Just had first prostate orgasm. HOLY SHIT! What else can I do to improve this?
I’m a straight cis male and 22 years old. Several months ago I heard about the elusive prostate orgasm through a gay friend of mine. Honestly I thought it was bullshit. There’s a g-spot inside a man’s ass? No way.
Moreover, sticking things up there always seemed very alien to me. Boy was I wrong. When my girlfriend and I were looking to spice things up in the bedroom I noticed a lot of men’s sex toys were variations of butt plugs and prostate massagers. After noticing this, I concluded there must be some grain of truth to the pleasure that can be sought from a man’s ass. I decided to investigate.
I browsed through several forums like empty closet and a few reddit threads trying to find a surefire guide on how to do it. Afraid of putting a toothbrush or my fingers up there like some people suggested for someone just getting started, I browsed around online to find something nice and inexpensive, but that would get the job done without breaking the bank – or my ass.
Yesterday my toy arrived in the mail and I got straight to business.
Grabbed my lube, hopped in the shower, and took my expedition to the south. Now, for those of you have never put something back there, it feels weird as hell initially. It sort of feels like you’re pooping. But your not.
Thinking happy thoughts, I fished around with my toy for what felt like an 20 to 30 minutes with no results. “It IS bullshit!” I thought.
Suddenly, I found it. I let out an involuntary moan and noticed that my once flaccid penis was beginning to inflate, and fast. A pleasure center which I didn’t know I had been activated. I began to rub it to and fro as the pleasure intensified. What was once alien, was now awesome.
At this point, I was hard as a rock and had this humungous urge to touch my penis, but I stayed true to the instructions I had read and pressed on, penis untouched. I could feel fluid building, similar to when you have to pee, and seemingly when into a trance. All that mattered right now was my prostate. And then it hit. I felt a massive evacuation of fluid and a radiating warmth coupled with pressurized pleasure envelope my entire body.
I felt waves of lapping euphoria smash over my body, and was left quivering. It was insane. I don’t care what your sexuality is, if you have a prostate and haven’t used it, you’re seriously missing out. Please, do yourself and your prostate a favor, and try it out. Brief Guide – some of this is re-worded from empty closets, as a guy on that forum described it very well.
If you’re straight (or not) and afraid to put things in your ass, stop right now. Putting things in your butt does NOT mean there is something wrong with whatever you identify as. This is what was holding me back initially, and I do regret not beginning sooner.
Look up any info you’re unsure of beforehand.
Give yourself a time-block of at least 1 hour to figure this whole thing out.
Grab a tooth brush, your favorite toy, or get ready to use your hand
Use lube. Lots of it. Water based is fine. Or silicone if your toy isn’t silicone.
Pick a location of your choice. I’d suggest the shower or laying down on your bed with a towel.
Locate your prostate and place your palm over your bellybutton with your palm facing down and middle finger aiming toward your penis. When you push down with your middle finger you’ll feel a bone. That is the pubic bone. The prostate is directly under the pubic bone.
You’re going to stick your finger/toy/toothbrush in your anus and direct it to your pubic bone.
What does it feel like? Take the tip of your tongue and place it in your cheek between your back molars. Now feel the tip of your tongue through your cheek with the tip of your middle finger. The prostate is just a firm bump in the middle of a lot of softer tissue like the tip of your tongue inside your cheek.
When you hit it, it should suddenly feel really good, your penis (and smile) should start to erect quickly, and you should feel the pressure of fluid begin to build (similar to when you have to pee).
DO NOT touch your dick as you stimulate your prostate. If you do, you may end up just having a regular orgasm (although it will be intensified)
NOTE: having a partner give you head while you stimulate it, however, feels amazing
Start going to town how you wish, and then explode.
So there you have it folks. I’ve gone from a prostate doubter to a prostate disciple. It’s no joke. Do try it.
Whiskey_Joe: Ok, I have my annoying roommate’s toothbrush. What do I do next again?
