F19 – Sexual feelings towards a close friend after she was there for me through a rough time….
Erm, kinda as the title says I guess. I have a close friend that I have recently found myself really attracted to. Like I catch myself just staring at her sometimes, or I find myself thinking of her in sexual ways when alone of an evening etc. I’ve never really felt any sexual attraction towards another girl before and I’m finding it all rather confusing. I not long got out of a relationship with a guy that cheated on me and left my self esteem destroyed, and my friend has been there for me a lot while getting over this. I’m not sure if it is just this or… I really have no idea. I have found myself watching FF porn and trying to imagine me and her, and I enjoy the me time, but then I get overwhelmed with feelings of guilt etc and feel like I’m doing/imagining something I shouldn’t. I guess i was just wondering if anyone had experienced anything similar? Will it just pass? Am I just confused because I’m in a pretty emotional place right now? Any advice? Sorry for rambling… thanks in advance x
NYCBankLawyer: First off, sorry to hear that you weren’t treated right in the first place. Second, you should NEVER feel guilty about sexual feelings that you have. Nobody is going to be able to tell you if these are real true feelings for her or if it’s a feeling of loneliness. The only way to tell is time. I would say to continue to spend time with her, see how your feelings evolve or not and if it’s right you’ll know. Good luck sweetie!
jimgoddamnit69: I vote don’t do anything sexual with anyone until your emotions stabilize. Then if your still feeling that way towards her have an open convo with her and see how she feels about it
phlipps4u: I’m not sure it will pass, allow yourself to feel these emotions.
My take on what you shouldn’t do is feel guilty about something that is normal.
I never think it’s good to look for someone on the rebound of a break up, but don’t reject these feelings they are normal.
lilgoaty69: If I were you I would wait for a little (cheating can bring out strong emotions) and if you still feel that way after some time I would reconsider. I wouldn’t want to put a friendship at risk if those feelings didn’t last, but if they persist then I would say go for it!