lick be a soft tease, barely anything. Take pauses after a lick. Once she can’t take it, you can then give her the release she’s asking for and speed up.
Oh, one last important detail. Never use a dry finger or touch a clit dry. I always at least use my saliva to wet my fingers before I touch her clit or before I insert my fingers.
LabraderpTrickster: I find, personally, multiples are only possible with a small cool down period. Like you said, it gets to be pretty sensitive and sometimes painful which is overwhelming. That doesn’t mean things have to totally stop, just switch things up and move the attention to something else
nyydan: Read the book “she comes first”. Thank me later
blumontecarlo: trace out the AlphaBet with your tongue. start with lower case then again with upper case.
capital T and lower case “i” usually do the trick.
Coin3572: Do alphabet in capitals, then not capitals, and suck on the labia. Get your tongue in there every so often, play with the clit, but avoid teeth. Ain’t got much apart.from.that