When you’re in a relationship for a while, sex can start to become more of a routine than a lusty romp. Learn how to make sex with your lover as exciting as a one night stand at a party with this sexual role play guide for beginners!
Sexual role play isn’t unheard of, and most of us may even have indulged in it without actually realizing it.
Even the most passionate sex can run out of passion and even the most intimate acts of sexual ecstasy can run out of steam after a while.
It’s at times like these when sexual role play and costumes can save your bedroom woes, and help you reignite the passion in the sack.
Sexual role play for beginners
When you’re ready to take sex to the next level, sexual role playing can be the perfect way to heighten your pleasure. [Read: How to talk dirty in bed]
Sexual role play makes it easier to look into your deepest desires and reveal them to your partner.
You may have tried every position under the sun, but after a while, the different positions can just get boring, and become a mighty pain in your backside or some other part. Instead, be creative and indulge in a bit of sexual role playing.
Many people love sexual role playing and even celebrities like Christina Aguilera, Katy Perry and Russell Brand have confessed that they love role playing. Christina’s even revealed that she loves dressing up for sex, and has different costumes to suit her moods. Her favorite seems to be the nurse’s outfit.
And don’t we know about Russell Brand’s sex tip to Wills and Kate? “Spice up things in the bedroom by pretending to be French”
Or wait, did he mean a French maid costume?
The problems with good ol’ sex
You’re probably having sex occasionally with your lover, but there may be a few times when things move a little too fast, and even before you know it, the deed’s done. If you’re the guy, you may not want it to end, but sometimes due to pressure of performance or any other reason, you may just not be able to hold on long enough [Read: How to prevent premature ejaculation]. Or if you’re a girl, you might find things a bit too painful because you’re just not ready for the stick to slip into a wet patch.
These are just a few things that can be a big turn off in bed, even if it happens once in a while. But when these things get repeated every now and then, sex can become as frustrating as a bad day at work. [Read: Tips on turning a guy on]
The main problem with sex is that foreplay can take too long, or one of you may just want to have mad sex rather than please the other person. Now that may seem selfish, but everyone has one of those days when they just want a change in their monotonous see-saw.
You’ll just have to make sure this sort of inconsiderate sex doesn’t happen all the time. But whatever may be the case, sex can become a bore after a while, unless you innovate. [Read: How to bring sexy back]
What exactly is sexual role play?
Sexual role playing is the method by which you heighten your sexual arousal by re-enacting a scenario, and wooing or seducing your partner, in a manner that arouses them just as much as it arouses you.
Basically, sexual role play is a game of seduction where you and your partner enact different characters, and dress up just like the character and make sexual advances at each other. You could be the ‘doctor’ while your partner could be the ‘patient’, or just about any different scenario that arouses you. Santa and the naughty elf, anyone?
Most of the time, sex just happens without any preparation or planning. Someone decides to get horny, and habit and repetition has taught us enough to know how it’s supposed to feel. Five or maybe twenty minutes later, one of you rolls off and the other probably feigns death. With sexual role play, this would never happen, because you know you’re a part of an act that will eventually end with sex.
The whole time you’re thinking about nothing but sex, and you’re getting aroused thinking about it, and you can’t wait to pounce on your mate. [Read: Fun on the beach]
Learning to role play sexually
Sexual role play cannot be learnt from a book or from someone else’s mouth, it has to be experienced. And you’ll have to understand what turns you and your partner on better than the other role playing characters. But once you’re comfortable with the act of sexual role play and costumes, sex can become as exciting as your first night together, because, literally speaking, the person you’re having sex with is, a totally different character!