Alexandra Daddario [‘Braless’]
Still attracted to college boys
Tldr: I’m thirty something year old professional woman that isn’t attracted to anyone except 18-22 year olds and I’m concerned about LTR/dating etc
…Using a throwaway today because I post a lot professionally and personally identifying info in other subs here…
A little background info, I’m a CPA at an accounting firm, senior manager, live and work in a large city, in my thirties. Never married.
My problem is that as far as I can remember I was always attracted to college boys up until this day. And it’s not just a normal “oh he’s hot” type of deal, like it’s to the point where I’m not even remotely interested in men my age. When I was in school I used to find college boys extremely sexy.
That was fine then…Then I graduated and started working. Okay for a year or two I could hook up with college guys and justify it because hey it’s only a year or two difference. I work a lot. Like a lot a lot. So I got drawn into the working life and didn’t date for the longest time.
Then I started to feel like I wanted sex again and when I got into Tinder things got bad quickly.
Like all I do is hook up with college kids and I’m a successful professional. I wish I could like find a boyfriend maybe start a family some day but I spend all my free time on tinder swiping right on guys that are 18-22 and swiping left on everyone else.
So I’m like exhausted, feel like I’m living a double life, professional woman by day and borderline creep I guess at this point at night. I just wanna settle down by when I do I can only see myself with someone younger then me and it’s concerning because everyone ages, obviously.
Any feedback is appreciated and welcome. Thanks
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Coidzor: I’m thinking you’re going to need to pursue therapy if you really want a relationship, then. See if there’s something psychological going on here that can be addressed. Maybe a sex therapist that can help address any fetishization going on.
Since at present, even if you did scoop up a youngin you’d lose interest in him after a couple of years, which isn’t exactly conducive to having a life partner.
ScorpioLoverboy: There’s nothing wrong with this. There are many couples with big age gaps who make it work. Just need to find a younger guy willing to commit. Admittedly not easy, but still possible.
And you’re not a creeper.
AlliThinkAboutisSex: You’re fine. Everything is consensual and it doesn’t seem to get in the way of your professional life. Have fun while you still can. Now if the genders were reversed you’d be literally Hitler according to reddit
a_boy_and_his_girl: Traditional relationships may just not be for you. Maybe you will find a like minded person you enjoy cerebrally who will be your platonic life partner. You will buy a house near campus together and both bang 20-somethings until you croak!
hellotrishamarie: There’s no shame in liking what you like. One of my partners (43f) has five college aged partners (including me) and one of them is her primary and they’re planning their life together. As long as everyone is a consenting adult, don’t worry about it. You’re not being creepy.
Bourne9: You do you. As long as you’re having fun.
Snesgamer83: You’re fine, at least you’re not preying on really young high school students like some of the female rapists you read about or anything. But I can forsee this becoming a problem for you if you settle down with one of these college boys and end up cheating on him when he becomes too old for your tastes.