If you’re reading this, odds are you’re curious about using cannabis to enhance your lovemaking and make it more sensual. I have ideas. I have techniques. All that aside, the most important thing for you is the answer to the question, “What’s getting in the way of you incorporating sensuality into your lovemaking right now?”
I’m going to approach this question from a perspective of tackling the things that tend to get in the way of having sensual, connected sexy fun times with partners. The following three factors and their subsets are things I hear all the time from people who attend my workshops and clients who do relationship coaching with me. You’re not alone!
Perhaps you have kids. Perhaps you have a busy career. Perhaps you and your partner don’t even live in the same area. Many hear “sensual lovemaking” and envision a scene with candles, rose petals, soft lights, and a soundtrack of your choice blaring over the speakers – and it sounds time-consuming. This can be true, but it doesn’t have to stop you – it just means you have to plan ahead.
If you have kids – hire a sitter. Even if you can only do a couples’ night every few weeks or every few months as budgets allow, put it on the calendar well in advance, get a sitter, and block off the time. I’m a huge fan of scheduling sex, and especially for the sensual kind we’re talking about here, it is nice to have a full evening in which to create it.
If the issue is a hectic schedule or conflicting schedules, the same idea applies. Get a night or a weekend on the calendar a few weeks in advance and agree that you’re going to experiment with sensuality during that time as a way of setting expectations. If you have a time crunch – work with it, not against it. If you legitimately only have five minutes to do this, decide who will be the giver and receiver in this interaction and spend every second of those five minutes giving your partner pleasure and appreciation.
If you’re a long distance couple, or one of you travels frequently for work, make regular dates to video chat. Video chat incorporates more senses than a phone call or messaging and since we are focused on sensuality, incorporating more senses is ideal. Try dirty talk! It doesn’t have to be raunchy and explicit (although that’s awesome too) – it could be telling your partner how much they turn you on or the things you love about their body or what it feels like when you’re together. Your favorite strain can help relax your expectations and inhibitions in a rewarding way.