Does anyone else feel strongly attracted/repulsed to potential partners based on smell?
This is kind of a weird question, but I don’t mean like “hasn’t showered gross sweaty and needs to bathe” smell or “shampoo/soap/cologne/perfume” smell. I mean like regular, baseline body scent.
I’ve been on a couple of dates with this guy, and he seems like a good match: fun, interesting, cute etc, but I’m pretty sure I want to break it off because his body scent just smells…wrong? to me somehow, and I can’t get into the chemistry when we have sex because of it. My body just goes “ehhhh” even though he’s decent in bed. Can I do anything about this?
It’s not a cologne thing, or a cleanliness thing. Has this happened to anyone else? For reference, with previous exes (one of them especially) I loved the way they smelled. With one ex, even just cuddling/nuzzling into into his neck would make me super want to fuck because he smelled amazing.
buttholesaplenty: Entirely reasonable. [Smell is a powerful attractor](http://www.mensjournal.com/health-fitness/health/the-connection-between-scent-and-sexual-attraction-20160222), and being turned off by someone’s smell does not bode well for your relationship.
Mrlousyhusband: My wife loves my scent. Might be all she likes anymore but when she needs to calm herself of baseline her anxiety she smells my back and is able to relax. She has told me a few times that if my scent didn’t do that we probably wouldn’t still be married. So I got that going for me…
jollydonutpirate: Sound and smell are two of my most important factors when picking a partner.
It’s weird, but it’s a very real thing.
butmangonectar: This is normal, women can pick up on an immune system compatible with their own through scent. This guy likely has a similar immune system to you which doesn’t favour human evolution if you two were to reproduce. What’s interesting is that taking hormonal birth control actually eradicates this ability but I wouldn’t suggest doing that, maybe stick to men who’s baseline and even sweaty smell is intoxicating to you. Mmm the best.
SupraDoopDee: What’s really interesting is how [birth control might affect a woman’s scent preferences in a mate](https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/birth-control-pills-affect-womens-taste/).
noturBb: I actually learned about this in my evolutionary biology class. This is a form of choosing the right partner to make fit babies. I might use the wrong words to explain this but I’ll try to explain the gist of it. When someone’s natural scent doesn’t smell good to you then that means you two share a similar scent and that isn’t good in an evolutionary sense. You are attracted to people who smell different from you because that means you share different genes. Because you guys share different genes then you’ll create babies that will be combined with many different types of genes which will create a baby that is more fit
zazzle_frazzle: I’ve broken up with someone partially because of his smell. He was very hygienic but his natural scent was unpleasant to me. I never mentioned it to him because there was nothing he could do about it. We were simply biologically incompatible.
My previous fwb relationship was like that. We’ve been best friends for almost our entire lives, but when we tried to get together as casual partners after we both had bad break ups, his natural scent just completely turned me off. I would actually avoid being physically close to him when we weren’t fooling around because I just couldn’t handle it. He did try changing his soap and everything. I felt too bad about it to admit to him that it wasn’t the soap at all, it was him. Definitely not a hygiene issue either.
By contrast, my current casual partner’s natural scent drives me crazy and I never realized how much of a difference it made. Like, I often don’t wash the shirt I wore to his place for days afterward. I’ll wear it as a nightshirt until laundry day because I can still smell him on it. It’s not just a turn on, it’s also oddly calming to me.
Interestingly, I’ve never been on hormonal birth control, so maybe I’m extra sensitive to it because of that. Either way, it’s legit a deal breaker for me because I would not want to be physically close to them. I feel bad saying it, but just as a guy can’t control his natural scent, I can’t control if I’m repulsed by it or not.
knowitallz: I had a FWB like this… She just never smelled good to me. She was clean and had good hygiene but she always smelled off.
Marla_Brando: Oh this is totally real. I was once propositioned by a friend for sex and I thought about it, but eventually decided I couldn’t, based solely on the fact that his natural smell is completely off-putting to me. Like musty applesauce, oddly enough.
Interestingly, the smell things works in gay relationships too, even though there’s really no biological basis for it. The first time I slept with my gf, I was shocked by how different she smelled from a man. Like, it actually made me feel just instinctually wary for some reason. Now I can’t get enough of it.
