UFC Ring Girl Arianny Celeste
I keep seeking out sex with strangers from out of town
It’s a shame I had to waste this username on a throwaway but alas here we are.
I have recently found myself turned on by and seeking out sex with strangers–generally people from tinder who are visiting from out of town. This is after years of basically being repressed AF because I hated my body after a serious struggle with bulimia. So now it’s kind of going in the opposite direction…
I started by vetting by having conversations for a while and only meeting if I felt safe, including talking on the phone or meeting in public, but I’m now at the point where I will meet right away at his house or hotel and it’s not the safest decisions I’ve been making lately. I haven’t done this too many times but I am constantly thinking about it.
I don’t really need a lecture about how this is dumb or unsafe. I at insist on condoms and am on birth control. I just really want to hear if anyone else feels this way or if you have any tips for having semi-anonymous sex semi-safely.
TBH this isn’t what I WANT in the long term but right now I feel like I need to get it out of my system. I’d in theory rather be with the same person again and again but it’s just easier for me to avoid any feels before the fact. Most of the men I’ve met I would hook up with again or even date but they don’t live nearby, and if they did I doubt I would have met them in the first place. So am I sabotaging myself? Is this just normal fucking around or do I need therapy lol?
I feel both really good about exploring my sexuality and not giving a fuck but also kind of crappy and lonely. I go back and forth. I don’t think I feel WORSE doing this than not though.
morerandompostsaz: I used to travel for work quite a bit and met a number of women on Tinder similar to you.
Personally, I never thought any less about any of them wanting to meet me for sex. We both knew why we were meeting, were respectful of each other during and afterward. I had a lot of fun and know that they did too.
As long as you’re being reasonably safe about it, don’t beat yourself up over it.
AlliThinkAboutisSex: I don’t see what the problem is. I live in Vegas and the overwhelming majority of women I and my peers slept with are tourists from other states or countries, at their hotel rooms. Pretty par for the course out here. It’s interesting how unbringing/environment changes people’s perspectives
samicita: Just be safe 🙂
the_inamorata: A couple of years ago, I went on a similar-type sex bender as a way of working out some things that might have been better dealt with in other ways. I tried to be honest with myself and the people I engaged with about my motivations and if I ever felt uncomfortable, I made sure to stand my ground and not be forced into anything. I also always had someone to call for help or a ride needed, which I think would be especially important if you’re meeting with complete strangers. I also made sure to be safe and use condoms and get tested often.
For all that though, there is still a lot of risk, not just to your physical health, but your mental/emotional health. I found that as time went on, I began to devalue myself and would find people who would treat me as I saw myself. It took a really abusive relationship to break free from that downward spiral. I’m still recovering in ways and feel stronger for it, but I honestly feel like I could have done without those experiences because they’ve stunted me in other ways.
However you decide to go about it, I understand and support you. If you need someone to talk to about this stuff, you can PM me if you like. Good luck.
Sorry for the long comment and possible lack of coherence.
Kantina: Please insist on condoms. Be safe. Get checked regularly.