Expecting to have sex 2-3 times daily for a week. How to keep hard?
I (early 30s m) am in a long distance relationship with my gf (same age range) due to work circumstances. We haven’t had sex before but we’ve talked about it, sexted, and masturbated together over video calls. We both have high sex drives and are pretty uninhibited about trying things.
We have a week together starting next week. It’s a workation, but I’m expecting we’ll spend most of our free time fooling around or having sex outright.
Any tips on making her happy? Specifically, I’m worried that I won’t be able to stay properly hard having such a high frequency of sex. I don’t have any trouble maintaining erections normally. Is there anything I can do to help get/stay hard?
ElectricSwine: Just realize that sudden wear and tear in her lady parts may possibly lead to pain, so don’t have too much too fast or you may find yourself on the sidelines the last half of the week.
You simply being there is going to make her the happiest, so just relax and enjoy the little time you have together.
FunkyHats: Honestly, I’m not trying to be a dick, I think you might be slightly overestimating it. Especially if you haven’t had sex before with this person. This is like before Thanksgiving, when you say you’re gonna eat a whole turkey. You never eat a whole turkey 🦃.
huxleyanne: She probably won’t have the stamina for that either. 2-3 times on the first day would wear me out enough to only want it once the next day.
Don’t let the sexual moment end when you cum. That’s my advice. It makes me feel like a queen when my partner continues doting on me afterwards.
here_for_buttholes: Work out hard every day between now and then, with one rest day before the meeting. Make sure to eat plenty and stay hydrated. Keep your hands and mouth on her during your downtime to keep the mood alive, and don’t focus on trying to get hard again just let it come when it’s ready.
kissssr: Especially if it’s your first time meeting in person, try being slow. Maybe once a day as an expectation and only if you’re both up for it go again.
Honestly you don’t have to be hard to get her off if you’re still into it and she is too. You have hands and a mouth. Hands do a LOT trust me. Don’t put so much pressure on yourself – your penis is not the entirety of your sexual being. 😉
I’d worry about making it too much about sex (although of course it’ll be important). This is the first time you’re meeting in person! That’s exciting! Explore each other! Hang out together! You’ll get to sleep next to each other! All of those things can be just as awesome as the sex.
roxiclavi: Spend a good amount of time with foreplay and sensual touch. Having that need and desire heightened will do a lot for having a good romp
FireFerretDann: In addition to the other good advice people are giving, remember that sex doesn’t have to be about only putting your penis in her vagina. There’s a whole plethora of ways to have fun in bed without an erection! Cunnilingus, anilingus, dirty talk, fingering, the other kind of fingering, sensual massages, pegging, plain old making out, penetrating her with toys, kissing every inch of her body and having her do the same to you, as well as plenty of kinkier things. Depending on your comfort level, you probably don’t want to do all of those things right way, but be creative. Normal people can’t maintain an erection constantly, as long as they want, whenever they want. Your penis has limits, but your mind doesn’t.
FullContactTwist: Have you ever used a cock ring? I just started using one and it is amazing! If you put one on your shaft, your cock will get as hard as it can and stay that way. For example, you know how your boner is thickest and hardest right when you cum? Well imagine it’s that hard from the beginning and it stays that way until you jizz. As a side note, my cock ring 3-pack info sheet said rings that go around balls make you last longer.
Kaiel3216: Yeah I’d be more worried about wearing out her vagina. Also, you don’t NEED to be hard to have fun. Just relax and stay hydrated. Your dick is gonna do what your dick is gonna do.
Canuckadin: Just remember to ask your lady how she’s feeling down there after a couple times. I remember when the girlfriend and I started having sex we did it alot. She wasn’t use to that frequency. After 3 days of multiple times a day I noticed she was stiff but she didn’t say anything when I made a move, I asked if she was sore. She said she was but she was still enjoying it. We stopped and took it easy for rest of the week. Skip to the present, we can have sex as much as we want and she doesn’t get sore now.
Coziestpigeon2: Lots of lube. Lots and lots.
imp_of_santa: If your only concern is erections, there are pharmaceuticals to deal with that.