Also, she’s the gayest gay to ever gay and when we talk about attraction and orientation (I’m bi, so it’s always interesting to compare notes), it always seems to come back to the fact that she hates how men smell. To her, they smell like dirty socks apparently. That uniquely musky male aroma is just completely revolting to her.
bubble34: MHC molecules enable immune system surveillance of the population of protein molecules in a host cell, and greater MHC diversity permits greater diversity of antigen presentation. In 1976, Yamazaki et al demonstrated a sexual selection mate choice by male mice for females of a different MHC. Similar results have been obtained with fish. Some data find lower rates of early pregnancy loss in human couples of dissimilar MHC genes.
MHC may be related to mate choice in some human populations, a theory that found support by studies by Ober and colleagues in 1997, as well as by Chaix and colleagues in 2008. However, the latter findings have been controversial. If it exists, the phenomenon might be mediated by olfaction, as MHC phenotype appears strongly involved in the strength and pleasantness of perceived odour of compounds from sweat. Fatty acid esters—such as methyl undecanoate, methyl decanoate, methyl nonanoate, methyl octanoate, and methyl hexanoate—show strong connection to MHC.
omega_dawg93: many people underestimate the power of smell; i believe it’s our strongest sense.
pheromones tell a big story. listen to them.
throwawayandmakemyda: This is an evolutionary tool to help you subconsciously choose the best physiological mate according to your own body chemistry. It’s completely normal and should not be ignored. Sucks that everything else checks out about him, but ultimately you’ll always feel this way. Personal pheromones don’t become more appealing with time, in fact it will probably get worse over time, so best to cut your losses now before you get further involved.
DonLaFontainesGhost: There’s actually quite a bit of research into the importance of odor and its effect on us.
One line of study is about the effect our initial perception of smell has on attraction. There’s also a theory (not as strongly supported with research) that how someone “smells” to you can be indicative of genetic compatibility.
A tangential area of study is how we can grow more fond of someone’s odor as we fall in love with them – part of “imprinting”
The reason I bring this up is to note that yes, how someone smells to you is *very* important. And if it affects you strongly enough to ask here, it may be a veto factor, even though that feels a bit Seinfeldian.
I’ve been married for a lot of years, and I still love the way she smells, so it never “doesn’t matter”
Not sure if this helps. Good luck and best wishes.
iam1self: It is said that not liking a body odor is a way of keeping you from making babies. Im sure its easy to find
IAmGoingToFuckThat: I can’t be around one of the last guys I dated because his scent makes me too nostalgic. Pheromones and scent are a HUGE attractant.
Cerling_Stooper: This is why human pheromones have to be a thing. Each individual person has their own body smell, even if they wash as regular and eat the same diet and have the same habits as other people, yet some people you like the smell of and others you just don’t. I could get fucking intoxicated off the smell of my ex’s BO. I used to literally grab her arm and raise it and bury my face in her armpit, her smell was so good. Apparently when people who really enjoy each others smell have children the children have a better immune system.
jsemJoli: I love my BF’s smell, doesn’t matter if he just had a shower or came back home from gym. “You smell so nice.” is a compliment we use very often.
You can try to ignore his smell and it will probably work for some time but from personal experience, it’ll become very frustrating later and you won’t be able / won’t be bothered to hide it in the end.
Googly_Elmo: Went out with a girl a couple of times but had to break it off because, to me, she smelled like raw hamburger. I couldn’t get past it.
Uhmsolike: Absolutely 100%. I have ended relationships with scent being a huge reason. Scent has also kept me in relationships. It’s a huge indicator of how attractive I’ll find someone.
redpepperflake: We are all animals at the end, it is our instict to give a value to scent. So, yes.
growingstronk: Scent is absolutely make or break for attraction to me. There were quite a few girls who I was super into, but upon having a body scent or pussy scent that I was turned off by, the attraction almost instantly fades. It has literally nothing to do with hygiene, and oftentimes the girls are even wearing perfume. It doesn’t matter, because I can still smell *them* through it
WWbowieD: Yes. This matters and it will not get better.
pibechorro: Pheromones exist for a reason .
Total_Dick_Move: I LOVE my husband’s smell. I will just lay on him / his chest and take it in. It’s just awesome. I think it would be a dealbreaker if his scent repulsed me.
we_are_nomads: 100x yes. I’ve swooned over women I wasn’t really even attracted to due to scent, and have definitely been turned off by it as well.
anniemckenzie13: Yes yes yes! I am such a smell driven person. I cannot stop smelling my boyfriends pitties and sideburns and hair. Not like day old sweat pits, just his natural scent. It’s so comforting to me and it’s one of my favorite smells in the world.
