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Please help me (20F) understand this guy (27M) in bed!
Keeping it simple: I’m going out with this dude. The first time we went out, we had sex. We were going at it when SUDDENLY he pulled out, stood up and took his condom off. I thought he had ejaculated, but then he put another condom on immediately and went back to what we were doing? Like it was nothing?
I brushed it off, because we were really drunk and bodies are all different. Anyway.
We went out again and once more, fucked. Then he did the same thing again? I imagined the first day he had been feeling unconfortable or some shit, but he did just the same thing in the middle of it. And we were sober. Also he always last like five minutes. Is this normal behaviour? I’ve had a few male partners before and nothing like this ever happened. He’s a bit shy, doesn’t talk much during sex, even when I ask him questions, so I didn’t say anything.
I know maybe the best action course is to straight up ask him what’s up with that, but I can’t imagine myself asking that without laughing and he’s so sweet and good to me. I don’t him to feel bad. Thanks!
PM_UR_NSFW_ALT: It does sound like he ejaculated. Continuing to fuck with a filled condom risks breakage or leaking out the base.
TinkerBob7926: I’m actually super curious so please ask him and let me know, I can’t think of what it could be.
Also, I’m a little vicariously annoyed at the fact that he’s doing something unusual during sex and not explaining like??? We’re both in this??? Let me into your nasty world???
CurvedD16: Maybe he was looking for an excuse for a pause so that he WOULDNT ejaculate.
ExpensiveRelative: Sometimes when I wear a condom it can feel a little uncomfortable after a while (usually longer than 5 min though) and I will put on a fresh one just so it feels better on my penis.
But you should definitely ask him about it
inspector4you: Yep, when I was younger I had done that a time or two. Ejaculated, but still hard and raring to go, so did a condom switch.
Power_Pole_Extend: I’ve done something similar before with my girlfriend. She wasn’t particular very wet and there was a lot of friction on the condom where I could feel it close to breaking on my dick, so I switch to a new condom and applied some lube.
NotoriousRekt: Just to reiterate what I’ve already said…
He’s cuming and swapping to a new condom. No one wants a random baby and to keep going after you’ve came risks the condom breaking.
I haven’t used condoms in years (married), but I usually shoot some ropes within 8min, but don’t go limp. Can keep it rock hard like an old man on Viagra…longest was 45min…but then it starts to hurt and feel sick.
Wife doesn’t mind the brief interruption. He’s probably a bit embarrassed that he is cuming so quickly, but if he can keep it hard…..it’s no biggie.
fulanoderock: He might be paranoid about finishing in you and doesn’t want to risk having a kid. Don’t think he finished and slapped on a new one right away and kept banging you cuz it kinda goes limp for some guys. When I cum I have to wait a good 20 to make it come back up, but again all guys are different.
endurar: Most likely he had a weird vibe about the condom. Sometimes I’ll get super paranoid that a condom is about to rip, or it’s kind of riding up on my dick. I’ll check it, everything will be ok, then the condom will rip a couple minutes later.
This only really happens to me during really rough sex, when we’re just fucking the hell out of each other.
One time this happened (weird vibe, checked, all ok, ripped), and I didn’t realize it ripped. And… I busted inside her. Plan B time, stat.
Now, I just swap condoms if I get a weird vibe from the feel, instead of second guessing and checking.
$2 to prevent a pregnancy, sign me up
That said, I’ll say something like “One sec, I want to switch to a new condom, I want you to play with yourself”, so I’m not just pulling out and randomly walking away to get a condom. That’d be pretty autistic.
LexSenthur: Could be the condom broke? Or was about to? Or was just low on lube?
imfromkentucky: The condom could have broke as well
Quailpower: If hes putting out a lot of precum, that can make the condom slip and move, either coming off completely or tearing.
deeznutzchrist: I usually do that if the condom is coming off.
waterbottle73: Maybe he thought it was precum or something? So he is trying to be extra safe?
oceanscales: Why would you not ask him about it *while it happened*?
Zero-Miedo: He is reloading lol
carlofonovs: I’ve changed condoms without cuming maybe a few times. Especially when I felt the condom drying up on the lube. I get paranoid that it will break.
boatsbeaton: The first few times I sleep with a new girl, I get ridiculously horny and want marathon sex. I’ll often cum, then pull out and switch the condom. I usually tell her that’s what I’m doing though.
Just ask him about it
sunandsand55: Maybe he produces a lot of pre-cum? Some guys do and others don’t, perhaps it made the condom too slippery and he wanted a fresh one? Just throwing this out as a possibility, I’m not a guy and I’ve not had that happen.
TizardPaperclip: > We went out again and once more, fucked. Then he did the same thing again?
You’re asking us? We weren’t even there. Did you see him do it again? If so, he probably did.
yesmissy: First thought was maybe it broke. But that should’nt just happen repeatedly.
JoeyHiya: I think he is worried about how long condoms last, so he puts on a new one after so many minutes/strokes. If you can control him a little (either keep him in, or get on top) and let him know “it’s OK” when he wants to switch condoms, maybe that can open up a dialogue.