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Do men just not care about protected sex?
I’m generalizing, but I’ve been hooking up with multiple men lately and all of them have asked to have sex with a condom. Most were dudes that didn’t really know me (bars, tinder) but were totally comfortable having unprotected sex. They’re defense is always “It’s not a big deal, I can pull out/you’re on birth control” but like… STI’s do exist. I just don’t get it and it turns me off. Pretty sure they probably sleep with all girls unprotected.
peonzachan: I can’t tell about other guys, but for me is a turn off doing unprotected in one night stands. I’m putting condom off only if I know the girl well and can pretty much be sure she’s clean (even that way there are risks).
SnowFox122: Its so annoying when they say “oh I can just pull out” precum can also contain viruses.
magneticpenis: I’ve had similar experiences, and it makes me fucking livid. The men who shame women for getting pregnant or contracting STD’s are usually the same ones who beg and whine to do it without a condom on the first time.
solidad: I know I certainly do but I was also a swinger for a time and that got drilled into my head (have protection for at the very least for penetrative sex and sometimes oral if you feel the need) along with the common-sense approach that “you don’t know what you are sticking your dick (or in other words know where it’s been) into so unless we both go to a clinic and get tested, I am at least using a condom.”
I think many guys are of the mind that “it will never happen to me” and that’s really stupid. And you are generalizing. There are lots of guys that insist on condom usage. You should be very weary of the ones that don’t. And I don’t care if the “pull-out method” is effective. I’ll still take an actual barrrier over “self-control any day.
ScorpioLoverboy: I refuse to have unprotected sex, and actually prefer the girl to be on bc as well because I don’t want everything to rest on me. The last girl I had sex with wasn’t on bc and it was hard for me to maintain my erection. No unprotected sex for me ever. I don’t care who it is. I wear a condom every single time.
Fionaxoxo: “My pull out game is strong” alright some men do have strong pull out games but that doesn’t stop you giving me the clap you twat, put that Johnny on.
justatossthatway: What’s that sound I hear? It’s child support enforcement going door to door.
You’re right, STIs exist. People lie about birth control or use it incorrectly. Don’t do something you do not want to do.
Not all men are like what you described. But enough of them are.
Myfairladyishere: I refuse to have unprotected sex..if they do not care about their own health why should they care about mine..unprotected sex is a big desl
white_titty_lover: The problem is that so many guys are unlucky but pretend they are lucky. A lot of those guys you were hooking up with probably have only had sex a few times so they are trying to get the most out of their opportunity.
Anyone who has sex frequently knows it’s stupid to have unprotected sex and it’s not worth it. I mean sure it’s enjoyable to come inside of a girl or feel her fluids on your penis. But at the end of the day wearing a condom does not diminish the experience that much.
And as someone who has worked in the medical field before trust me a lot of people have STIs. More than you would think and more than get reported.
anxiousari: This stresses me out, too! I’m not just worried about getting pregnant, STDs are still a thing! And if they’re willing to sleep with you without a condom, they probably don’t use them very often with other people either.
broken23x3: What I’m about to say sounds horrible. But people who have no problem having unprotected sex with someone they just met are the people I have ZERO sympathy for when they contract something. That’s an instant deal breaker for me. Such a turn off as well, how many other people got that same no condom treatment? Not worth the risk to me, and if it is to them, we’re beyond incompatible.
neuenono: The thing I don’t get about this is… don’t they realize that their nonchalance sends the clear and immediate message that they’re super high risk individuals?
> I’ve been hooking up with multiple men lately and all of them have asked to have sex with a condom.
Just FYI I think you accidentally a word here…
iliketoexcel: Who is your best friend? Condom and a common sense!
oooootandaboooot: Some men don’t care about using condoms for whatever reason but most do. My first bf didn’t like using them but we definitely used them when we first met. Other ex bf didn’t have a problem wearing them.
captainthor: Some men simply have a big section of their brain turned off where sex is concerned.
But too, I think men generally don’t want anything, even a thin condom, between them and a woman during sex. Mostly for pleasure reasons. But some might like the vicarious thrill of possible impregnation, too; even if they wouldn’t like it actually taking place.
I’m an old guy; this is just my own opinion on the matter.
Europaenceladus: It’s not just men who are like that.
shady_nasty_mf: I care, for most of my life I had sex in a condom then I came down with mild ED. For some reason unknown to me, I can now only maintain an erection if I’m going in raw. I never had fantasies about going raw, it just happened. I’ve never even asked to go raw, it’s always the girls that initiate it. I have never even mentioned any ED issues with girls (too ashamed admit I use Viagra when I’m doing it in a condom or at all at the age of 31). What I think might be happening is that they notice my erection immediate starts to get soft the moment the condom go on and they usually roll it back off and throw it to the side.
This has never happened on the first time though, it’s normally after we know each other at least for a few weeks.
sfmark12: I can’t imagine having unprotected sex. I’d just be worrying about what kind of life disease is gonna hit me
larrieuxa: i would never have sex with a guy that had that attitude, even if he did end up putting on a condom. he is more likely to have an STI, and you can still catch it from him even if he does agree to the protection.
pherislore: Tbh i’m starting to get worried about the inverse of this question…so many women I meet don’t mention condoms at all…they go bareback and then I will pull out a condom when they just continue things normally. Kind of mind-fucks me. I’m usually the one to mention it at all. They are completely unfazed and haven’t really thought about the risks of STDs (never mind pregnancy…)
jman12311: I think it’s because A lot of common STIs can be treated and since aids won’t kill them immediately then it isn’t a cause for concern at the time. Me I always wear a condom.
liquor_in_the_front: I mean condomless sex feels great. But I think people in general aren’t caring about protected sex really. Bc none of these guys would be okay with having unprotected sex if they weren’t finding sex partners willing to have unprotected sex
MistressesSnowSlut: I’m in a committed relationship but if I were doing a ONS, I’d bring condoms! A lot of men are shitty about it, yes, but not all of us.
MemberKablaam: At first I thought it feels good and I’m gonna a die anyway, but the more I think about it, there’s a good chance our generation could figure out how to stop aging. So I’ve used condoms since then so I don’t get an STD and I can morally sleep with more women.
texasfella3: I’ve had the complete opposite. Almost every woman I’ve spent a night with would insist on no condom because it’s “not the same”
wether it was the first or 5th time, same complaint, but it goes on since I’m not looking to ruin my life one way or the other
Adamantanium: I’m not having sex with a condom. Waste of time for me. Akin to swimming in a fucking pool without feeling the water.
I don’t fuck random women, all of the women I sleep with are trustworthy and if they don’t take my word on the issue of cleanliness oh well. I’ll move on.
I am aware of how reckless this is but I don’t care. If I did I would’ve been having diet sex for the past ten years. Instead I’ve had a lot of fun with no issues. I might change my tune once I hit my 30s, though hopefully by then I’ll be settled with someone.
UnfruitfulAfterlife: It is weird. I only wear condoms with hookers. Otherwise I am smashing away raw dog.