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PSA: Don’t have sex in changing rooms. (public sex)
I see it come up a lot when people talk about finding places to have sex in public., but I’ve worked changing rooms and here is why it’s a dick move.
I know what you’re doing. It’s about as subtle as a teenage boy at a swimming pool, and everyone thinks they are getting away with it when in reality it can be for multiple reasons (not paid enough, social anxiety, actually don’t care). This is a very sex positive sub Reddit, so it can be hard to remember that sex can make some people very uncomfortable and causing that discomfort to a stranger in public/at their place of work is really really rude.
It’s not just me, there are kids and families and just other people too. All of the above applies to them, and the more people the more likely one of them is going to have a bad time with it. Also could be taking a room someone could need for it’s intended purpose. But you go when it’s slower it puts more pressure on the attendant.
What I don’t know is the specifics. I don’t know if you are full on having sex and wiping it on the clothes I’ll later have to pick up. I don’t know if she is going to swallow and leave no mess. I don’t know what you did on that bench, and now I either have to get all up in that room to clean it, or let the little girl that comes after you sit on it to put on her pants. Sure, you might not be the rudest or messiest about it, but it’s not like I know that.
You are making your kinks my problem without my consent or any of the others around you. Also, those rooms are filthy af.
And no, not getting caught isn’t all that matters. It’s about not putting others in a position they don’t want to be in and that makes them uncomfortable. Definition of a dick move. Sure, say the odds of you getting caught are slim (not that every time people are caught they know about it.) you are determining for others that your pleasure is more important than the risks for making their day worse. Again, literally the definition of a dick move.
Edit: Libraries, cinemas, and airplanes. These things apply to more than just retail workers, and in general just try to live life without being too much of a dick (or cunt).
Edit 2: You can often tell a couple that is going in to have sex vs a couple that is going in to help disability or just to sit down and give opinions. Know that it may be against company policy because others have abused the privilege so don’t get butt hurt if they don’t let you. It’s really nice to see the concerned replies from people wanting to make sure that it’s still okay, but it’s very likely that you are fine. For those of you that ask about only x act, or what about here or whatever, sure it might be better, but you are still trying to work around doing something rude by saying that you will do something slightly less rude.
alittlebirdy1: This is indeed a sex positive subreddit, but we insist on full consent here. Involving others in your play without their consent is never cool.
ew73: I knew someone that worked at Sears and manned the changing room thing often (this was obviously years ago). Whenever she got a couple fucking in the changing rooms, she’d snag the nearest employee for what she called a “Code F”, which consisted of the two of them standing just outside the changing rooms talking in easily-heard voices and using the unsexiest most ridiculous conversations ever. That clown that committed suicide via balloon noose, strange and confusing arguments about which Star Trek Captain is better: Han Solo or Starbuck?; the saga of the moist black mold infestation under the benches in the changing room and how that poor lady can’t have babies anymore…
I’ve never said, “I wish I had worked at Sears…” before i met her.
JayKayVay: > You are making your kinks my problem without my consent or any of the others around you.
↑ ↑ ↑ Kink rules 101: don’t force your kink onto others. ↑ ↑ ↑
IndigoLoser: Now I wonder how many people thought me and my boyfriend we’re having sex when we’d go into the same changing room so I could help him pick out clothes faster…..
MKUltraButWithBabies: Every changing room, and I mean every changing room no matter how nice of a place, that I’ve ever been in, smelled overwhelmingly of feet. What an unappealing place to have public sex.
Fleurvl: I work at a themepark and sometimes people have sex in there too, it’s really disturbing because there are little children everywhere
Gwenedge: I’ve worked in a cinema and i am sad to say this is a thing.
When we notice it we were required to ask them to leave the cinema. Ofcourse this happened a lot during films like 50 shades of grey.
But one time I had to drag a couple out of a childrens movie! I was so mad and disgusted by them. Imagine a child hearing or seeing this.
Don’t EVER force a kink up on someone else, especially when there are freakin children around!
hawthargow: Ugh also can people please please please stay away from parks and playgrounds. Kids frequent these places during the day. There’s a playground near the childcare place I work at with condom packets littered on the ground. As much as it’s unpleasant to pick them up, it was lucky that I found them before any kid could.
gonewildecat: Ah yes. The good old days of working at Bass Pro Shop.
We had the same couple come in once a month to fuck in one of the men’s fitting rooms. It was the one with the most cameras angled on it (not inside, just at the door).
A manager was showing new trainees that you have to check under the benches for open packages of stolen goods and he grabbed two used condoms with his bare hands. Not a week later one of my coworkers was clearing out the same room and came out with a tee shirt that had been used as a cum rag. Seriously? Not only do I have to damage out the merchandise, but I have to handle bodily fluids? Not in my job description.