VeronicaIsNotMyName: I peg my husband. Haven’t done it for a while. But he is able to get the regular anal orgasm and then separately a prostate orgasm and you are able to tell them apart. The last time I pegged him, I was off the bed and in the bathroom and he was still getting the waves of the prostate orgasm, it scared the crap out of me seeing him so effected after I had stopped. But holy crap! He got all invigorated and mowed the lawn, trimmed the bushes, washed the two dogs, went and got gas for my car – all in about 2 hours. W00 HOO! That is some powerful stuff!
hooblagoo: Hi, experienced prostate-aware male here. Just one thing: point 9 is incorrect. Sometimes you’ll feel something great when you first touch your prostate, but especially when you’re first starting you may not. Things DEFINITELY don’t always work like they did for the OP.
Everyone’s body is super different, and everyone will react to prostate stimulation differently. You may cum buckets instantly, you may have some vaguely pleasurable feelings, or you may get nothing at all out of your first foray into the butt.
One thing to be cognizant of is often men first getting into prostate stimulation think they “can’t find their prostate.” It’s really not that hard to find, just go 3-4 inches up and press on your front side. Lots of men that “can’t find it” are hitting the right spot but not realizing because they’re going too fast, pushing too hard, expecting what the OP described from their very first experience etc.
Remember that expectations are the root of disappointment. Take it slow and remember that setting “goals” is literally the worst thing you can do for your pleasure. While exploring, enjoy the moment. If a new kind of orgasm happens, it happens. If it doesn’t and you ONLY get some pleasure, train yourself not to include the “ONLY” in that thought anymore.
Other than point 9 being misleading, good advice. +1 on the don’t touch your dick idea, if you’re just starting you need to “rewire” your body to appreciate a different a new kind of stimulation. Touching your dick basically puts you into “ejaculatory orgasm mode” and pretty much overrides the best part of prostate stuff (imo). Basically, it sounds like this was easy for OP, but be aware some people need to put a lot more effort into it. And if you’re one of those people that needs to put effort into it I can say (because I was one of them) it’s SUPER WORTH IT to put that effort in. Just make sure you’re enjoying the effort and it’s not a chore.
If you do decide to try getting into the butt stuff my advice for starting out is:
1. Be gentle
2. Go slow
3. Be mindful of all sensations
4. Dont touch your dick
5. There should be absolutely no pain
6. When in doubt RELAX. Tensing may feel good for a second, but the divine and highly pleasurable non-ejaculatory prostate orgasm comes from a place of relaxation.
Hope this helps!
ferretsarerad: Female here. My boyfriend is hinting at trying this, but we are still fairly new lovers and it hasn’t come up in actual conversation as of yet. At present he’s only… caressed my ass a couple times with a finger. I’ve never done anything to a man like this and am very open to it, but have no clue as to technique. Any help or advice for a newb?
throwawayandmakemyda: You’re my hero. I’m so jealous. I had one once, years ago, and quite by accident. I’ve been chasing that feeling ever since. How deep inside did you have to dig?
CranjisMcbasketball2: Did you ejaculate as you would normally? Or, was it more like precum, but with an all-over tingling? I have been toying my ass (not regularly, but sometimes) for probably 7 years and have never ejaculated from it alone, but I do sometimes have the sensations that you’re describing. Also, I can do autofellatio, and stimulating my prostate while I blow myself is pretty amazing. 🙂
Svdharma: Am I the only one who read this as “just had first prostate exam. HOLY SHIT!? What can I do to improve this?
Populartalk: Yeah I started experimenting a few weeks ago at first I was confused as to why I liked it all my life society told me that straight men shouldn’t like things in their ass otherwise you’re gay.
I’m still coming to terms with this new way of masturbation, I’m still confused but I’m sure that’ll pass
buttstuffthrowaway99: okay so I previously gave it an attempt but couldn’t figure it out- i’ve always been extremely interested in this but also concerned that given all the rave reviews it gets, that experiencing this would ruin traditional penis based orgasm for me and i’d end up having to peg myself every time i wanted to get off without feeling disappointed. i remember reading a post on here about a dude who gave it a shot with his girlfriend’s suction dildo and became so addicted to it that he ended up questioning his own sexuality and considering searching out men for a more “authentic experience.” I’m not worried about that level of change, but I don’t really want to have to have my girlfriend peg me every time I want to get off. can anyone reassure me about this?
DUDES. Haven’t you ever read the horror stories of people at the ER with miscellaneous items up their bums?!
Never put anything in your ass that doesn’t have a flared base!!
