Faking orgasms isn’t as harmless as it might seem – it can actually mean there’s a real problem in the relationship and you’re more likely to cheat…
THAT cafe scene in When Harry Met Sally contains the most famous fake orgasm ever.
But while Meg Ryan’s character in the film was only demonstrating how easy it is to fake it by getting excited while eating a sandwich, in real life pretending to climax can reveal a likelihood to cheat.
New research suggests women who put on a show in the bedroom, while actually being left unsatisfied, are more likely to cheer on their partners.
Scientists looked at the orgasm frequency of 138 female and 121 male university students, who were all in relationships.
The aim was to see whether couples who were sexually happy were more likely to stay faithful.
Couples questioned had sex an average of three times a week.
Women orgasmed 61% of the time, compared to 70% of men.
“Everyone has faked ‘The Big O’ at some point”
Researchers found faking orgasms was more common among the women.
In almost a fifth of sexual encounters (18%), women said they faked an orgasm to spare their partner’s feelings.
Men faked it just one in 20 times.
Almost one in six of women questioned admitted they had cheated on their partner.
The figure was higher for men – with more than a quarter (26%) admitting being unfaithful.
Orgasm frequency, on the other hand, had no impact on infidelity.
The women who had the most orgasms cheated no less or more than women whose climaxes were more hit and miss.
It also found that men were more likely to stay with a partner who orgasmed consistently.
The findings were published in the influential American blog, The Psychology of Human Sexuality, which looks at sexual behaviour.
Dr Justin Le H Miller, a psychologist from Harvard University who analysed the findings, said: “The more orgasms a woman had faked, the more likely she was to have cheated previously and the greater her likelihood of cheating again. Fake orgasms say a lot more about a woman’s odds of staying faithful than actual orgasms.”
The new findings follow British research from sex toy firm Lovehoney which showed 68% of women and 28% of men had admitted faking an orgasm.
Khloe Kardashian, 29, and her mum Kris Jenner, 58, both admitted recently to faking The Big O.
“Everyone has faked ‘The Big O’ at some point,” said Khloe. “You’re like, ‘Oh my God, what did I get myself into?’ or like, ‘Dude, hurry it up. We got work in the morning.'”
Sex and relationship expert Tracey Cox said the majority of women have faked orgasm at some point in their lives because of the difficulty of climaxing purely through penetrative sex.
She said: “One theory might be that since women fake it more often than men do, perhaps they feel obliged to provide ‘evidence’ that they’re enjoying themselves?”
Cox has her own range of sex toys with Lovehoney including the bestselling Dare range.
Lovehoney co-founder Richard Longhurst said: “Our research shows that couples who have great sex lives tend to stick together. Sexual happiness is the key to successful relationships.
“Most couples who use sex toys say their sex lives improved as a result.
“This research has some interesting findings about faking it but what jumps out is that couples stick together longer if they are both sexually happy.”
Lovehoney is Britain’s biggest online sex toy retailers and sells more than a third of toys bought online here.