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How to Pick Up Girls on the Street
Pickup Metrics: If for example you were going to take me to the streets of LA right now and we saw some hot girls walking along the street, how would you advise I go and approach them and get their number?
Ross Jeffries: Well, I wouldn’t do any of that, what I would do first is work with you. I would assess you to see what your current skill set is. Each student I work with personally when I do that, I’m not cheap but I guarantee my work, I think I’m the only person who does.
I’d create a state where you’re grounded in your body and you’re outwardly focussing your attention and you’re playful. Rather than having to get a result you’re perfectly fine and playful whether or not you get the results you want. And I’d also show you how to handle any kind of approach anxiety. So first thing I’d do is make sure you’re in the right state.
The second thing I’d do is show you how to make sure we’d do what I call a “Bail Out Anchor”, which means if you’re in the field and you start to collapse again I would show you something to do to get back in the state.
I also want to change your metaphor. The idea of approaching someone. I don’t like that metaphor, because it implies that you’re going up to them somehow and when you say “walk up” it implies something, it eliminates the possibility of walking beside someone or talking to someone who happens to be in a coffee shop. I don’t like the metaphor. It’s a bad metaphor.
I just would prefer to think of it as engaging people in a fun way. So, having said all of that, there are a couple of basic approaches that we can use. Oh and there’s one more thing I want to point out – the idea that you wanna get the phone number. This is a common, a huge mistake and the mistake is that guys are aiming for the behaviours they want with women. They want to get the behaviour of “hey give me your phone number”. Well you can walk up to someone and hold a gun to her head and say “give me your phone number or you’re dead” – You got the phone number but did you get your outcome?
So what you really want to do is not get a phone number. You want to create states of intrigue and fascination and curiosity and leaving her and having her hungry for more. Once you do that the phone number becomes secondary.
You know I’ve had situations where I’ve talked to women who were sitting at the bar at a hotel and they’re in town for just the night and I’m not gonna get their phone number, they wanna go upstairs.
One of the things I teach in Speed Seduction and the things that I think the other morons out there aren’t getting is they’re too focussed on the behaviour. In my experience coming from a background of NLP and Ericsoniun hypnosis, my approach is to say, “wait a minute”, first think about the states of mind and the emotions you want that woman feeling, and how you can create them.
Initially I would help you to create states of curiosity and intrigue and playfulness. In that first five to ten minutes you wanna get her curious, you wanna get her intrigued, you wanna get some playfulness and some comfort and a little bit of sexual tension.
There’s a lot of different ways. There’s so many different ways. Depending on where I’m at. Here in LA we have a lot of these health food stores, you know, they sell organic food and vitamins and all that other stuff, so I’ll walk down the aisle and make some kind of comment based on what’s going on, doesn’t matter. Then I’ll say, “two questions, are you allergic to cats and do you smoke?” They have to say “no and no”. If they say yes, then I’ll say “sorry deal killer”, because those are deal killers. But if they say “no and no” I’ll say “great, because any other answer would be a deal killer. I think you’re kind of cute”. And so right away I’m coming in and just creating a little bit of fun and curiosity. Something like that.
I’ve done things like, make a comment to a woman, comment about anything. And then I’ll say “so are you ready?”, and they say “ready for what?”, and I’ll say “ready for your reward for all those horrible dates that you’ve been going out on”. Then I introduce myself and say I’m so and so etc.
Here’s one that’s worked for me multiple times:
Let’s say you see a woman in a restaurant, or she’s sitting down somewhere. Let’s say for whatever reason you don’t feel particularly comfortable walking right up to her (I’ve done this many times). What I will do is I’ll see her and then I’ll pretend to walk away or I’ll actually walk out the restaurant, then I’ll turn around, come back and say “excuse me, I was leaving, actually I took a couple of steps out the door but when I saw you, you stopped me dead in my tracks and I had to come and talk to you”. That’s so flattering like WOW – I stopped dead in my tracks! Or you can even do it if you’re in passing in the street. You walk over and say “excuse me, I was going that way but when I saw you, you stopped me dead in my tracks and I had to come over”. See?
Pickup Metrics: How would you then quickly escalate the sexual tension?
