Losing the ability to form words after hard sex.
Often when I’m very tired, experiencing high anxiety, or talking in my sleep, I will be unable to form words properly, and I end up speaking in complete gibberish. Still using normal sentence structure but the words are just babble, and I don’t consciously “think” any words that I’m saying although I’m aware that I’m trying to communicate; it feels as though it bypasses any language consciousness in my brain.
This has been happening recently when I have very rough sex. I’m 21F and I really need sex to be incredibly rough and/or deeply kinky (ie hardcore BDSM dynamics) to be enjoyable at all. Normally when the issue happens, this is just for a few minutes during sex, when I’m totally in the moment and it’s very intense and awesome. Recently though, I had a very emotionally intense scene with my partner, it was awesome but I started to lose the ability to speak towards the end and this lasted for about half an hour afterwards. I felt very tired and the ability to speak came back gradually as I recovered and had some water. Understandably, for my partner this was quite confusing and frightening. I was conscious during it and was aware of how it sounded. I was able to type of messages on my phone but I was quite shaky and uncoordinated.
Should I be concerned about this? There haven’t been any long lasting effects. Has anyone else experienced anything similar and found any ways to deal with it?
MeriDianeMeri: I get transient aphasia during migraines, your experience sounds very similar.
As I recall it has to do with unusual electrical activity in the brain.
Maybe it’s possible (being close to) orgasm triggers the same mechanism as a migraine. Go see a neurologist, just to be sure nothing more serious is going on.
Kit4000: Could this have been sub space? This happens to me sometimes to the point where i expect it. Not even during sex. If I have an impact scene with an unfamiliar partner (which is rare) I have to tell my tops we may need hand signals because I tend to go non verbal.
Ay home, even with intense vanilla sex it happens and my husband has gotten accustomed to it (and gets pretty pleased with himself :). I believe this is just part of my sub space. Maybe your partner took you to a new level.
Pleather_Boots: I’ve had that happen as well, but I’d define the feeling as pleasurable – probably something like sub space.
My partner learned to understand it and I’d just make a motion to him that I wasn’t talking for a while.
I mean I COULD talk if I needed to, but it felt like a major effort to put words together. And like you, it would be after a fairly intense bdsm session.
Ultimately, I get more “with it” after ~ 30 minutes passes.