What’s the best way to find a male FWB?
I’m a lonely 27 year old woman. I don’t want a sad, alienating sexual experience. I would like to fall in love but that seems unlikely because I like very few people that I meet. So I think the most realistic option for me is a FWB. I don’t know anyone suitable so I want to meet a new person.
I’ve never had a FWB before so I have no idea how to find one or what to look for. Any advice?
CJ198085: A question: Why go into the whole thing affixing labels, limits, and expectations from the get go?
Maybe instead of looking for a FWB or “THE ONE” (caps added for sarcasm), just look for cool people you’re attracted to and want to be around. Allow the exact nature of the relationship to evolve into whatever it will naturally be.
RandomStain: lightly clear your throat in any public place
_nope16: Tinder, boo. It’s free and it connects you w local guys who want the same thing as you!
cromulently_so: There are “friends with benefits” it seems and “friends with benefits” where the difference is that you are “friends” with one and not the other. That one seems to be even harder to acquire than a lover apparently so if you’re fine with not speaking to each other at all outside of sex it’s apparently super easy to go on Tinder and get one since everyone goes to Tinder apparently with the intention to get that.
misterfourex: Do you have any hobbies or interests that could lead to meeting someone who could help out?
MizToniOlu: Online dating. Most men just want fwb.
Agent_Darkbooty_: Online dating is way easier for women so try that. You pretty much get to choose from a sea of men.
definitelynotpietro: throw something out of your window
Dirtylovegames: Consider the swinging community. Many couples are looking for safety and security in FWB partners, and they are fully supportive of you maintaining your autonomy in whatever you choose to do.
Also, many swingers play separately with “trusted” partners, so if playing with a wife is not in your interests, there are men out there that have permission to establish FWB relationships. I would encourage, at the very least, having a friendly rapport with the wife to prevent any guys from misrepresenting who they are or what they are about.
khaleesiwithDDDs: I was in a relationship for 8 years until about 6 months ago. It honestly didn’t take any effort at all find FWBs. I’ve got a rotation of regulars because one just isn’t enough for me, but I’m not typical in that respect. I found the first of them through an app called Whisper. It’s an anonymous app sort of like Post Secret. I just recently made an OkCupid profile and there’s an unlimited supply of potentials there. You’ve just got to put yourself out there. Talk to people. Find someone or a few someones you click with. It really is ridiculously easy when you’re female. The comment about lightly clearing your throat is pretty accurate lol. Good luck, be safe, and most of all HAVE FUN!
ABoutDeSouffle: Go visit local poly-method, there you can get to know people first. Or okcupid
SteveSmith1933: Go to an upscale bar and hang out, soon someone will hit on you.
edubkendo: Try posting in /r/dirtyr4r and just be very specific about what you are looking for.
deadfisher: It doesn’t sound like you want a FWB. It sounds like you want a partner. Just sayin’
Alanyinyang: Hit up your single male friends. Chat about your feelings over a drink.
cocomontey: There are two options:
– an existing friend/acquaintance (you seem to be against this)
– Tinder. On Tinder (or indeed Bumble), you can curate the choices available. Furthermore, you can directly ask them about their sexual preferences.
Another option within the above options is a virgin or similarly inexperienced person. The plus is that you set ALL the rules and expectations. They most likely will be committed to having sex and it can be safe.
tfresca: Date lots of people. Make one of them a friend if you think he’s worthy. Then add the benefits. It will also help if you aren’t that picky. Look for a good guy that could be fun.
lethrowz: Heh I’m the same as you, even same age looking for a FWB but got the cards stacked against me as a nerdy male 🙁
Fanywe: İf you sere in ma Area it would have been great. Maybe go out to some place who know you will meet someone.