Friendly reminder that having lots of sex doesn’t make you “loose”
To this day people still seem to think that the more sex you have the “looser” you get. I feel like these people don’t know the female anatomy at all and it upsets me.
The vagina is a muscle!
The fact that I am still seeing shaming comments online “It must be like throwing a hot dog down a hallway” because that women is in an open relationship is ridiculous.
Just because you have a lot of sex whoever its with doesn’t make you “loose”.
Please for the love of fuck learn about the female anatomy.
Wetbung: But it is true that guys who have a lot of sex end up with a short penis because vaginas work like a pencil sharpener.
talkinboutfuckin: There’s also the even dumber notion of a “roastie”: a woman with prominent labia is that way because she has had many different partners. I always ask how the labia distinguishes between different penises and never get an answer…
skyscan1: My wife and I had a dead bedroom for many years. My wife’s vagina was my standard. When we recovered from the dead bedroom I noticed that she became tighter and tighter.
I think the huge increase in sex and having multiple orgasms daily helped tighten and strengthen her pelvic floor. It was like she was doing kegals only with sex.
Honestly she can be so tight now that it’s uncomfortable for me. I’ve had to ask her to not squeeze me so hard. We found that she can do rhythmic squeezes that are like a massage. Only now she has to hold back some.
brinkrunner: yeah also, why is it that people think that having lots of sexual partners makes a girl loose, but not having sex with her SO every day?
this one baffles me
AnEmancipatedSpambot: Basically its a sad commentary on how poorly our education system is in regard to sex, sexuality, etc.
I mean look at this subreddit or r/dating.
People are flailing around blind. And isolated. Or too ashamed to ask. Society is massively dysfunctional.
And at least we have the internet to compare notes now. I cant even imagine how our parents made it.
Grittyclam: You are talking about people that are setting out to Shame someone , logic and facts don’t persuade them usually
trowawufei: It’s also interesting that the supposed ‘looseness’ is based on the number of sexual partners. Most women who sleep around without a regular partner tend to have less sex than a monogamous person with a decent libido… but what, the variety is what makes you loose?
alittlebirdy1: I posted about this not terribly long ago. It’s amazing how many people – even educated, intelligent people – don’t understand this.
Kamizar: /r/badwomensanatomy shameless plug.
ButtercupsUncle: Oh great… now i just want to throw some hot dogs down some hallways… : )
Of course, you are completely correct. If anything, I would think that if the vagina’s owner is exercising it during sex, it would be stronger / tighter (when she wants it to be). But there are haters and trolls online and irl who will sling feces like monkeys rather than the more interesting hot dogs down hallways…
L98corvette: My Wife n I have had sex 1,000 s of times in our lives together, and truly i cant see or feel no difference in her vagina at all.Having many partners HA–hows about 45yrs of sex–how many partners does that equal? People who think women are loose because of the amount of sex they have had–Horse Feathers
rckymtnrfc: I like hanging out in some adult chat rooms because I enjoy talking about my open marriage with other like minded people. I’m always surprised by guys who ask about how many people my wife has slept with and then follow up asking if she’s loose because of it.
As soon as they ask that, I automatically assume they are either inexperienced, uneducated or just plain stupid. Sometimes I’ll try and educate them but most times I just figure it’s best to stop chatting with them and move on.
My wife loves being stretched, big toys, fisting, etc. Yet when I’m inside her (and I’m only average sized), she’s extremely tight. I can feel her muscle clench around me and it’s amazing.
gynx11: NEVER FORGET …….. people are stupid 😉
LogansRun22: I will always be opposed to the notion that a woman who has a lot of sex with a lot of people should be thought of any differently than a man who does the same thing.
RichardCano: What about factors like child birth, age, or kiegal strength?
Please don’t hurt me. Really asking.
Katatoniczka: Sex every day with your husband: vagina perfectly tight
Sex every day with a different man: vagina decides it’s time for a hunger strike
8BitHorcrux: Only some grade-A fuckboi would think that sleeping with multiple men makes a woman loose but sleeping with one man many times doesn’t.
PrimeIntellect: I thought people were more referring to loose morals rather than a loose caboose
GideonDrive: Fun fact: the term “loose” in this context refers to a “loose woman,” which actually originates from the statement that a woman is “a woman of loose morals.” Nothing to do with anatomy and everything to do with being prudes 😛
hunterpua: Yeah I have a bunch of guy friends that claim to be ladies men but then when they hear about a girl who has a lot of sex they make loose vagina jokes all day. In my head I’m like, “Do you guys even have sex??”
VampArcher: Then the more sex a man has, the smaller his penis gets, right?
Alystial: Thank you!!! I feel like it’s a daily question on this subreddit.
theemptycrowd: i’ll just keep blaming my tiny weenie.
Spartacus777: At the risk of upsetting the echo chamber, the term “loose woman” originated as a term to describe lax morals…not a woman’s muscle tension. In that sense, having lots of different partners absolutely can shift that definition to “loose”.
> Just because you have a lot of sex whoever its with doesn’t make you “loose”.
I don’t thing it’s clearly defined how many partners transitions one from a place of moral acceptability to objectively “loose” but that’s where the term came from.
JoeHillForPresident: It’s worth noting that in short order after childbirth it returns to normal as well.
semaj009: There are people who think vaccines give you autism, and people who think the Earth is flat in a NASA conspiracy! Honestly, dumb sexists not understanding the anatomy of a woman is not a surprise (whether they’re sexist intentionally or not, given education plays a part, is a different question, too)
darth_henning: It’s a weird double standard even within that.
