I want to try anal but am worried about potential risks. Any advice?
I’ve never tried and have a pretty tight bum. My SO is starting to get quite interested in it and fingering is nice.
I would like to try but I’m worried about how to get started (how to work up to it) and what the long term risks might be (like problems pooping etc)
Do you have any experience of anal sex? Was it good for you and why? Do you have any advice? What are the dos and donts? How do you clean yourself before anal for the comfort of your partner? Any other thoughts?
KinOfAkin: Does anal really make girls orgasm?
sumigaeshibjj: Anal once a week won’t cause you any problems. I think you have to do it all the time for issues to develop.
My basic advice is have the penetrating partner wear a condom. It just makes things easier to clean. Lubrication, like Wicked, is necessary.
Also anal is a feeling thing. You can kind of tell when you want it, you feel focused on your ass and it will be aroused. Those are the best times to do it. So only do it if you are really in the mood for it.
AnEsteemedCactus: If you’re worried about pain it’s all about relaxation! Not just relaxing your bum, but your whole body. If he’s a caring guy have him give you a full body massage and pay special attention to the backs of your legs, thighs, and butt.
1, Don’t try it in doggy.
2, If you’re worried about a mess don’t eat for three or four hours before the deed and make sure to use the bathroom an hour or so before hand. Wash well afterwards.
3, There’s no such thing as too much lube.
4, Push like you’re trying to…go when he’s pushing into you and it’ll go MUCH easier for you.
ryamya: stretch yourself out first. Maybe you can wear butt plugs while having your normal sex, and lead up to it. I wear them during masturbation. I’m not having sex currently, but anal is something i’d like to try when I do, and from previous experiences when I’ve been asked to “try anal” its always been a horrible experience because I wasn’t prepared. LUBE. Lots of it. Get to know your bumhole before he does so that when you do get to it, your body is wanting and opening up for it, rather than fighting the urge to push his cock out.
i_am_barbara: First you have to be relaxed and really want to be in the mood.
Secondly make sure you have plenty of lube. Lube will be your best friend. Put some on you, put some on him, have it handy. Never enough lube.
I found it super easy to insert while I lay on my stomach with one leg straight out and the other knee to my chest (think of how they take a rectal temp).
Make sure you communicate how you’re feeling and that your partner goes slow and listens to you.
Once he’s in start off slow so you can get the feel of it after that you can change into doggy style or whatever position feels best for you. But for insert I found how I listed to be super quick and smooth.
Make sure you’re washing before and after.
Lost-n-Space: As someone who enjoys ana both pitching and catching some observations. Like the other post said explore your bum hole get to know the area inside and out.
The inner sphincter muscle. This muscle will cause you incredible pleasure or intense pain to various degrees. You don’t want the first object, going the other way to be the head of a tallywhacker! I recommend small in diameter dildo made of something like glass or metal or a slim butt plug. You really want something you can slide inside yourself and not only touch the sphincter but eventually slide thru and past. After you have gotten dial in on this area of your body are you going to discover some great pleasure.
Lube your body chemistry is different than everyone else so find samples sizes many different types- silicone or water base; ones that heat up ones the go cool; gels liquid etc etc do not be surprised if your favorite toy lube doesn’t work as well on a penis and vice-versa experiment experiment experiment.
Feels like???? You may heard or read that anal feels like a really hard turd or that your bowels are really full I don’t get that type of sensation don’t let others tell you what you feel Try not going into anal with a preconceived notion
Yes if you keep playing in your butt some where down the line there will be some kind of accident Don’t worry don’t get upset it will happen to almost everyone at some point of there anal sex lifetime.
Prep/poop – if you don’t like the sand don’t play in the sandbox- in other words if a spot of poop on a dick or toy or the smell or the idea that you might get a spot of someone else’s poop on your self cause you to freak out or swoon and pass out. Then don’t have kids and don’t play with anal. As far as prep I am not going to open that up It’s your body you need to figure that out Me I have a very healthy diet and exercise daily so even spontaneous anal I am fairly poop free
Lastly make sure the bf is willing to let you strap one on and peg him Them decide if anal is right for the two of you
syaien: I tried it a few times but it put my body into shock. Gave me cold sweats and made me shake really bad. 0/10 wouldn’t do again.