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Finding a fuck buddy as a guy
My ideal scenario would be someone (female, I’m straight) I could have exclusive sex with without the emotional commitment on a regular basis. Any suggestion how to find one?
neversiempre: Good luck with that.
pornpiracypirate: A long term fuck buddy IS an emotional commitment. Just not the same one as a regular relationship.
sad_throwawaaaaaaaay: You’ll struggle to find anyone who will have sex with you *exclusively* without emotional commitment. Either hook up with a girl on a night out, get her number and see if she’s up for it or find someone online. You can find anyone on the internet.
Wereseal: Hate to be that guy who comes in only to say something utterly obvious but there’s “F” in “FWB”. Most of the time such relationships start between people who are already friends and enjoy each other’s company, not the other way around.
You can try Tinder for one night stands but it’s not very likely that you’ll manage to keep it long term(and exclusive, if that’s your thing).
highly_aware: Yeah I’m pretty sure you’re trying to find a piece of hay in a needlestack here. Sorry but it’s gonna be hard to find exclusive fuck buddies and no emotional attachments. Drop the exclusive part and you’ll have some luck.
ooo-X3R0-ooo: I found one, or rather we found each other.. We were friends for a few years first, she and I got to talking about virginity, she was one, I wasn’t. We got drunk and she asked me to get it over with, I said no, not like this. Sober the next morning we did. And we kept doing it for months.
I often wondered how a guy approaches a woman, but then it made sense, you need to offer her something she needs and doesn’t have. In my case I offered her familiarity, security and a way to experiment and learn comfortably.
Find a girl, and get to know her and find out what she needs.
joe-ducreux: Is this a serious post?
_CinderKitten_: You want a girlfriend without dealing with the relationship part… Good luck
hurrem-hutan: Nope. I had a FWB and had no intention being exclusive with him. We both knew the deal going in.
I didn’t want to deal with his emotions even though he tried to put them on me as he started falling for me and wanted to get more involved in my life financially. No thanks.
Maybe you need to be more specific in what you want to be exclusive in the relationship. Do you want to be fluid bonded and therefore not use a condom etc? But would you be ok with you both sexing others but being safe(r) about it?
azuredly: Two ways: 1) be attractive, and 2) don’t be unattractive.
white_titty_lover: Unless you are some prime specimen of a man you are probably fantasizing. I mean you have to look at it from a girl’s perspective for a girl having sex is extremely easy. Most guys will screw anything that has two legs.
I have been someone’s friend with benefits before. But it was really just because the circumstances were just perfect. We were interested in dating each other but we were extremely busy. So one day while we were in the car we just went at it. And then we went at it again when we got back to my apartment. And then we were just like hey let’s keep doing this this is fun.
Throwawaymicio: Dude, you can’t have it both ways. If you want a fuck buddy, fine. If you want exclusivity, fine. Those are two different types of relationships. Why would any girl choose what you are proposing?
I agree with the other comments that it sounds like you’re just not willing to put the work in for a relationship. If that is the case, get a FWB and get over the fact that it’s not going to be exclusive. That’s your best bet IMO.
And as far as advice for general fuck buddy finding, my (F) male friend texted me and straight up asked.
mrcrassic: A friend of mine who basically does essentially this spends a *lot* of time on Tinder. He’s pretty successful at it.
your_highness_xoxo: Tinder looks like it can help you.
OneBananaMan: So I just recently started using Tinder, went on multiple dates, 5 in 4 days, was actively talking to many more. I kissed each one after the date, never really followed up on meeting again, mainly cause I just didn’t care. Met another girl on Tinder, she wanted a FWB deal, it happened, multiple times, we were exclusive. I ended up moving away, but yeah.
Just put yourself out there, Tinders worked moderately well for me. It’s 100% about the pictures. I had a friend take some nice DSLR photos of me, touched them up a bit in photoshop to get that perfect color. That’s what I’d recommend
eutaxy: Have you heard of hotwifing?
I’m a straight, married woman in my early thirties. I have a husband who I love, but I also have a much higher libido than he does. On top of that, he’s turned on by the idea of me sleeping with someone else.
Honestly, this is the kind of situation I look for. Exclusivity (unless you count the fact that yes, I have sex with my husband, but he does not have sex with anyone else) is a major bonus, as we are extremely careful about STIs.
Some wives are looking specifically for guys who have huge dicks or are sexual Olympians, but others are happy to find someone who’s GGG and can be trusted to be exclusive for the sake of safety. You aren’t (at least with healthy, sane couples) expected to fill an emotional void; it’s a true fuckbuddy kind of setup.
It may be worth checking out r/hotwives and r/hotwiferequests.
Mustang80: Tinder is a good place, but anywhere really. And just tell them you want to be exclusive but not bf/gf.
Source: Dude who only has exclusive sexual relationships.
samicita: This is like… every dudes dream.
Fionaxoxo: I found mine by re-connecting with an old friend from my teen years, we also briefly dated for 3 months when we were 15 but that’s not made a difference to what we are doing now.
We meet up around once a month or maybe twice a month, we don’t talk inbetween, and we both know that we aren’t suitable for eachother in a relationship way.
We have a good time and also talk about what’s going on in our lives, show affection, fuck alot, drink and then go back to our lives the next day.
shazbottled: All the ones I found were friends beforehand. Otherwise don’t expect exclusivity and even then maybe not, depends on the person. Emotional attachment is likely as well