Proud_915: In one of my classes in college, there was this one girl. A pretty, peppy, petite blonde who I found to be very physically attractive. We went out a couple of times, until she finally agreed to come back to my dorm with me. After making out for a bit, I realized something felt odd, although I couldn’t put my finger on it. We took off our shirts and I got a good whiff of her BO emanating from her armpit.
Typically, the natural scent of a woman is something that I enjoy, or don’t notice at all. But this girl had a natural smell that reminded me of my middle school’s locker room. It was not something I could ignore, even though I tried by going out with her 2 more times.
We are still friends to this day, but I never told her the real reason why I couldn’t find myself to pursue something more with her.
NakedObject: Had an ex who was obsessed by my scent. She would lick and sniff me in various part of the body, getting actually turned on by doing it. She was particular.
Beachit56: The smell of pheromones has been controlling sexual behavior for millions of years. Don’t fight it. You aren’t compatible. Find a guy you crave, including and especially his smell.
Lights_n_Fire: It turns me off eating pussy if it smells bad. So I can see why it turns you off sex if he smells bad.
williamtheconcurrer: The quality of my sexual encounters and my memory of their smell has a direct correlation, without exception. Totally reasonable.
sandybeachclam: Definitely true for me. My husband has a smell that I can identify and it makes me feel electric almost. It isn’t BO or cologne. We use almost all unscented products which helps.
cocoaDrinker: Definitely. Smell is super important to me. I was casually seeing a guy who’s smell was just off. He smelled very strong of ,yuck, protein shake even though he didn’t take any. Apparently, I was the only one who could smell it, cuz he asked other girls he was with at the same time, they didn’t notice. I tried hard to ignore it, but I just couldn’t take it.
On the other hand, I’ve had partners who’s smell intoxicates me to the point my brain feels all nice after a good sniff. Even for them, changing deodorant or adding cologne/perfume has made me go in my mind from ‘I love you’ to ‘I tolerate you’.
finmeister: I actually mentioned this in a comment on another thread.
Smell has always been HUGE for me when it comes to attraction. My current guy has sensitive skin and mild eczema. So he doesn’t use scented/dyed anything if he can avoid it. Unscented soap, laundry detergent, deodorant, etc. But yet he has an amazing scent to me, like a very subtle slight spice aftershave scent.
I’m pathetic about it, really. I can’t get close enough to him.
He’s a very clean guy, showers daily and sometimes twice, but everyone sweats and gets BO and has body oils. Even when he “stinks”, the man does not stink *to me* and BO is usually a gigantic turn off for me. And I don’t mean days unshowered, I think that would gross me out with anyone, I mean his or anyone’s scent when they showered in the morning and then worked all day. Not this one. I mean, I notice, but it doesn’t smell unpleasant to me.
I’ve heard this is generally mostly a phenomenon experienced by women (tho there are a few guys ITT) so I wonder what it’s like to have the male experience. Because this guy says I have no scent to him, even tho I do use scented products.
coolman1581: My ex had the opposite effect. I am a very sweaty guy but she LOVED how my BO smelt. Saying it was very manly. I was cool with it!
AlternateReality01: Definitely! I love the way my girlfriend naturally smells, and vice versa. Just being near her and breathing in her scent is enough to turn me on.
Even her body odor (think armpits without deodorant) is attractive in a weird way. Not in that I think it smells good, it’s just hard to explain why.
cogsly: Yes, I’ve never heard anyone really talk about it but it’s crucial for me. My nose knows.
becauseIthinktoomuch: I remember learning in college that we release pheromones just like other mammals do, and that genetics are carried through that smell. We are evolutionarily predisposed to not like the smell of pheromones that indicate genetic similarity because the more similar the genes, the less resistant the children will be to disease.
dakotabethany: Absolutely. I’ve had things not work out between partners because of scent. It’s a part of natural chemistry. I found out one partner liked mine so much it came up once while I always had thought their natural smell was gross, that was certainly eye opening. My current partner smells gross too, especially while they’re sleeping. It’s weird. Definitely natural scent, showering doesn’t do much to change it
Boogilywoo2: I thought this was the Doomsday Prepper sub. I made it embarrassingly far down the comments before I realized my mistake.
IJustStoppedLurking: When a lady smells good, I am instantly drawn towards her.
