First hookup was super affectionate?
I had a boyfriend in the past who was not affectionate at all during sex. Shortly after, he started assaulting me, but that’s not the point. I recently hooked up with a guy and he was so affectionate during it.
He kissed me on my forehead and my nose, rubbed my back, held me really tightly. Like we would be fooling around and then we would start cuddling. And then back to sex again. He also wanted me to stay the night but I decided against it.
Is this common? Because honestly it turned me on so much more. Making me think that he cared somewhat. I’ve realized I can’t have sex without some emotion and I’m not sure what the means for me going forward.
drivincryin: Some guys are, Some guys aren’t. Now you know though what you definitely like. If you hook up with non-affectionate guys, don’t fuck ‘em a second time.
TonightSheComes: It’s foreplay and the more foreplay the better. I think rubs and massages are underrated honestly.
Siris0: Most hookups are not super affectionate so you probably got lucky
AsiatiquePassif: Agreed. Some guys are and some aren’t. You need to know what you like, and now you have discovered it. Go forth and find those men.
soffselltacos: Wow, I have a very similar ex and then had a very similar experience. I hooked up with a guy and it was so gentle and intimate and I couldn’t believe I had been missing this for so long. This guy and I are now coming up on a year of dating bc I just had to keep him.
SkittlesCrypto: I can’t have sex without intimacy and emotion. Without it, it just feels like I’m using the body/sort of just masturbating ?
Massaria: Most men I’ve hooked up with are not affectionate, many leave immediately after sex, though I’ve had a couple stayed for an hour or so after in the wind down phase and just chat. I’ve only experienced two that were affectionate and it definitely makes it way better for me. So I’d say lucky you on this one!