I want to watch girls take turns on my fiancé
So we have reached the point in our sex life where we have tried a lot and are comfortable with each other. I got 3 of my friends together and asked if they would be down to all take turns on my boyfriend and they agreed. It didn’t really take much convincing because he is very good looking. I talked wih hik about it and he said yes only if I was 100% into it which I am. So I need advice. What are things to keep in mind after it all goes down?
ExhibitionistVoyeurP: Get everyone tested for STIs first and share results. Don’t take “I’m clean” for an answer. Clean is code word for “I have no idea what HPV is or how STI testing works”. Share actual test results. Talk about boundaries and things that are allowed to happen. Talk about what you will be doing during this. Talk about aftercare.
Diggs4President: Inb4 the regret post in the coming days
but in all seriousness, do you think you will be able to maintain the same kind of friendship with your friends after this goes through?
heraclitus33: Idk, but what a lucky lucky guy.
Coidzor: When’s the last time they had sex with anyone else and do they have clean bills of health from STI testing recent to the time after they cleared the STI testing windows since their last sexual partners? Are you going to try to practice [safer sex](http://www.scarleteen.com/article/bodies/safe_sound_sexy_a_safer_sex_howto)?
What kind of contraception are they using individually, if any? What would they do in case of a birth control failure? Are all of them healthy enough and able to make use of emergency contraception in case of a broken condom? Are you going to be using condoms?
Are you going to use male condoms or [female condoms](https://www.ohjoysextoy.com/internalcondom/)? If you’re using latex condoms, have you made sure that no one has a latex allergy? Have you made sure that either A. no one involved has a sensitivity to [spermicides](https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/birth-control/spermicide) if they’re going to be used (including on spermicide condoms) or B. no spermicides are going to be used?
Do you have plans made for [aftercare](https://www.ohjoysextoy.com/aftercare/), not only for yourself and your partner, but also your friends? Have you discussed what kind of contact you’ll have in this arrangement with each of your friends and your SO? Have ground rules been laid for what kind of interaction each of them is expecting/OK with from one another, you, and your SO?
Have you made it clear to your SO what you’re OK with? Have you worked out signals with your SO and friends that mean it’s time to stop or slow down or dial things back a bit because a comfort zone is being threatened or crossed?
Girlnamedsue1: In my experience, thinking/fantasizing about this may invoke different emotion in you and him then what emotions you both might feel when its actually happening. Cautionary tale to follow…
A long time ago, I was hesitant about bringing sex partners into my relationship but my guy was ALL about it. So we experimented with guys and girls and swaps. Turns out, I was perfectly fine with it all but he couldn’t cope with the fact that another man had been able to please me. Ended up getting super jealous if I even talked to a guy. Questioned why I was ok with it all and would say terrible things to me because of his insecurities. Ultimately I had to dump him. That experience taught me that I am super open and sexually free and I’ve never looked back. But it also taught me to proceed with caution and test boundaries more slowly with a partner.
MazeMiami: Hope there friends you don’t like
PFalcone33: Is everybody clean? Protection needed?
wiik3dkiid: It was your decision and you cant hold him to his actions that transpire on that night
Subrosa_Squirrel: Keep in mind he is going to have sore shoulders from the amount of high fives he will be receiving. He is one lucky guy.
Seriously, Just makes sure everyone is tested before you do anything and the two of you sit and have an open discussion about ground rules and do’s or don’ts. If there is something you don’t feel comfortable with or he doesn’t feel comfortable with discuss that upfront.
wakesome: I’m curious – will it turn you on to watch?
knowitallz: You will never know ahead of time what could trigger you to all of a sudden think. no!! Stop. So talk about it together. All of you. What should happen if that was the case.
Check in with each other as it goes.
Be sure to save some alone time together afterwards to connect. It can be overwhelming.
Don’t be concerned if this is the best thing that sexually has ever happened to him. It may take a while for everyone to come down from the high.
What about the other ladies? What if they feel weird about it? How are you going to deal with it? Who will they talk to.
This stuff is great but can bring a lot up… To the surface.
C813247: Let him do one of your friends first, and start slow. Maybe he plays with boobs and your friend plays with his dick etc. Then you just close your eyes and reflect on this if you wanna go ahead.
From my experience, you will get a bit jelous when another girl pleases him, he closes his eyes or moans.. but if you are really into it, both of you will love it, and you can talk later how you both felt. If you are bi curious, you can join them too
ZeekOwl91: Most would think that your boyfriend is a lucky guy here, but I think your friends are the lucky ones, because when do these kinds of scenarios present itself, the chance to have sex with your friend’s good looking man? If everyone’s okay with it(*especially you*), and as others have stated boundaries, STI results, protection, the whole shebang, then hopefully you’ll all enjoy it.
Be safe, and have fun!
Hannibalx7: Would he let u do the same with men or are u personally not interested in that?
mmm_smokey_meats: Where can my wife find some friends like this?
throwaway8899775566: If you say it’s “ok” with you watching, he’ll do it when you aren’t. Is it really worth it? Did you grow up thinking that is what marriage was all about? Why get married? Do you really want him to have those memories when you get a little older and lose your looks, or life becomes complicated? When you stop being fun and life gets real, he’ll be looking for that stuff to escape, he won’t turn to you.
Just a thought.