My [MTF Pre-Op] boyfriend said something strange during sex last night.
Throwaway for obvious reasons.
Background: I am a 24 year old trans woman, and my boyfriend is a 25 year old cis man. We’ve been dating for about 5 months and have anal sex regularly. He has always been a caring and loving partner, which is why last night was so unusual.
Last night, we were having anal sex and I was receiving doggy style. We always use lots of lube, foreplay and make sure I am “well-prepared.” Last night during sex, however, he yelled happily “this is pooptastic!” in a voice that imitated Gilbert Gottfried very well. He always did a spot-on Gilbert Gottfried impression.
When I first heard it, I laughed, but he laughed harder, still in the Gilbert Gottfried voice. He said other unusual things like “your butthole is going to be reversed!” and “you’re never farting again!” all while laughing. I eventually get a bit frightened. Right as he’s about to cum, he does this squawk-scream, cums, then tells me to “you’d better fart it all out!” all in this strange voice.
I go to the bathroom, bewildered, confused and feeling kind of violated. I come back and he’s back to his normal self.
What should I do?
talkinboutfuckin: I’m sorry because I know you feel disturbed but I can’t stop laughing at that mental image, oh my god.
I’d just ask him directly what made him decide to do that.
mooney-driver: I’d just ask him to please not invite Gilbert back to the bedroom.
ivythewitch: It seems like a joke that just went too far.
Tell them you’d prefer to not have to have Gilbert back and move on
cantmakeitup09: …..hang on….just a minute…my side hurts from laughing….ok, uh yeah what the others said
Call_Down_For_What: This. This right here. Posts like this are why I come to this sub.
HuckleberryPoundTown: I vote you respond in kind. Can you do a Joan Rivers?
I dunno if it’ll *fix* anything, but it should at least inspire another amazing post.
tresealexandra: I didn’t find it funny like the others did, but maybe because my partner and I don’t usually joke around. Ask him straightaway so you can be at ease. Tell him what bothered you, your opinion about it, and whatnot.
devenluca: I’d ask him what the heck just happened.
03throwaway03: Um….I can’t tell you to stop feeling violated, but I can’t imagine this was meant in any malicious way.
The FASTEST I ever stopped a girl from having anal sex was when for some reason I was talking dirty and remembered that her grandmother referred to butts as ‘bobos’.
So I yell out, “Yeah, you like that in the bobo, don’t you?”
She laughed so hard she physically pushed me out and no more sexy times were to be had for the night.
In seriousness, he was probably just having a good time.
Eteel: Move on. He was trying to be humorous. Talk to him and say you don’t want him to do it again.
Next time something like that happens, use your voice. You say you eventually got a bit frightened during sex. I get that, and I’m not trying to blame you for anything, but I am going to say that your boyfriend isn’t a mind-reader. At first, you were laughing, so insofar as I can assume, he thought you were okay. Next time please use your voice and withdraw consent from whatever it is that’s making you uncomfortable and inform him of your feelings so that he can act accordingly and make you feel better. I understand why you feel violated, and it’s important for you to understand you wouldn’t have felt that way if you told him to stop (assuming he’s a decent guy who cares about you and who would thus stop. If he wouldn’t, break up.)
C0rdt: What the fuck lol this is hilarious
lasey_guy: If I ever did this to my wife I better hold on real fast because she’d buck my funny ass right off! Then we’d probably have a conversation that starts with “what the fuck”.
But seriously though? I’m picturing this whole scenario in my head and it is hilarious!!
obries39: I’m sorry, I find this kind of hilarious. xD I know you felt odd afterwards; it is quite strange.
Maybe he was just being goofy? I wouldn’t worry about it. Maybe just bring it up with him in a joking manner and laugh with him about how weird it was (but emphasise the weird part if it made you uncomfortable). If he does it again, then sit down with him and ask him to stop.
Tiny_Tai: You need to get a sense of humor, he sounds fun!