The last thing you need is for your oh so glorious mind bogglingly awesome prostrate orgasm to end in a trip to the ER to get that toothbrush dug out of your ass by a sexy nurse who’s just going to tell that story to everyone they know at every party ever for the rest of their lives!!
Spend the dollars on an actual butt plug, or use your fingers, because your ass won’t eat them. Probably.
Robsta92: Congrats dude, had my first one a month ago. No toy but I was determined, totally worth it.
qodbtwss: toothbrush? nah dude
fotografamerika: To anyone who hasn’t done it, I’ll say that for me, sometimes it’s an intensely euphoric feeling crashing all around me, but more often it’s nothing. Getting there is 90% mental until it clicks. Cannabis helps, alcohol diminishes. It’s worth experiencing it because it’s amazing and like nothing I’ve ever felt, but don’t expect it to be as easy as OP makes it seem. But I’m sure everyone is different.
spookylif: Ah yes, men underestimate butt stuff so much . I was with a guy for three months recently, who had had a LOT of straight regulair sex. But I noticed the further I went “down” went giving him a blowjob and touching him, the more he enjoyed it.
So one we were super drunk and I just went for it. He really enjoyed it, it seemed, but was kinda shocked bc he never tried it before.(he didnt cum bc he was too drunk haha)
After that idk if he remembered it but I didnt wanna pressure him about it. But soon I found put that he loved me massaging and licking him “down there”. He could cum so fast when I did that while he touched himself.
He wasnt too fond of getting anything up there tho, (probably the whole “feels alien” thing).
But it took him bout a month to start sending me videos (he lived far away) of him masturbating and fingering himself. He got really into it.
When we saw each other again and had sex he literally begged me to use my fingers. He absolutely loved it, and I dont even think we got to the hitting the prostate part!
Sadly he broke it off shortly after. I dont miss him but I miss that part lol (and honestly Im pretty sure he does too). He said it was the best sex he ever had, despite how many he’d been with.
After that I also tried using my dildo for butt stuff haha and it feels amazing on a whole other level even tho Im a girl. You just hsve to get over the “it feels odd” part, and take it sloooow.
Kinda sad we never got to do more stuff bc it was amazingggg.
I kinda secretely hope the guy Im seeing now is into it, or else he’s missing out biig time.
Also he was 22 and I was 20 🙂
zenzizi: > I decided to investigate.
And now I have a 10 inch dildo. True story. xD
TomsCardoso: Will do.
estilled: So our Prostate is in the equivalent area as a woman’s “G-Spot”?
scrungobeep: Yo I need to bookmark this shit
thatdesignerguy: I envy you 🙂 Tried this a few times but never experienced the mind-blowing orgasm. I reach to a spot where my body aches to cum and I’m literally shaking from pleasure but never reached that peak and release. Any suggestions?
biltoestuck12girls: Hi. Sounds like a very pleasurable experience. Did you do an enema beforehand? And is it recommended before trying to massage your prostate?
And is it possible to massage your prostate with your fingers?
And how long should this prostate massage take?
nauticalfiesta: Don’t use a toothbrush, the end is a bit too small and you risk a perforated rectum. If you’re going to put anything back there make sure it 1, has a flared base, and 2, isn’t glass, too small, or overly pointy, and 3, is well lubricated.
Edit: Glass toys are fine. Don’t be dumb and use bottles, glasses, cups, beakers, etc.
slopoker: Another take on prostate play…
Rocket63: Just reading this……great writing!
Minkirra: Glad this worked for the OP. I’ve been experimenting with this for easily over a year and haven’t come anywhere close to that type of experience. Eventually just sort of gave up thinking mine is broken.
_spacepussy_: This gets my stamp of approval. Have fun, explorers!
Edit to add: Thanks for sharing the experience, OP! I will be passing this along to some of my friends. Full body orgasms for everyone!
Vigicanthus: For some reason I just cant ever seem to cum from anal though. My partner and I have both tried for hours and we just cant seem to find the right spot, then we get tired and have to stop. Does anyone have a solution for this? We’ve used toys and fingers and nothing seems to do the trick.
