How to fulfil stranger fantasy when in loving relationship
My boyfriend and I have been together for about 5 years and we have a healthy relationship and good sex life. One thing that seems to turn me on is the idea of having sex with a complete stranger. I am very attracted to my boyfriend and I would never cheat on him, but I feel guilty for having these thoughts. And it’s not like I have them about particular people, like I never see someone in public and think oh I’d like to have sex with them, I only really have eyes for my boyfriend. Does anyone have any ideas of how I might be able to fulfil these fantasies with out cheating? (which I would never ever do). I don’t really understand why I’m having these thoughts as it hasn’t really got anything to do with sleeping with someone else
Tim_watts1738: I’ve read this somewhere in the past so just passing the idea along. How about you both role playing and dressing up as new people, meeting at a random bar and then heading to a hotel for a night? If done right it could def spice things up and help satisfy your stranger fantasy in a safe way.
Peach342: You and your bf could try role playing..meet somewhere you wouldn’t usually go and pretend to be different people.
AlfredJFuzzywinkle: Make a game of it! Pick a night when you are going to arrive separately at a designated bar! Wear a disguise, a new outfit, rehearse a back story about who you are (tonight) meet up flirt. Leave tother and make wild love at a cheap hotel!
reflected_shadows: If you can persuade your boyfriend into things like swinging, kink, fetishes, etc., you can attempt to get onto one page about what’s acceptable and what isn’t, then start finding people who you can enact those fantasies with. For many people, having sex with others will be a dealbreaker. You could also ask what his fantasies are – does he want a threesome, or have some friend he wants but can’t because he’s with you? “Favor Trading” can benefit people in situations where you “both get a pass”.
UncomfortableRun: There’s always suction cup dildos you can pretend you’re at a glory hole or something.
WildWellington: Erotic hypnosis. He could learn, trance you, and make you think he’s someone else (but your unconscious knows you two are just playing).