As for sex, when the woman’s pussy smells good, eating her out is going to be my favorite thing in the whole world. If it smells bad however, my head isnt going anywhere near her vagina.
SubMikeD: [You’re not the only one](https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/are-human-pheromones-real/)
RIPcherryboyRIP: Does this apply equally to both sexes? How far does it go in both good/bad directions? Is it typically a mutual thing?
I have no experience with this and the only time I’ve heard of it is every so often on this subreddit. I always assumed girls would smell like … – nice.
:< seems like a sad reason, or I guess more accurately, an unfortunate reason.
QueenOfFoxes: I’ve actually experienced this. There was guy I really liked who’s natural scent completely repulsed me. Not BO, just his skin. My current SO however is the opposite. Even if he has BO I love how he smells.
RedsChronicles: Yes absolutely!
sepsiss: yeah completely, and i don’t question it. i instinctually want to be close to him because of how he smells to me.
Karpattata: I freaking love my girlfriend’s smell. Well. Actually, her smell itself is pretty neutral to me, she if anything she smells like home somehow. And then, because her smell is so neutral, I can smell whatever lotion or perfume she put on perfectly.
…When I can smell at all. Sadly, I’m a pretty allergic fellow, so that’s not very often, but when it does, it’s great. Yesterday we got together for the first time in two weeks and I spent the two minutes she was in the bathroom rolling around in her bed sheets to get soaked in her scents.
But them some people just smell wrong. Like, you can tell they’ve got a cologne or perfume on, and it’s still not good. Hell, some people’s natural scents mix horrifically with their colognes to create this horrible Frankenstein’s monster of scents. And to me, that’s a great reason to not pursue a relationship. Can’t imagine having sex with someone whose body odor doesn’t suit me (yes, even with my nose clogged, I would really hate for it to clear up in the heat of the moment only to be struck by an odor that I don’t like).
I vaguely remember some scientific explanation for it, too. Something about people smelling better to you the further away they are from you genetically to get you to expand the gene pool, and to get you to avoid accidental incest. It sounds sensational, so don’t quote me on that, but that’s what I remember.
leto78: I have been told by several partners that I smell really great. They really bury their nose on my skin to smell me better.
RhapC: My wife constantly tells me how I she just loves my.. “scent”. I’m pretty hygienic. I shower at least once a day, don’t like making out unless I’ve just brushed and mouthwashed… things like that. I think my scent is a good combo of nice smelling cologne and deodorant just because I use them so often. She sometimes even mentions she’d like to have sex after we workout cuz the smell turns her on so much.
On the flip side, I think she always smells great too and I can’t pinpoint it. It’s just a mix of being clean generally and always using nice smelling things. Even when she’s working out it’s amazing. It doesn’t turn me on as much as mine does for her. It’s like the really nice smelling vanilla candles that aren’t strong and just make you feel…. MMMMM this is great.
Also also. Diet greatly influences this. I smell worser, quicker when we eat shit food and skip leg day >.> Same for her. I stay away from dairy and obv smelly foods.
We sort of fell into it but if I ever was single and started dating this would be a big point for me in addition to my list. Smell is important!
canon12: I learned a long time ago when I didn’t listen to my intuition it was always a mistake. The smell may be his diet, his clothes or he may have an illness. I have a friend that always has a pissy smell when you get close to him. When I smell it I almost fall backwards to get away from him. I have concluded he doesn’t wash his shirts regularly and mixed with his body chemistry it’s rotten.
I suspect he would benefit from discussing it with him. I wish I could tell you how but I can’t.
Sasha_Fire: There was this guy once who had the strongest scent around his groin, it wasn’t BO or lack of cleanliness just like sort of meaty? I couldn’t get over it either, just kind of made me feel faintly nauseous and really turned off. Alternatively there is this one guy I have sex with who has the sweetest smelling breath ever, I don’t know how his mouth smells and tastes sweet all the time but it’s amazing.
uniformedsplatter: YES! Chemistry rules the world around me and in me. It will literally change how I see a person. Hot men become Meh, and men who might otherwise be Meh, or Nah become, Hello, Sexy.
That taste, of their mouth, when we first kiss… it’s huge. I better be dying to taste his mouth again or I’ll probably start slowly backing away and end things. I’d rather a bad kisser than someone who’s mouth taste is off to me. I know to read what my body is telling me, she knows more than I do, and on a deeper level. I sort by logic, she sorts by chemistry.