BaidDSB: I don’t think I can handle this sort of pleasure.
fap_fap_fap_: you don’t really need a toy…
during bj, i like my partner to massage my perineum (part between balls and anus, also known as the taint), or fingering my ass and play with my prostate from there.
i can cum from a bj without that, but it’s just not the same intensity!
fullmoonhermit: Love this post! My ex and I tried a variety of toys and dildos, but he always swore by the good old two finger tango. Glad you’re having fun. Be careful with that toothbrush though. 🙂
AlfLeibor: Fuck I hate you. I’ve done anal play from anywhere between fingering to full blown pegging with my wifey at various points in the last 13 years, and never had a full blown hands free prostate orgasm with ejaculation.
cinemaparker: I feel like I should be wearing a long robe and a mask on some Eyes Wide Shut shit before I voice my approval.
andyanwar93: About how far in the anus until you hit the prostate? Is a finger long enough? Is it easier to reach the prostate with my finger if I reach around my body or straight down between my legs?
I’ve tried fingering myself in the shower but haven’t touched my prostate before because I’m just unsure where it is exactly…
Leadzombie: What did you use that was inexpensive and got the job done?
sarcastagirly: That’s awesome and great details …
I will share this with male friend of mine
but I also want to let you know about sounding… 🙂 I have worked with a male friend of mine and he said that was a beyond awesome orgasm ….
so it might be something you want to look into also you would want to use a sterile lubrication and start out small there’s some great kits on Amazon
> Yesterday my toy arrived in the mail and I got straight to business.
>having a partner give you head while you stimulate it, however, feels amazing
DAE find it odd that after the wall of text about the supposed experience there’s no description of the moment he tells the girlfriend and then she decides to blow him later last night?
wieser5711: I’m still very new to this and I started with a very small plug. Should I have started bigger? What toy did you use and where did you buy it. I really wanna feel what you all are feeling
Cirrustratus: do you eyaculate with this kind of orgasms?
officialmistressminx: This post makes me wish I knew how to give someone a gold!
JustBoredAsFuck: I’m so glad to have read this, so many straight guys think it’s weird to try stimulating their prostate! I’ll definitely get my (future) boyfriend to try this if he hasn’t already
anon-guznc7_3imtro5d: take some stimulants but make sure to poop first
Sekolah: I have to admit, I read this as prostate exam.
PopeMolestusXXX: Been trying for years with no real luck. I just give up and go for the (more powerful) regular orgasm, but that’s all I get. And I have 6 toys.
RoosterRed: what is the evolutionary reason for men to have a pleasure center in their butt
Mistress_Zoe: Everyone has a pleasure center in their ass. We just have to dig for it
courierofdreams: I (16m) started doing this about a month ago myself. I experimented with fingers absolutely coated with lube and it was the best orgasm of my life. The I started using a spare toothbrush and oh it was even better. Who knew sticking a smooth long object in your ass was so good! As of right now I’m buying a butt plug full set and some proper anal lube (turns out saliva won’t cut it) and boy am I excited. I should have my toys by Friday but god I wish it could be sooner.
Mr_T-Rex: I always had a hard time getting a orgasm. Never gotten it. I tried many Bad Dragon dildos over a year, but never worked. I feel like something is wrong with me.
bananaflansquirrel: Please don’t ever use a toothbrush! Too many ER horror stories! Other than that, enjoy the fun!
ViolenceJoe: Thanks for telling us you’re cis.
mynsfw1982: I like the idea of anal masturbation more than the actual act. I have a basic starter plug, small starter dildo, regular thick dildo not specifically for anal and some beads. I’ve tried and tried and have not managed to have any of them actually improve my experience. I kind of think at this point maybe it’s just not for me.
TomsCardoso: When I saw this post, I tried but yeah I just got the feeling I was pooping, which is normal i suppose, cause the same nervous endings are being touched. I did find the prostate and I could see that I could feel pleasure by touching it. But the feeling of pooping was doing a lot worse than touching my prostate did good. Plus after I stopped, I pooped immeadiatly(I tried two times, same thing hapenned both times)
ZzLewd: May i ask what toy you got?
Mindgate: So,… what was that toy?
Redasshole: Any time I touch my prostate I cum so fast I don’t get to enjoy it. I mean I litterally cum in about 2 seconds.
Minkirra: I think this requires a level of relaxation I just can’t achieve. To those this works for, that’s awesome more power to them.
like1wouldtellyou: “For whet felt like 20-30 minutes”
I don’t even think I could do 1.
Really? We’re doing this now?
gravyboatsgravyboat: cis??? What is this new language??