Eye contact during sex
I’ve noticed something about myself recently and that is I really don’t enjoy holding prolonged eye contact or being stared at during sex, but it seems like men really enjoy looking at me while they’re fucking me. That’s fine and all, but one of my previous partner’s told me to look at him all the time and he hated it when I closed my eyes (maybe he thought I was fantasizing about someone else?). Understandable I guess, but I would much rather just lay my head back and close my eyes than feel obligated to maintain eye contact. I find it very distracting and it’s already difficult to get my off. Some eye contact is sexy, but not the entire time.
Is this silly and do I need to get over myself? How do you feel about this? Would you be insulted if your partner didn’t want to look at you the whole time? I can’t be alone here.
BlazingLeo: Male here. It seems to me that the majority of men are stimulated visually more than women during sex.
My advice is do what you like and avoid what you don’t like. It’s perfectly ok to not like eye-contact so much and feel more relaxed with your eyes closed. Don’t let any partner make you do anything that you dislike, including eye contact. It’s not silly, and I would not be insulted if a partner didn’t look at me so much (of course, I would still like to feel wanted in other ways).
humbleclincher: I’m not a big fan of it myself but it can be sexy now and then.
My boyfriend likes to watch me but he knows I’m not one to stare back at him. So we compromise and I’ll “check in” now and then. I look at him a lot more when I’m on top as he tends to close his eyes and put his head back in that situation, so I like watching his face.
Generally I find prolonged eye contact awkward in almost all situations, let alone sex.
iLikeTheHighOnes: I’m a closed-eye kind of girl too, or a staring at the spot where the action is happening type. Doesn’t bother my partner. Occasionally I’ll look up and find him staring at me which turns me on even more.
DrFrenchkiss: I find most women close thier eyes during sex. I really get turned on if a woman stares into my eyes while having sex. Some women get a kick out of it, others not. It is one of those things a couple should discuss. Variety is always fun.
KingOfTheSchwill: I hate it, I usually avoid it by kissing the whole time instead
brucemarkland: Soul gazing is a nonverbal method of communicating intimacy with your partner used in Tantra….it can be very powerful for those that choose to practice it.
jidery: I find it incredibly hot
Iam_G1999: By closing your eyes you can focus on the pleasure. Nothing wrong with that.
wearetheweirdosmrs: looking at the partner all the time and expecting the same from him/her is weird, I wouldn’ like that either. I like the variety during the act.. sometimes I look at him/me/us, sometimes my eyes are closed, sometimes we look each other in the eyes..
sexythrowawaythai: I’ve never really thought about this. In fact, I never worry where I’m looking at during sex, but I’m sure as hell not staring in her eyes all the time. There’s so much else to see when playing with her body.
Nucks_Nation: Men are very visually stimulated, not to mention we are all quite prone to studying our partner’s facial expressions and body language for clues on how well we are performing. Men are always the ones under pressure to perform well!
Prolonged eye contact is definitely weird though, unless both partners are into that. Perhaps your BF just really enjoyed the intimacy of staring into your eyes. Most partners won’t expect this from you though.
buffystakeded: We have eye contact but it’s not usually prolonged. I guess do what you want and what makes you feel better.
sangetencre: I’d be weirded out if they wanted eye contact the whole damn time. A little bit is fine. A little bit more is fine with a long term partner. But constant? Eh… that’s too distracting. I need to be able to concentrate on sensation.
ssorkss: That sounds annoying as hell. Variety is the spice of life. Sometimes eye contact works, and sometimes you just wanna close your eyes and feel the sensation. If he really does feel that way because he’s worried you’re fantasizing about someone else, that’s so insecure and unattractive
zmoney218: I think it just depends on who you are with.