What’s the most underrated part of sex?
I feel like people are so focused on the end goal and orgasms that the actual sex is rushed and/or under appreciated. But what do you feel is a part of sex that is forgotten and not appreciated nearly enough?
TinyCynner: That moment when your SO touches a part of you you’re insecure about, and for a short while you feel okay about it.
doyouwantablow-job: The feeling of anticipation right before he puts it in, when you feel like if you don’t get fucked real good in the next five minutes, you might die.
Ghostofjohnandre: Kissing, necking, making out for extended periods like 14 year olds
JabberwockyJurist: The ability to laugh at it sometimes. Sex can be hilarious and that can really bond you.
peachykitten2931: Hot and heavy make-out sessions… neck kisses… worshiping parts of each other’s bodies that make us feel self-conscious and telling them that part of them is sexy as fuck (stroking egos and soothing anxieties)… eye-contact that communicates everything you want and don’t want to say to each other while you’re tearing into each other… building up anticipation for each other with dirty chats/emails/pictures/phone-calls/Skype sessions… making subtle body movements/facial expressions/breathy sounds around them that lets them know you’re turned on just by being near them…
Basically, there’s so much more than just PIV when it comes to sex and when you skip over that other shit you’re missing out on so many things that make a stellar sexual connection with someone.
Don’t miss out on those things. Go all in. Be animalistic. Be flirty. Don’t be afraid to think beyond yourself and your own needs. Build the other person up until they think they’re a god/goddess in your eyes and they WILL reciprocate in kind.
Don’t be afraid of intensity.
It’s amazing and it’s worth it.
spac_erain: Eye contact and guy moans.
PolySoulMan: The facial expression of your SO while you are at it
Whitecrow1979: Falling asleep tangled in each other’s arms. Both with a massive grin on your face.
lightofaten: The initial touches that lead to increased heart rate and heavy breathing. The flood of endorphins. Body heat. Smell.
gspotman64: The feeling of her wrapping her legs around my waist or hips, especially if wearing stockings. Then using the heel of her foot to push my ass a bit so that I fuck her deeper.
solidad: * Making out and foreplay are a no brainer.
* Post-sex cuddling and basking in the “afterglow.”
* Building tension even before sex. PDA in a a public place. Some naughty texting and similar things.
mydogruf: Eye contact!
nyguy4321: I enjoy watching boobs bounce either in cowgirl or her laying on her back. I don’t get to see nygirls’ boobs bounce in other situations.
ASDMEL: gotta be the after-sex cuddling/pillow talk/napping
just smth about being sweaty, exhausted, satisfied and sharing this moment with someone.
CBBuddha: For me, it’s that moment when you both are so in love with each other that during sex, you both just stop. And look at each other. Really seeing that person. Unbroken eye contact. No words. Just a subtle hint of movement at each other’s hips. But realizing you would do anything for each other. It’s, for me, *the* moment. Life is held in that moment. It’s the moment of creation through the act of becoming one with another person. I’ve only had that moment twice in my life. Nothing in the whole universe can compare to it.
Love. Real. Sweaty.
Everything fades away. But this never will.
TonightSheComes: Making out.
claptrapwouldtapthat: The foreplay, personally like that more than the actual sex. Call me cheesy but the romantic part is probably the most fun for me.
EDIT: also just makes reaching the end goal easier and the sex better and more enjoyable.
SapphireBrienne: The little laughs and smiles in between. I melt.
bethiet: I’d say getting him hard in the first place, that is one thing I find incredibly fun and hot. I often think about that as much as anything else.
jessebased: Sharing a glass of water after a long session
Chunkook: After the act, when you feel that lethargic bliss, but you know you gotta get up and hide the damn corpse.
Dumbsignal: That moment when I lift my head up from going down on her, and my beard is dripping all over the place.
Quiltron3000: The moments where you just lay there after it’s done just cuddling each other listening to each other breathe. Now excuse me while I go punch a wall to feel tough again.
illstaydirty: For me it’s the first time my partner touches my clit, I usually have been anticipating and waiting that even that initial touch is such a rush.
scout_jem: For me it’s when I can tell he’s losing control. When his thrusts become more erratic and his breathing is sharper and heavier at the same time. That gets me going and it’s not uncommon for me to orgasm when he does. It’s amazing.
WinterCharm: cuddling. 🙂
oi_rohe: Using enough lube
Mtnskydancer: The points where he grips my waist so tightly, claiming me as his. And again as a hug, that clasping.
MeowlCarnivore: The cleanup. For my fiance and I, it’s pretty intimate. We usually grab towels, curl up beside each other to chat while we dab each other up, cleaning around each other’s privates.
jcpr24: I think oral is the most underrated part of sex. I LOVE giving blowjobs to my FWB. Or maybe I just have an oral fetish. Don’t know. I know he enjoys it but there are just times where I just want to go down on him for hours. He’s usually pretty eager to getting straight to the point because he’s so turned on, but tbh I like giving him that sensuality and it turns me on when I go down on him.
Okay. Maybe just a fetish. Lol. But to me oral is underrated and I usually don’t care if he compensates since I like it so much. But that’s just me.
Bigjboy1966: The wonderful glow and cuddling afterward.
itsjustmeandthedog: My fwb remembers everything and lasts for hours. lol.
ScorpioLoverboy: Foreplay for sure
Jrc7711: When she leaves afterwards