But really, erections are not the issue. You can always just go down on her; girls like that.
TheVapenessMonster: I do this regularly and confidence is the key. She has to help build it up too. It’s a 2 way street where you are a “sexual beast”, and sure of yourself.. And she craves that self assured man who takes control and relishes her pleasure. You might not cum every time, but if you get off on giving, you will feel like a stallion who just won’t quit until she’s obviously enjoyed herself several times. Be dominant in a loving manner, move slowly and tease, extending sessions into a long buildup. Practice being a very careful lover, not just a PIV jackrabbit.
goodguy101: Kegels. Seriously.
Also, don’t just jump to p in v every time. Give a lot of oral. supplement with a finger, or two. After a good pounding, check in with her about how her vagina feels. I’m gifted in the size department so i have to check in with partners for back to back sessions.
Older_But_Wiser: Frankly, at 30 you might have the stamina to do it as long as you have a little time between sessions and she works hard to make you hard.
I’d suggest Cialis but you’re going to have to get a prescrip, or some samples, from your doctor for that. You could mail order from India but there isn’t enough time for that. Although if you live close to the Mexican border…
If you can’t get it up quite that often then oral is your answer. Hell, oral is likely a large part of the answer no matter what. Go slow and make it last and consider giving her multiple O’s in a row with oral. Mrs Older loves that!
EDIT: One final point: You might be *expecting” it, but don’t get your hopes too set on that expectation. Especially if you’re expecting it the whole week.
KloverKover: Take the v-pill, if this is important.
Bearoused: Go to Adam and Eve and buy Rhino 7 pill. It works.
aetheradept: That’s not gonna happen man. Just do it when you want. If you want it then you’ll get hard. 3 times a day is ridiculous.
salt_and_zephyr: I agree with the other exercise comments. I improved my hardness by doing just three things: limiting masturbation, running, and drinking a ton of water.
Now I can get hard again at the drop of a hat and I love it!
adamdreaming: Easy, don’t cum. I’ve loved fucking like an animal nonstop for a week straight, the only price you pay for the buffet is that you really have to save dessert for the end or you will ruin your appetite. I understand that this is not everyone’s cup of tea, but I really suggest trying it. When you take orgasm out of your own equation and just focus on the moment to moment pleasure of being in the process of having sex it takes things to a whole new level.
GETaylor: Stop putting pressure on yourself to perform. This should go for both of you. Relax and let it happen, don’t go into it with expectations. Thinking or planning the way you are currently doing is as likely to cause you problems as much as anything. Chill out a little, use whatever you prefer to enhance the situation (booze, smoke, whatever). But stop over analyzing it and just flow a little.
AshyKneecaps: you’re planning the frequency of sex you’re going to have? stop lol just go with the flow and fuck when times right during that week
conky420: Is usually slam my cock in a car door after the 2 time in one day helps the blood flow give it a try might work for you
4nonyninja: Are you a virgin, by chance?
2 to 3 times a day shouldn’t be an issue, depending on what your refractory period is like. 2 to 3 times in a session is where the problem is.
Sex in the morning, afternoon, night. Easy three times. Plenty of break between sessions.
Drop_: You could try cialis to make sure you don’t have erection problems.
It’s a lot of pressure to have sex 2-3 times daily, so erection issues could be real for a bunch of reasons.
Get some exercise in when you can in between because physical stamina may be taxed too.
Also make sure she is always well lubricated, and have extra lube because that much sex can be hard on internal tissues.
RinkanShojo: Pace yourself you’ll be fine! You’re at a good age 🙂
yarmysmardarm: omg, the update on this next week will be legendary.
takemybadadvice: I would recommend reading: “The Multi-Orgasmic Man”
It teaches you how to ‘injaculate’ instead of ‘ejaculate’
Basically, it’s teaching you how to separate your orgasms from ejaculation. What makes men go limp, is when they blow their load. The more you blow, the less energy you use. According to Tao-ists, the energy used to create life (Sperm), is created by A LOT of other energy you put into your body. Such as food/nutrients. So whenever you release that load, you lose energy and therefore, all the blood in your penis.
