I’m [22f] worried about letting my bf [22m] know how much I want sex.
So, I’m kind of in a pickle and was hoping someone has been in a similar situation and can tell me any advice or tips they may have.
My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. Our personalities really mesh and work well together. We’ve never had sex but have hade hot n heavy make out seshs that I’m sure ya’ll are familiar with. One thing to note about me is that I’m a VERY shy person. When we were first dating, I’d always turn red when he’d compliment how I looked or something positive about how my body looks. I think my boyfriend thinks that I’m super innocent or something, but the completely opposite is true. I always think about and fantasize about sex with him and all this stuff that I want to do to him (literally blushing as I’m writing this.)
I guess my question is, how have people in the same situation let their sexual desires be known without freaking out their partner who holds a different impression of them. I just want to be open with him about how sexual I actually am and how that’s something that I get excited about with him in the future, but don’t know how he’ll react, specially since I think he finds that shyness sweet and attractive.
Thanks for any advice.
Mr_Spaz: FYI, the “shy girl with a secret wild side” can be pretty damn attractive. (I’m sure the gender-swapped version works too). He’ll probably like it a lot.
maronymous: Do you want to have sex with him? If you are feeling ready for sex tell him. Or if there is some reason you want to wait tell him that it is hard to wait since he turns you on. Do you think about him and masterbate? If so tell him that.
Or you could start the conversation by saying you had an amazing sex dream about him.
casino_night: Do you live in some time-portal to the late 19th century? Women are allowed to be sexual beings with sexual desires without being frowned upon. Go ahead and let him know. If this shocks and stuns him, he’s very immature about sex and has an outdated view of gender roles.
lalalarori: Agree with u/Mr_Spaz here, the shy girl with a naughty side can def be a turn on for men.
To follow this, is there a reason you and your boyfriend haven’t had sex yet, after 2 years together? It’s ok to be shy, but you should also feel comfortable enough to discuss this with him. Sit down with him, and bring up how you’re feeling, and when you have started the dialogue about it, ask about his likes/dislikes, turn-ons, fetishes, etc.
Communication is key in relationships, don’t be afraid to ask for what you want.
smash_diggins: Well, the next time you are making out hot and heavy you could whisper in his ear how much you want to do some of the things you’re fantasizing about. See how that goes. If those things go well, the next time let him know more of what you’d love to do together.
He sounds like a *real* lucky guy to me.
Emack76: Just blurt it out no matter how awkward it is. He’ll love it.
WenisInFurs: So have you done ANYTHING besides make out? Have you ever had sex with anyone else? You could always surprise him during your next make out sesh and start playing with “it” and suck it.
Hilo1357: If you want to have sex with him, why aren’t you?
mike_m_ekim: >My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years.
>We’ve never had sex
>I guess my question is, how have people in the same situation let their sexual desires be known without freaking out their partner who holds a different impression of them.
If you want him to keep viewing you as innocent (that’s hot) go with something like “we’ve been together for a while and I really trust you now so I’m ready for us to have sex.”
In other words, you’re the innocent girl and he’s the nice guy who won you over by treating you well.