Their smell. Oh god. I’m into it if it’s good, and if it’s bad I bail. All of the fulfilling, electric, and prosperous relationships I’ve been in the men smelled similar and pleasant. It’s like I couldn’t get enough. If I could just RUB their bodies all over my face, yeah, that would be nice. It calms me. I feel safe. It smells like home. Gets me high. *Disclaimer, all balls smells gross, even the balls on these fellas, but their balls did smell less repulsive than men I wasn’t into scent wise.
When my current SO leaves for work, I roll over and smell his pillow and snuggle up to it. I keep his dirty shirts when he goes out of town and put them on his pillow so I can smell him while I sleep. He thinks it’s cute and he gets the smell thing. Claims his exes all mentioned how good he smelled to.
46dad: God yes. No stinkies!
narananika: Totally! Interestingly enough, I notice two different smells from my boyfriend. His general overall smell is nice, but it’s more comforting than arousing. There’s a secondary smell I also pick up on, however, that is incredibly arousing to me. I don’t know if it’s from his precum or what; I noticed it was on the shorts he sleeps in much stronger than anything else. I’m on hormonal birth control (Nuvaring), but I’ve always been really sensitive to smells in general.
sporadicadium: Oh my god yes. Pheromones are utterly intoxicating, and in the best way possible. There was this cute girl I met over the summer who people kept reminding me was a total bitch, apparently, since I was new to the area. For some reason, however, anytime I was around her, she had the perfect aphrodisiac going on, and it was starting to make me go crazy
heWhoMostlyOnlyLurks: Yes. It’s a natural and universal biological response.
le_sweetie_man: I’ve had girlfriends who just smell amazing. It’s probably just our wolf brains doing something behind the scenes. If you aren’t feeling it, you aren’t.
Supersecretpronacct: As long as people are clean, I’m good. So I’m attracted to clean subtle light scents. I’m turned off by strong perfumes…
iplaypokerforaliving: This question is related to the op. But I’m curious, can one partner be attracted to anothers base smell and the other not be attracted?
Massgyo: Pheromones are likely why we kiss. It’s thought to be an indicator of whether we might produce a genetically diverse and resistant baby.
SmithIsLit: Pheromones are wild!
MRGNB476: I feel similarly with women. There are body odors and more particularly a certain breath smell that are strong indicators of how deeply interested in someone I’ll become. It’s really hard to explain but it seems to be a pretty reliable factor in my long term interest. I always chalked it up to the immune system thing that has already been mentioned but I haven’t heard of any studies indicating that men have a similar response to women in that regard.
biggreywolf: To me the smell of a woman right before her period is alluring. Those female hormones drive my inner cave man. I knew a girl that produced more hormones than normal, it was so fun hanging with her cause she was aware of the effect and could run me up to the red line. Now mind you some girls smell gross and some smell so good that you just want to do things together. It’s totally fine, the cave man (or woman) is in all of us.
greatestpersonalive: Me. Body essence is very important to me. If I don’t like it, I automatically feel not attracted. I went once on a date with this guy (actually twice) just dates, thankfully no sex. He also seems es right but his essence was too much. Idk, I was wondering because he vaped and had a beard? Who know. But that was enough for me.
GreatBayTemple: Bad breathe is a serious no for me. I’ll lose complete interest in a person with ass breathe.
I don’t mind a day old musty dick smell. It’s actually kind of hot to smell on a guy. If I can smell your ass though, I will flee.
anonymous_anxiety: This is a totally legit thing! We all produce pheromones and they’re what help us “attract a mate”
I encounter really stinky people at my job and I’m coming to realize now it might not be their colognes or perfumes or anything hygiene related. There’s this one guy that distinctly smells like when you put laundry in the machine, let it sit there too long but still put it in the dryer, and think that a dryer sheet alone will mask the scent.
He comes in with ironed suit shirts and nice pants though. It’s just him, and I think he reeks. Scent plays a HUGE part in attraction, so don’t feel bad that it’s clashing with this guy you’ve been seeing
wynper: This is a thing for me as well. I don’t seem to have a great sense of smell for other things but I do for animals (people). If a person’s scent is off to me it’s the same thing as a dog or horse scent being off. There’s usually an issue. I’d pay attention to that feeling.