It teaches you how over time, you can learn to control your ejaculation, so instead of spilling out everywhere, you just experience the orgasm.
From personal experience, I will state that the orgasm you have when you injaculate is MUCH better than the orgasm you experience when you ejaculate.
It is this reason that I prefer injaculating over ejaculating. That, and I can last for literally hours without my penis going flaccid. I would seriously look into it. I recommend it to every male
macaroon18: Dont climax. Don’t think about staying hard, its not a performance with goals and objectives. If you’re thinking about parts of your body then you’re not fully present with your woman in the moment. She wants a human being not a machine.
petergozinya85: Worrying about achieving or maintaining an erection is the #1 killer. Stress and self-applied pressure will quickly put you in a place that not even Vitamin V can fix! Just take your time and enjoy it all. Especially with this being your first time together, there’s alot of anticipation making it easy to get inside your own head and get distracted.
Another thing to consider… I’m sure you’re well aware of how much she’s looking forward to enjoying your body as well and may quickly get to that “Just fuck me already!” point right off the bat. That doesn’t mean you have to stick it in because she’s saying she wants it right that second. Many women (I’d venture to say most) love the anticipation which only hightens her arousal and making her wait is a good way to “take charge” without being overbearing.
Enjoy yourself and let us know how it goes!
rustybuckets: Don’t focus too much on PIV. If you’re gonna have whole day marathons you can just have fun and tease your way into each session.
edubkendo: Creatine can increase testosterone.
A combination of vitamin C and garlic extract can improve circulation and increase nitric oxide in the blood, making it easier to get erections.
Burntoacrisp2: Water and sleep.
Markioperpe: Get some viagara or something. No shame at all in it at any age. I get pretty rock hard naturally but man that shit will take it to the next level.
Snesgamer83: Is she specifically demanding 2-3x a day? Because if not, both of you should be open to each other if either of you are feeling the strain of “keeping up”. Mentally, you may be more able to keep erections if you don’t place yourself on a strict schedule also – just have fun without feeling the need to hit some kind of target goal.
inwhycee: Get enough sleep.
Southernerd: I’m about 5 months deep in a multiple time daily sex routine. For some reason, my wife suddenly turned into a nympho and its sex in the morning, sex before we put the kids to bed, and sex after that. On weekends is been as many as 5-6 times a day. All I can say is don’t depend on a hard dick all the time. I just don’t think its possible. Focus instead on full body using everything at your disposal (fingers, mouth, body) and use your dick as an accessory to your session. This will help you on those times when you unit is too exhausted to keep up, which will happen. Also, supplements may be needed for your semen supply. I’ve been taking zinc and lecithin and along with staying hydrated it has helped a lot. Other things to consider are a good supply of lube and toys. Also, it may be a good time to explore kinks and try new things as it will be more and more difficult to get excited. Tie her up, DP he with a dildo (or a friend), do whatever to have fun and keep things exciting. Good luck!
RBorowitz: If you haven’t had sex and you’re both 30, she’s not your girlfriend. I don’t care if you’re both astronauts, that’s ridiculous.
IkraamV: Green tea extract 900mg, Maca complex from your local GNC, L-Arginine 3-9g (some have better effects from lower dosages of L-Citrulline), squats / weight lifting (not super heavy), light yoga, being in a fasted state (myself for example, I don’t eat after 9pm and drink water for hydration before bed and upon waking. Sometimes I don’t eat until 6pm or later) as eating and/or feeling full can make it more difficult to maintain your libido and erection – you can also hit up gas stations and look for VIM-21. Lasts all fucking day and then some for me, but it’s a hit or miss.
Also ginseng complex from Walgreens. Stack most of that shit on top of each other and you’ll be a machine.
Also cock ring. Hair ties work as well, but only wrap your cock and balls once or twice depending on your girth. You don’t want to cause any damage.
TheStinkfister: A situation like that calls for Viagra. Or Aurogra, way cheaper and you basically just order it from a website with broken english. Unbelievable. That’s my move in those shoes.
ThisIsHowItStartss: My boyfriend and I have sex 4-6 times a week and he doesn’t have a problem staying hard and my vagina never hurts. I guess, just be horny.