How dirty can I get?
I am here to ask for a very open minded view, ideas and opinions.
I (F30) am in a LDR with a guy (M33). We’re of different cultures which accounts for very different ways of expressing what we feel and what we want. We already had sex and was really good! Pretty vanilla aside from some anal sex that he seemed really into. I like it as well, so was a win win.
Anyway… Now we are in the long distance part of our relationship (:(, I miss him). We exchange pictures and stuff… Once we were exchanging pictures and he said he liked it dirty. Ooooh… So I step it up a notch on the naughtyness… More explicit pictures, touching myself, all good stuff and he liked it.
A few days later we were doing it again. And he kept saying how he liked dirty… And casually asked me to send a picture of me peeing. I was a bit surprised by that.. But I did! (shy) I liked it! Honestly! It was different, and I liked it!
But he keep asking me to show how more dirty can I get… So here is how I am looking for help here:
- How can I go up the scale getting dirtier, without end up stepping out of any boundaries?
- How dirty people into this kind of things usualy like? Besides peeing, maybe menstrual blood…
- I think this kind of request represents a bit of letting the guard down from his side, do you guys agree? Maybe that’s not easy to spill out. At least I think so…
Guys, again, Open mind, ok?
LadyLilithStJames: You guys need to sit down and have a conversation about likes, dislikes, and limits. Otherwise, someone is going to end up hurt.
friendlyswingers: This is going to sound a little simplistic, but I suggest asking him what he is into and what turns him on. I would hope he would reciprocate and ask you the same. Should result in a building of trust conversation and hopefully help you determine what “dirty” means to him. You might also clarify with each other what are fantasy turn ons vs. fantasies you might actually want to try for real.
tawa83: Ask him to send you a pic of what he wants to see — cuz you’re ‘dirty’ too!!