WouldISmellHerPussy: I am certainly into the olfactory.
stu0027: I heard a study about this once. Can’t remember the source, but it has to do with the scent of another person and their natural b/o and how that relates to attraction. I believe the study fond that you are more likely to be repulsed by a scent with a similar heritage or bloodline than you are too someone distant from your bloodline due to an ancestral need to mate with those outside of your bloodline for the greatest genetic success.
TL;DR basically it might be because y’all related
westmoso: I had a major fuckcrush on a guy back in high school. Just basic primal wanted him…until we hooked up. He smelled like Campbell’s chicken noodle soup like a blandly salty smell and flavor. I put it in the back of my mind but it was fucking distracting, like reliving a visceral sick day home from school lol. We hooked up once more then I avoided him until graduation.
neo_sporin: well, i dont generally notice smell. but there was this girl in high school i was kind of dating, kind of fooling around with. any time we hung out at school i noticed she had a scent that did not agree with me. thus never really dating.
MyCatMerlin: There is [some evidence] (http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0169534798014736) that scent is often an indicator of immune system fitness, which can increase attraction, but there has been other research that yes, scent is an integral part of physical attraction.
alwayswiththequesti2: Damnit, as soon as I made the throwaway for this I lost the password. But woooo! So many cool & thoughtful answers. Thanks y’all!
cleanforever: yea, there was a girl that liked me, got a whiff of her bedroom when she wanted to watch movies… noped out of that.
nekothecat: Just stick with it…..it’ll pass
olivejew0322: Yup. I loved my ex’s natural smell which was both comforting and sexy to me. He works as a contractor and whenever I saw him whenever he just got off work I’d say “you smell so bad… It smells so good!”
Even when he wasn’t sweaty, his resting body odor just smelled so good to me. Before dating him I never knew it was possible to love the smell of someone’s armpits.
misseplease: I dated a guy for some time and I kept getting put off by his smell. I thought it may have been his hygiene until we showered together and realized it was just him. I wanted to get past it so badly because he was just such a babe and we had so much in common but absolutely couldn’t. I couldn’t tell him why, since there was nothing he could do about it so I just distanced myself until we agreed it wasn’t working out. Shame. Still friends though.
no-mad: I was dancing pretty hard one evening and had a good sweat going. I sat down for a drink of water. This beautiful woman next to me wrinkled her nose and started looking at me differently. She said “You Smell”! I apologized and said I would move away from her. She said it again. “You smell”. Ok, I started getting up. She reached over grabbed my arm and said “No, you smell like my first lover”. She came over said how incredible i smelled and started massaging my shoulders. She was like “you could use some shoulder work”. At that point, my girlfriend appeared and introduced herself as my girlfriend.
fatcatattack: Oh my god, yes! I’m so glad someone else feels this way. I seriously think this was one of the most important factors in making me attracted to my boyfriend. We started out as friends for about a year and then all of a sudden his natural scent was just completely addicting. He doesn’t understand it at all lol. I don’t know how to explain it but it’s just so sexy and warm and comforting all at once 🙂
bausl: There is an expression for people that like each other in German (Leute die sich riechen können – People that can smell each other).
thebeautifulstruggle: Literally why deodorant, perfume, and antiperspirant, body washes, shampoos, and soaps exist ; heck the whole hygiene industry exists because of this. There could be a serious chemical or hormonal imbalance in him if he really has a distasteful body smell. Tell him to get it checked out.
banana066: Look up The Sweaty T Shirt Study
definitelynotpietro: I think that has to do with immune system compatibility. I could be wrong.
Dyolf_Knip: Oh yeah. I had one partner years ago, lovely girl, very intelligent, ass that just wouldn’t stop. But she could never have been more than a FWB because she just didn’t smell right.
Scent/taste is the oldest sense we have. It predates sight, hearing, touch, thought, honestly it goes all the way back to our ancestral pond scum.
Deltroyd: I read this somewhere a while ago, but apparently that has to do with your immune system. If you don’t like what the other person smells like, or just not attracted to their smell, that means they have an immune system that is similar to yours, meaning they’re not complementary to each other. So basically it means that you smell the same in a way. Which explains why you’re usually not attracted to your family members.
On the other hand, if you are attracted to your partner’s smell, that means their immune system is different. By different I mean that your antibodies are complementary, and that means that they are a good choice to have offsprings with because the offspring’s immune system will then be “complete” so to say.
So yeah smell is a huge factor, and yes people choose partners based on smell even if they don’t notice.