Ross Jeffries: Let’s be very clear about something. I don’t teach things to progress in a linear way. Let me give you a metaphor here. Imagine we have a ball, like a sphere the size of a soccer ball and it’s empty and transparent. I put a little bit of playfulness and humour and I bounce it over to the girl. She kind of feels it, maybe puts some humour back in and bounces it back to me. Maybe I then put something in to get her curiosity going and bounce it back to her. Maybe she puts in some sincerity and bounces it back to me. Or maybe she puts in some sexual tension. I don’t know.
Sooner or later that ball grows so big, now it’s not something I’m bouncing back and forth between she and I, now it’s grown so big we both have our hands on it at the same time and with just a little bit of will, a little bit of intent, that ball suddenly becomes something that surrounds the two of us. I’m using a metaphor here because I don’t like the idea that first you get comfort, then you get something else. It’s better than having guys flail away but it’s not really accurately mapping the way things work.
The fact in the matter is that humans, particularly women, can have simultaneous emotions going on at the same time. And they can jump back and forth between them. Trying to do things in a linear fashion, which is the way I taught back in the nineties – it’s better than having nothing to do, but it’s not the closest match.
So there’s a lot of ways to build the sexual part, a lot of that is leaning into her space, creating a sexual vibe in my own body that’s very subtle, so no matter what I do it’s conveyed in my voice, it’s conveyed in how long I keep eye contact, it’s conveyed in me putting in some sexual metaphors, like I’ll say “you certainly seem like someone who wants to feel a very large happiness in your life, in fact, someone who finds it easily to find a happiness”.
The important thing before wondering about conveying sexual tension or a sexual vibe is how do you create it in yourself. So it has got the following qualities, because the distinction between a sexual vibe and a horny vibe is this – a sexual vibe is grounded, meaning you feel your feet on the ground.
One of the exercises I would teach you and anyone who wants private coaching through me is to put 20% of their attention on the feeling of their feet on the ground at all times. All times, all times. So it’s grounded in the body.
Second it has a dominant flavour to it. You can have a sexual vibe but it’s passive. So it’s dominant and it’s subtle. Guys who come on like mmmm nice body baby – they’re dominant and they can be grounded but it’s too obvious. It’s grounded, it’s dominant, it’s subtle and finally it’s playful.
A lot of this is inner work. I’ll teach you how to create that. Creating that involves working with your body, working with your breath and working with movement. This is why I’m more and more moving my business to working with people personally because this is not the easiest thing to teach at a seminar. I prefer to work with people personally now.
Let me give you a metaphor: If I took a sheet of copper and a sheet of cardboard and I said to you I want you to send an electric current down both of these, which one is going to conduct the electricity better?
Pickup Metrics: The copper.
Ross Jeffries: Of course. You know that. So considering your vibe could be a conductive medium, then your communication – anything you actually say or do is the current that you send down it.
So if you’re walking around you could have the best current in the world, you know, great electrons, high quality electrons but if your conductive medium is cardboard it’s not gonna get you too much. You’re still gonna rely on luck. And this is why I emphasises your conductive medium, if you get the metaphor is that inner state – your inner state. And it has got more to do with confidence, I mean confidence is nice but you can’t just be confident. Once definition is you’re just certain. It can be a false certainty. But it’s not embodied. You can say I teach embodied confidence if you want. It’s very, very, very important. I’m not talking about body language, or working out here…
…I want you to think of it like this. If you do a martial art, if you’re a boxer, the first thing they teach you is the footwork. Then they teach you to punch. They teach you balance and footwork. Balance, footwork and awareness. So think of it like a martial art. I’m training that bit first. And you can see the problem with every other teacher is they’re not getting into this level of depth. They’re misdefining confidence as only being certain. By the way, how can you be certain that you’ll do something right when you don’t have a history of doing something right?
Listen. Fake it till you make it is better than not doing anything at all. I’m not saying that what other Pickup Artists are teaching is totally wrong, it’s vastly incomplete. But it’s better than nothing.
If you’re interested in private coaching, what we do first is conduct a free 15 minute Skype interview. I usually take about half the people. (I only work with people when I can guarantee their results). If you’re interested in coaching with me just write ross [at] seduction [dot] com – subject: Private Coaching.
And finally, I’ll be coming to England in either June or July, I’ll be co-teaching a co-seminar with Haley Quinn, who I consider the only person in the world worthy to share a stage with me. Hayley is killing it and she’s only a kid compared to me.