Girl who’s hooked up one time each with 20 guys “loose slut”
Girl who had a boyfriend for a year and had sex every day and no one would even consider that.
jellyfishin: Additionally, when a woman becomes aroused her vagina does something called “tenting” where your vagina increases lubrication, the vaginal opening loosens, the cervix contracts, and the vaginal tube extends and widens. This means that if you put your penis in and it’s “tight”, chances are you haven’t aroused someone enough.
oldladygonewild: This is what happens when there isn’t adequate sexual education and people get their education from the internet. 🙁
LAEuphoria: Yes, I agree.
ALSO, don’t think ethnicity has anything to do with vaginal tightness either. The stereotype of black women being looser because of black men having huge penises is a stereotype that isn’t necessarily founded on any data whatsoever. And I imagine it being extremely offensive.
In *my* experience, black girls have been the tightest. But again, that happens to be *one* individuals experience and it was probably completely random.
Stop the generalizations please.
hackersaq: It’s not meant to be taken literally, though… It’s a reference to “loose” morals.
Aenema_: And people usually say this only toward women who have lots of sexual partners too. If you have a ton of sex with the same guy then nobody bats an eye. It’s ridiculous.
AsparagusHag: People absolutely love to mythologize the vagina.
Funny how no one says that eating a lot causes your lips to get flappy, or that pooping a lot makes your asshole lose.
It’s almost like a vagina is *designed* to be fucked. Imagine that.
Out-Of-My-Head: Some people are actually angry! How are you convinced that vaginas get stretched out by having multiples sexual partners! Toys will stretch you for a time but it’s a muscle it recovers, some of the comments on here are unbelievable. “You get looser as you get older” utter bullshit, ever heard of a dialator kit? If the vagina isn’t used for years it literally needs to be re-stretched. It will close.
thepopperguy: [Painfully relevant?](https://www.reddit.com/r/badwomensanatomy/comments/98r2fz/bullshit_virgins_are_tighter)
iLLustratedSB: I think for a lot of those guys it’s not that they aren’t educated but more so they are insecure about themselves.
springwanders: I thought so before, until a guy laughed and taught me this. That’s why I loved him (along with many other reasons)
adi_vale: I realized this was a bunch of bullshit, when I thought about how a women is *loose* if she has sex with 30 different guys but *not loose* if she has sex with **one** guy 30 times. Mmm hmm
thepontiff_: I learned a lot today about the female anatomy
mastter1233: Serious question. Can a vagina even become loose and how exactly is this caused?
Class_in_a_Rat: Friendly reminder to everyone as well… Who here thinks the vagina is a tube and the cervix is on the end? Now class look around and those of you with your hands raised are misinformed. That shit is mad flexible and weird and moves around more than Richard Nixon at a hippie convention.
guttersnipe098: Serious question: does having a baby make you loose?
Blue_Motoriety: Regular sex actually makes vaginas tighter if she is squeezing and contracting the muscles regularly.
these_hands_: I had to tell my boyfriend that after he thought a week without sex (because it was shark week for me lmao) would ‘tighten me back up’.
Neriphite: I see that opinion as some kind of incel bullshit do justify their Obsession with virgins anyway
Black_Orchid13: A vagina can give birth to a baby that is a much bigger than your dick, so really? Wtf do you really think a dick is going to make a difference if it can push out a human head?
saloejka: Who does say that? Incels? I mean those are the last ppl you ask opinion about relationships. Like literally no.
ivievine: Yeah, like don’t go to the gym too much, it’ll make you all soft and doughy
tarktarkindustries: Oh man it’s been so long since I’ve heard this too. Like now that I’m an adult this is hilarious to me.
stauffski: Exactly. People think a woman that has a lot of partners is loose, but then don’t bat an eye at a woman that has sex with her husband three times a day. It’s all about shaming and nothing about logic.
irishtrashpanda: I dunno if its the same for others, but if I cum on a shape I stay that way for a few minutes. So if I cum from oral, I’ve had nothing inside me and then I feel really tight if we go straight to sex. It adapts again after a few mins
MilesPrower1120: So, as a physician we treat a number of conditions…like vaginismus, (which is a tightening of the vagina of either a neuromuscular, psychogenic, or anatomic origin) with progressively larger phallic shaped dilators…so my question is…why don’t you think sex with large penises would increase the size when established medical treatment utilizes vaginal dilators all the time?
Not looking for a fight, legitimately asking
First thing on google
Vaginal dilators — Women who have contraindications to estrogen therapy and who desire vaginal intercourse may improve vaginal function with the use of vaginal dilators . This is may be particularly effective for women who avoid intercourse due to pain, since vaginal dilators are available in sets of graduated sizes and a narrow dilator can be used initially. Vaginal dilator use can be taught to a woman by her clinician or she can be referred to a pelvic physical therapist.
wolfington12: I scold my male friends if they use derogatory comments.
What, do we want boring basic virgins? Of course not? We are always attracted to experienced confident women. Extremely positive thing.
oldladygonewild: Also, body shaming is body shaming and this goes for making fun of dick sizes as well.
murderboxsocial: Not unless it’s with one of those bad dragon dildos that is 24″ and 15lbs
lostvoyager22: some vaginas are tighter than others. ive fucked a few girls who i would describe as being loose