Justine772: I love the way my SO smells. His cologne though.. God damn. It’s like it blends perfectly with him. I could smell him all day without it but when he puts it on before a date we both know I’m gonna be all over him. Remember those axe body spray commercials where women were animalistic smelling up the dudes? That’s me haha
Florida2000: pheromones the natural scent all animals are attracted to or repulsed by. My ex smelt amazing when we first got together, by the time we split I used to comment her female parts stank. I mean bad and it wasn’t lack of hygenie, I was just that repulsed by her her body chemistry, it no longer appealed to me as a mate.
Phojangles: I got set up on a double date once. I’m a pretty relaxed, confident personality and though double dates are not ideal and hella awkward sometimes I figured I’d try to make the best out of it.
She comes in to the restaurant and sits beside me. I pretty quickly realize she’s not into me and honestly, I’m not that into her either. I still try to have a fun time, I have a couple of drinks but the entire time it just smells like terrible B.O.
At first I think it’s maybe my buddy or his girlfriend or something, maybe me???
Nope! It was the date! Im not the kind of person to be nitpicky but it seriously caught me off guard. I was already not into her by this point but that sealed the deal for sure.
blackberrydoughnuts: Yes, attraction and chemistry are all about smell. What’s weird about that?
Ronabonita: I don’t care much about smell as I have chronic sinusitis and can barely smell a thing but my boyfriend always says that he loves my smell, not perfum, my actual odor. Weird stuff, he gets super horny when I am on or close to my period and says it is because my smell. I hope is not for the blood.
ZoilaBell: My fiancé and I were in a long distance relationship for 4years before we met. My sense of smell is strong, since losing my hearing on one side. When we met, I told myself that if he didn’t smell right I would need to break it off, luckily he “smelled amazing”. I love the way he smells. Sometimes I’ll cuddle his pillow and smell the pillow when he’s at work. He smells so good to me. I find it sort of embarrassing how much I love his smell or his “funk”. My personal aphrodisiac!
ladysuccubus: Humans are biologically programmed to look for mates that will help our offspring have a better chance of survival. Scent indicates reproductive compatibility and is completely natural for women to be sensitive to it. It’s your biology telling you that reproduction with this guy will produce weaker children.
DarVonDoom: I mean I’m heavily attracted to my girlfriend’s natural scent. I smell her and I get hey. I honestly don’t think she likes mine, but hey.. it’s life.
VioletWolverine: I find it a very important factor and find there are two smells to a person. The first is their general smell which is perfume/cologne and the second is when we are closer and it’s their skin and pheromones. If I don’t enjoy someone’s smell I cannot have sex with them
dirtymartini83: Yep. It’s a weird, biological thing. Cutest guy smells like heaven…the ocean and marshmallows. Once dated a guy who smelled like motor oil no matter what…I think it was pheromones or something.
five5browneyes: Birth control, long-distance internet relationships leading to LTR, perfumes, cologne, perfume scented lotions, body wash, and deodorants, food without enough nutrients. All reasons I believe there is a rise in babies being born with complications.
amitjson007: This has happened to me too. There is a certain body scent to everyone and you know what, when you like that base scent, you would also like his scent when he is all sweaty.
fascistliberal419: Yes! Scent is soooooo important!
If they don’t smell good, it’s not worth it. I always trust my nose.
My ex husband didn’t smell good to me, I should’ve trusted that.
There are certain men that just smell so excellent that I drives me insane.
Whether that means it’ll be a good relationship, can’t say, but he has to smell good. If he doesn’t, it’s not worth it to me. And that sucks.
Certain men, like their scent…I can smell them from a mile away. Doesn’t matter if he’s not super physically attractive, just that smell, man. My body gets so turned on.
MrBDIU: A few years ago I was standing in line at a store and started chatting up the gal in line with me. She was really attractive, great smile and terrific laugh. But something just seemed OFF. Eventually I realized it was something about her baseline smell. I just couldn’t figure out why it seemed soo ‘wrong’… Her kids walked up as I was leaving – both had very severe physical hand deformations… Maybe it was unrelated.. I think our senses evolved for a reason and we don’t always know how or why…. Follow your nose though……
trashtime100: I feel this way about the white women iv been with. Every white woman iv been with had a weird smell. Even if they were wearing perfume I still would be turned off by their base line smell. It’s so weird, I never spoke about this before because I thought I was the only one that can pick up on someone’s base line smell.