Men WANT To Be Made Love To — And So Do Their Penises
How To Give A Blowjob By Making Love To His Penis
Among the many lessons I’ve learned from the men in my life, one that may come as a particular surprise to women is that not all blowjobs are created equal. In fact, there IS such a thing as a bad blowjob, and men are disappointed with their partners’ oral skills more often than ladies may know.
“She was just trying to hurry up and get the job done,” is an explanation I hear over and over again.
Although women do earn kudos for being proactive in bed, many of them seem to be going through the motions, something men do notice and experience with frustration.
While there’s a time and a place for every technique, women must remember that we aren’t the only gender who appreciates slow sensuality and the art of lovemaking. Men may not vocalize it, but they also like moments of non-penetrative body worship. Even if he doesn’t yet know the pleasures of cock-amory, if you will, trust that he’ll want more of it after you orally express your loving desire for his lingam.
So how exactly does one “make love to a penis,” as one of my frustrated male friends described it?
Slow down, baby, and become more involved.
Remember that he has sensitivity around his penis, not just in it, and that licking, kissing and sucking not just his dick, but also other areas very close by, creates sensational buildups and delightful breaks in between those moments your mouth is full of his phallus.
Guys go nuts over their nuts being played with and I’ve never met a man who didn’t welcome his perineum being teased.
Use your tongue, not just your lips, when you work your way up and down his dick, and remember that the varied use of a free hand creates a more robust sensation when combined with your sensual suck.
Men aren’t always looking for a jerking up and down motion. They actually love to be stroked, tickled and caressed while your mouth is exploring his body and capturing his gentle reactions to your controlled, wet, movements. Try gently and slowly stroking his shaft while also softly sucking a testicle. Or, try teasing just the dense nerve endings of his glans and corona with the inside of your lips while massaging his taint or his anus.
There are so many different bits of a man to give attention to and so many ways to do it, so if you think you may be stuck in an oral rut, definitely try to slow it down and switch things up.
Oral sex is not Daft Punk. Harder, faster and stronger does not mean better.
Again, there’s a time and place for everything, but if you stop thinking of giving oral sex as a motion to go through as quickly as possible and start treating the act like his body is poetry rolling off your tongue and feathers under your fingertips, you may find that your skills quickly earn you the title of giving the “best blowjob ever.”
Yes, ladies, men do want to be made love to — and so do their penises.