My mom sent me a text last night that, at first, I thought was spam. “Check out my free implants . com!” So I did, and this is what I found out.
The basic premise of this website is that there are women out there who want cosmetic surgery, breast implants, to be specific, who can’t afford it. The website states that its goal is two bring together two groups of people:
Women that have a strong desire to enhance their physical appearance through cosmetic surgery.
Benefactors who wish to help these women improve their self esteem and confidence through cosmetic surgery.
The women who are seeking surgeries can set up profiles with information including their names (or aliases), short biographies, physical attributes, and what procedures they desire.
Along with your bio you can upload an unlimited number of pictures of yourself. These pictures are one of the key components towards achieving your goals. (emphasis mine)
The Benefactors, it seems, are supposed to be men (although not stated explicitly), and they can buy message credits in order to send messages to the women seeking cosmetic surgeries. These benefactors then help the women earn credit for their procedures.
And remember… the best part is seeing the newly transformed ladies after the surgery when they return to the website to post pictures of the results. You can take pride in knowing that you helped her improve her self esteem and self image!
That is where my main problem lies. I can just not get down with the idea that these women are going to owe the self-confidence and sense of self-worth that they gain from these procedures to other people (most likely men).
I understand that the Benefactors do not necessarily have to be men, but the feeling I got from this website was very heteronormative (if anyone disagrees, please comment!). Anyway, I have major problems with women, and people in general, basing so much of their self-worth on the opinions/desires of others instead of on their own accomplishments and talents.
In the FAQ section of the website, the question “Do I have to pose naked?” was asked. The answer:
Not at all. The content of the pictures you post is entirely up to you. Some ladies choose to reward donors with sexy photos, and the range of “sexy photos” varies greatly from person to person.
Another question, “Who will see my pictures?,” garnered the response:
The pictures you submit to the site can be viewed by any active benefactor member. Viewing photos however requires a login and password so that your photos are not viewable on a public website. Keep in mind that the more members that see your pictures the sooner you will reach your goals. (emphasis mine)
This site just does not sit right with me. It promotes this messed up idea of women easily getting what they want through being “sexy” by emphasizing the importance of pictures. It also seems to reinforce the idea of these women “owing” their new sense of worth/confidence not to anything of their own doing, but to the people who donated money, and that’s really not a sustainable base for something as important as self-worth.
This site just really rubs me the wrong way, despite the positive message it tries to send.