Have you participated in a [rape fantasy] or [rapeplay]? How did it go? What advice or hindsight can you share?
My boyfriend and I, who have been having dom/sub type sex regularly for the last six months are looking to explore a [rape fantasy]. We’ve talked about it for awhile, and we’ve got an opportunity to have a whole house all to ourselves for a weekend, so we’re considering pulling the trigger, so to speak. We talk a lot about what we’d like to try and what we’d like to avoid, so I’m not super concerned about him randomly doing something I’m not into, but I do want to have a good experience, so I’ve been reading through some threads about bad experiences and making little notes about what to avoid. However, I’m getting a bit nervous because there’s no threads about how great anybody’s experiences were! Haha. Ease my anxieties?
MDJollyBootsofdoom: My ex was super into rape fantasy. I am not. I indulged her as a special treat on occasion, and it never went bad. As long as you talk about everything that’s going to happen before it happens, and have a safe word in place you will be fine. My advice is simple communication is key,
tropisms: I’ve done it a couple times, some of them it was really hot, other times it seemed kind of fake like the chemistry wasn’t really there (even though it was normally), but never bad.
The two most important things I’d say are talk about hard limits (sounds like you already have) and the other is make sure you have a safe word, that way it’s CLEAR that the play/fantasy is over if you need it to be.
OceansideCa: I’ve done it 3 times with 3 different women and they all enjoyed it. 2 of then brought up the idea even.
Safe word is key but also the male being very dominate too. If he can’t act the part you might as well watch TV.
shrdbrd: I believe there’s a success story in r/ RAOBJ, pretty thorough story
arriflex77: /r/rapekink has plenty of good stories, some are about actual rape but some are consensual role play. If you have safe words (and signals or sounds in case you are unable to speak), and have discussed hard limits, you should be good. Have fun, sounds hot :))
Ninj3mys: I would suggest having him practice getting in the mindset of being dominant, but immediately stopping and switching to aftercare when the safe word is said. Do this without any actual sex acts once or twice. My SO has me fully trained to immediately stop when things aren’t comfortable anymore and this really helps her relax and let go when she wants to.
3Alyssa: I did it a lot with my ex. I guess it was kinda awkward at first because I mean it’s just weird to go about it and pretend your fighting and doing all this stuff during it. But it was our favorite thing ever honestly. We had to like hint on when no meant yes basically haha. You just have to have safe words on when no means actually no sometimes. But we really enjoyed it honestly.