Ive had semi public sex, but I was responsible about it. It was in a bathroom that could be locked and we cleaned up after. I’m not trying to involve anyone else. That’s just wrong.
jojewels92: Public sex is one of my biggest fantasies that I’ll never act on. I feel like it’s really fucked up to do that around people that didn’t consent. It’s one of the biggest problems I have with the “pizza dare” situation.
bananaslammock08: I’m a librarian. I also make similar comments whenever I see people talking about having sex in the library, whether in the stacks or in a study room or whatever. I don’t want to see you having sex while I’m at work, period. When you try to get it on at my place of employment, you make my day significantly worse, force me to do a lot of paperwork I hate doing (yay incident reports, which are public record by the way and very much have your name, physical description, and address on them), and also force me to see things I did not consent to. I have caught so many people masturbating, having sex, or anything in between over the 9+ years I’ve worked on and off in libraries and it is still just as revolting to me now as it was over a decade ago. So please, on behalf of librarians, retail workers, and people in general – stop having public sex, or at least find a single stall bathroom to sneak into! We’d appreciate it a lot!
paschpacca: In another thread, I said that masturbating at work was rude and not cool, and I was shit on. I’d like to think this is the same or at least very similar.
ChaseMDMA: I’ve had some friends from high school that was caught shoplifting by stuffing the clothes in a backpack in the changing rooms.
When they were inevitably caught, a security footage was presented were a camera can have a angled view(think ankles)of the changing rooms.
so yes, someone can/will catch you.
mentalpause: I was really hoping to try this at some point because public sex is a big turn-on, but you’re absolutely right.
JoeAvaraje: C O N S E N T
It’s not just about you. Ever.
DefinitelyNotABoner: I’m a new mother and am currently breastfeeding, which is one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do. Much less in public with a little grace. It is essentially impossible for me to be able to cover and latch my month old baby right now just because it’s so new to me.
In our mall (one of the only places for us to walk while my baby can’t regulate his body temperature well when it’s 100 degrees outside), there is one nursing room. The room is tiny (like so small that there is only room for my stroller and the one chair in this depressing closet). It’s in the area of the only bathrooms in the mall because our mall isn’t too huge.
It was occupied the last time I needed to use the nursing room because the baby was hungry. I ended up not using it because there were some teenagers in there doing god knows what. They ran out sheepishly while I was waiting outside. I was DISGUSTED. That’s literally the only private area for me to feed my immunocompromised baby. I’m never using that room again, because I bet that shit happens all of the time and the room is infrequently cleaned since it’s just a chair in a closet.
I’m no stranger to kink. My husband and I have done some swinging and were part of the BDSM community in our area, but forcing your sexual fluids onto people (especially moms trying to feed their babies) is some next level disgusting shit.
I now just openly feed my baby on more secluded bench areas at the mall. I’m sorry people suck so
blinkingsandbeepings: Good points. I did this once when I was younger and I do regret it.
himit: I agree with your post completely, but I wonder if rolling a bunch of cleaning supplies under the door while they’re going at it would be a good way of dealing with it.
like, ‘for after’. Clean your shit up, yo.
QCA_Tommy: What are teenage boys doing in swimming pools that I don’t know about?
Cute-Squishy: God. The libraries really bug me, the cam girls who go into libraries to record themselves masturbating at a computer chair just gets to me. ESPECIALLY if their bodily fluids get on it. I actually can’t watch porn where they’re legit doing stuff in public cause it bothers me so much. What about the kids that wanna go and use that computer later? Not to mention people go to the library to grab a book/movie/video game. It’s like a safe place and you’re going on there to possibly disturb people because you think you won’t get caught. It’s disgusting.
markovcd: >dick move
I see what you did there.
DutchPizzaOven: Related comment. I’m a music major and I have had friends admit to me that they’ve have sex in the practice rooms. I didn’t think it was as funny as they did. I’ve got to spend hours in them every week. Those tiny little rooms are not as soundproof as you’d think and they can hold a smell for quite a while.
Ideal_Diagnosis: Damnitt *crosses off list*
Jimmy_Joe_Jr: One time I saw couple having sex in the middle of dedicated bike bath, right on the divider, in missionary. About 50 yards away from bus stop. It was really weird to ride my bike literally a foot from action, in day light.
pofz: I take nudes in them sometimes while changing, but keep my public sex elsewhere!
Thanks for the reminder PSA, never bad to have one every now and then.
intercitty: Honestly. I agree with you. But if O worked those changing rooms a loud knock and all is good in there? Would definitely kill their mood and put you back in control of your area. Just saying
Meowhug: I never thought of this aspect, but inconvenience or upsetting others is a big turnoff for me when it comes to sex; I’ve never done more than heavy groping in a changing room. (They are also usually a turnoff in themselves, reminding us that our bodies don’t fit any clothes.)
