Aisleyne Horgan Wallace
Nicole Coco Austin
How do I get my man to cum inside me more?
I love it when my husband cums inside of me, but it’s just not his preferred method of orgasm and I’m at a bit of a loss (he likes BJs). We have a wonderful marriage, but aside from the first couple of years of dating and when we made our son, he has really refrained from orgasming inside me, even though we’ve talked about how much I enjoy it.
The reason he says he refrains from it is because of fear of pregnancy…I’m not on any type of birth control and we don’t use condoms. However, I’d really like to start practicing more natural family planning or the rhythm method — basically allow for PIV ejaculation on my non peak days. He says this still really makes him nervous, even though I keep good track of my cycle and it’s very regular. But also, we have both agreed that we are okay with the consequences of having another baby sooner than we would ideally like. We had a long conversation about it tonight and he agreed that we can be a bit “riskier”. It really turns me on, I’m glad we communicated and can be open with each other, and he’s agreeable, but it kind of bothers me that I feel like I have to twist his arm. Our usual routine is oral, PIV intercourse, then oral again to finish each other off. I’m kind of bored and want a PIV finish.
Not sure what I’m looking for here other than maybe to just vent?
talkinboutfuckin: >but it kind of bothers me that I feel like I have to twist his arm
Instead of letting that bother you, be glad you married someone who is intelligent enough to recognize potential consequences and plan for the long-term. I’d much rather have that than a partner who doesn’t give the future any thought.
wanderingdev: You know what they call people who use the rhythm method for birth control? Mom and dad. If your husband was really ok with you getting knocked up he’d be cumming inside you. It sounds to me more like he’s in a ‘i don’t really want this to happen but if it does I will suck it up and deal with it’ kind of place, which ain’t really a great mentality for having kids. You should both be actively excited not tolerant if there is an accident.
Stappern: > I’m kind of bored and want a PIV finish.
get on birth control then. YOur husband clearly doesnt want another child right now. respect that.
Hailsagansdick: It sounds to me like you obviously want another baby sooner than he does; even just subconsciously. I’m not denying that if tracked and follwed religiously without any (statistically impossible) user error the rhythm method, cycle tracking, and pull out method can be effective for what the research defines as “short peroids of time”- but your wording, the inclusion of him saying he’d be okay with “consequences” of an unwanted pregnancy, saying you keep “good” track of your cycle, coupled with the fact that it’s 2018 and you aren’t using ANY birth control while *not* trying for another child and knowing your husband is uncomfortable- yikes. There are so many birth control options, non hormonal if that’s an issue, that you are straight up **already** taking a much higher than normal risk without him finishing in you.
I have a child. I now have pristine birth control. And did not use condoms with the last guy I dated, he *almost* always came inside me- and idk, but FUCK, it was one of my favorite things about him fucking me. I totally get being with someone who you care about so much and are sooo attracted to that you just HAVE to have him fill you up with cum. But do you know a huge part of why he made me love it so much?
We were on the same page. We both knew getting pregnant was a zero percent concern, and therefore were completely at ease and able to *enjoy* the experience. Your husband is not as ease. Frankly, he doesn’t have to be- and is smart not to be. You’re asking of him to do something that will bring you 1 minute of pleasure at the potential expense of something drastically changing his life that he clearly doesn’t want right now. How do you not see how selfish that is?
You have so many options… there’s pills and IUDs and arm implants and non hormonal options and female condoms and condoms and spermicide and FUCK… just respect your partner.
j0hnnyf3ver: Tie him to the bed!