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Women use sex toys and it has nothing to do with how they feel about you
I have been talking to a lot of my girlfriends, and have seen a couple of posts here about how some boyfriends don’t like when their girlfriend uses sex toys. I just want to take some time to say: It has nothing to do with you (the majority of the time).
Many times, it is harder for women to achieve orgasms than men. This often stems from women being shamed by society for their sexuality, therefore leading women to not explore their bodies. And of course, any guy who gets laid is “the man”, while the woman is labeled as a “slut.”
We’re told “Men are visual” as if women just get wet at the sight of the overweight, unhygienic man down the block.” (Am I saying that overweight men can’t be sexy? No.)
Now, men – Sometimes it does have something to do with you.
I know that porn is normal to watch, and I enjoy it myself. However, when in nine out of ten videos there is a blowjob scene, but the man does not reciprocate by performing oral on the woman – that might contribute to one of the reasons why so many men are selfish in bed. Please don’t be offended or surprised when I don’t cum the second you touch me.
So, this leads me to let men know: Do not be offended, or worried when I use a nine inch dildo. It feels really good. This doesn’t mean I don’t enjoy when we’re intimate, but there’s something about pleasuring myself and not having to worry about pleasing you that is so relaxing to me.
pepsiicat: I brought up the idea of a sex toy. But it wasnt well received. I guess things that are very intimate to people and stir up insecurities, arent something to be dismissed. Like a gf insecure about porn.
Fwiw i didnt buy the sex toy out of respect
emphesym: Men are visual, women are… tactile?
If men fapping into a tissue while watching another man fuck a woman helps them “spread their seed”, women using a monster dildo is just “getting that seed”!
Literally ALL women do this, and ones who say they don’t are white knights. If you’re a man and have a problem with this, stop being so insecure.
>But next time you’re upset that your man watches porn, just remember, it’s not personal and we all do it. Your acceptance of that will make us love you even more.
You forgot to say this part from the source post. So manipulative.
josephineblack: Listen – I have to say that I might be out of line here.
I might actually be the only woman on earth who masturbates (it’s possible my friends are lying). I know that men are biologically programmed to spread their genetics, so it’s very difficult for many women to understand the concept of sexual pleasure. Women get so easily jealous of their partners watching porn – all men have great self-restraint and do everything in moderation so I know it couldn’t possibly be that porn ever gets in the way of the couple’s sex life, hell no – ).
Sorry if my post is hard to relate to, I just happen to be a very unique women who’s experienced this problem. I even have fantasies that help bring myself to orgasm, even though I would never be interested in experiencing them in real life. What a freak, I know.
**None of this is sarcasm.** I thought the other post was really well written. It helped me understand how men enjoy orgasming, and feel so much pressure to please their partners. I really wish women would try to care about their partner’s sexual needs more, it can’t only fall on men! – I really needed that explained to me as if I was asexual and have never experienced sexual excitement before, so thanks. 🙂
I hope this posts helps any of the other unique women in the world whose boyfriend worries when she uses a dildo double her boyfriend’s size.
josephineblack: Oh, and if you ever wonder why your wife may not want sex – it might not be because women have no sex drive, it might be because *you* killed her sex drive and gave her a headache.
ECircus: I bought my wife so many toys. She has a nightstand drawer full of them. Sometimes I come home from work and find her passed out in bed with the magic wand still in her hand. I think it’s awesome. We have a lot of fun.
LadyLilithStJames: I’d like to add, don’t be afraid of the sex toys! If you get familiar with them, and learn how to use them, you can bring the sex life of both yourself and your partner to new heights.
RIPcherryboyRIP: just thinking about the last sentence, do/have you ever have sex where it is all about your pleasure or is that impossible to get into that head space?
sexthrowaway1678: I’d love to meet a woman who loves using sex toys – I think it’d be awesome and really fun, and that is what sex is supposed to be, right 😉
iLikeToKeepMySexAnon: Well, I agree with the title of this post.
The rest, meh. The part that really got me though is the porn part. Guys reciprocate in all the porn I watch (usually all with negative attitude towards women) and have *ever * watched show been reciprocating and eating the girl out along with trying to give the girls pleasure in other ways.