There’s even three groups I wouldn’t want to upset: 1) the people waiting for a changing room, 2) the mothers with kids that might see something (don’t think the kids care) and 3) the staff, even though I would *never* do anything as inconsiderate as leaving a mess with or without sex.
I prefer my public sex where no-one can be upset by it.
FrustratedGlasses90: I full-on agree OP, both professionally and personally. I am an attorney and besides everything mentioned, this is illegal. Could you imagine not *just* getting caught but also getting fined and exposed, likely having to show up in court? Yeah, nope. You want to slip your hand under my skirt at a movie, sure I’m down. Feel me up in the ladies room and give me a quick kiss, OK. Whisper some stuff you plan to do to or with me later while we are at the movies, no problem. However, being a very sexually naive chick myself and having a good amount of anxiety around sex – it stays PG-13 and I’m never putting myself in a position where there is an opportunity to either get caught or give exposure to anyone else. Great post.
L3tum: I had multiple women claim that it’s okay for them to do it public because “They’re beautiful and everyone wants to see them anyways”.
Sexism, ignorance AND sexual harassment, bingo
mushuku: My gf an I usually share a changing room (less waiting and we can look at each others outfits right away) and i have to admit we sometimes make out a little in there. But it’s usually just a few kisses or a bit of touching in between outfits. we try to be quiet when we do this and we actually try our clothes on. is this stil super obvious? We just enjoy a few seconds of “hehe this is naughty and we should get home asap”….
37Lions: As someone who used to work in clothing retail, you are so right OP
Harbinger147: Also not to mention it is Illegal as well, last thing you want is some kind of legal charges for that 5 minutes of fun.
tarktarkindustries: I can get the appeal of public sex, but the polite person in me just cant get into it because you’re making others an unwilling participant even if you dont realize it. Not something I support
kates_busch: Quality rant.
synthead: Real question to clothing store employees: if I go into a changing room with my partner solely to be with them while changing clothes, is this cool? If so, is there anything I can do to indicate that I’m not trying to get freaky in there?
Windowseat123: Can any flight attendants chime in on this? Is mile high also offensive? I say it is both offensive and really unfair to break any rules while in a flying capsule. My bf says they’re cool with it and even trained for allowing it.
Luvagoo: Yeah I have a voyeur thing and I’d really like to do something like this one day but I know I never ever will because I would fucking hate it if someone included me in their shit in the exact same way you’re describing.
The only thing I can think of in the middle of nowhere wilderness? Even then, hnng but ugh.
Ilive4airtime: Yeah when I was a kid I got scarred when two people were fucking outside my local pool
mandyhascandy4u2: I agree. I would be furious if I was out in public with my 5 and 6 year old, and they saw that.
krysllama: This happened to me when I was in high school working in the intimate department of Carson’s. The girl took a nightie to “try on” in the changing room, & then he joined her. I was so embarrassed and has no clue how to react. I just made loud noises in the stock room if I recall, banging boxes around or something. Afterward, SHE HUNG THE NIGHTIE BACK UP. I think we damaged it out.
ZestyBirdBrains: If I remember correctly, this kinda thing is actually not legal and could get the both of you in the sex criminal registry. I might be wrong though.
upisdownhereandnow: Had an experience at a Target a few months back where I had to listen to a couple having sex in the stall next to me. They weren’t even trying to be subtle they sounded so loud to
me (but I guess I was the only person who noticed). And it went on for over 10 minutes. I felt kind of uncomfortable but, I was mostly laughing because I could also hear their entire conversation (the girl kept trying to tell the guy they should stop and kept trying to cover up the fact that they were doing it by talking about the clothes she was supposedly trying on lol). But there were definitely several families in there too and honestly it just seemed disrespectful to the employees and other shoppers. None of us asked to be a part of your intimate moment, we’re just trying to buy clothes!! Definitely seems unfair to just force strangers to have to listen in on your sex. Not to mention all the other stuff OP mentioned.
sooogoth: When I was a late night hotel porter I caught people fucking in weird corners a couple times. In public in the hallways. And it’s very clear that me catching them is part of what they get off on. Ultimately I don’t care that much but it’s certainly not consensual on my end. And if I wasn’t a big dude it might have even been a bit scary. One time it was two other big guys who weren’t all that cooperative.
AnEmancipatedSpambot: This is a good post. Thanks OP.
anonymister86: What about swimming pool? (Seriously)
Sisyphus1066: Sadly, posting a request here won’t stop it.