I have finally accepted that women have variable opinions on the size of a man’s member.. it is liberating for a slightly smaller guy…. I wish I could have accepted this years ago……I never believed women could be satisfied by my penis or that size doesnt matter for some women.
Do you think men with slightly smaller members should have a talk with a woman he is about to sleep with before the act about his penis ? or maybe before things get too serious ?
( Please mention if you are male or female if you answer this question )
REad3r: Male here. Don’t mention it, you will seem to be too insecure==unsexy. Imo penis is great for getting of you, not women. Get her of with foreplay, don’t count on your Dick.
joycatj: I like smaller dicks cuz I’m quite small with a low cervix, and I love giving oral and also like anal. But it would be weird if a guy gave me some kind of disclaimer about his dick before sex. Just use what you have with confidence. Any grown woman who have had a couple of guys knows that dicks come in different sizes. If I love the guy I love the dick, no matter the size.
thegirl4n8: I personally don’t think that you should have to give a *disclaimer* about the size of your penis. I would never give such a disclaimer about the shape/size of my vagina. It’s your body. You shouldn’t have to make excuses for it. And no mature woman should go into sex with expectations that you will be massive. That’s inherently selfish, and inherently selfish people aren’t great sexual partners anyways. I had a friend once tell me that she would expect a guy to tell her in advance if they were smaller than average, and I looked at her differently ever since. Sex is about mutual pleasure, and everyone deserves pleasure. Not all bodies are “perfect”. And no one wants to be held to an impossible standard. As long as you are being gracious and accepting towards your partners, then you should be treated in kind.
Sielmas: Woman here. I’m glad you’ve found a bit more confidence. I don’t think any man should be compelled to disclose his size to a woman before sleeping with her. In the times I have come across a particularly large or small one I’ve probably taken one second to go oh okay and work out what I’m going to do with it, then happily set about my business.
MrBunqle: I’m happy for you. Women are individuals. Once guys understand that, we do much better relating to them. Good luck with your penis!
EmpatheticBadger: I don’t think men should talk about the size of their penis to their female partner before they have sex. Do you think women should talk about the size of their labia to their male partner before they have sex?
Making love is about so much more than the penis. There is kissing, there is oral, there are hand jobs, there is anal play if you like that. Make love to your partner, use everything you’ve got to give them pleasure and show them how much they turn you on. Stop focusing so much on your own penis.
callmeiti: > Do you think men with slightly smaller members should have a talk with a woman he is about to sleep with before the act about his penis ? or maybe before things get too serious ?
100% no, unless she specifically asks about it.
earthw0rmy: I don’t think you should have to disclose your penis size like that. I would feel uncomfortable discussing the shape of my vagina or other body parts to new partners, and I don’t really see the point because it’s just not a big deal. We all have slightly different bodies and shapes and sizes; it’s natural. I do think women (myself included) care way less about penis size than men think we do. I’ve also been with guys who thought they were really small (compared to porn maybe?) but were actually very average sized. Anyways, I’m glad to hear you are gaining some confidence in your penis!
dragontology: Size queens’ opinions are valid, but for most women, it’s more about how you can make them feel. A more inexperienced gal who’s only had big dicks might be put off by a smaller guy, but if he knows how to use it and can make her feel good, she’ll appreciate what she’s getting.
I’m a guy, and I don’t think a guy should have to explain the size of his pecker before he whips it out. Just like a gal shouldn’t have to explain if her inner labia are larger than her outer labia. Some guys (assholes) can be really rude about this and for no good reason. Now if a guy has a micropenis and he can’t penetrate, then that’s a medical condition and maybe that’s something that should be discussed. Because she is going to be surprised, and if you didn’t have the heart to mention it before, it’s probably gonna hurt when she laughs. The easier course would just be to throw it out there as a joke.
Personal anecdote: I’m the smallest guy my wife’s been with, but I’m the one she chooses to be with and has done exclusively for over 12 years. I’m not gonna sit here and brag about my skills or anything, but I must be doing something right.
emilysbs: Just think of the like this, we are all different. Right? You know that. So is every vagina. Some vaginas are tighter and a giant fat dick hurts a lot. Some vagina canals are shorter, so a longer dick fucking hurts because it pokes too far. So that sucks cause you can’t get pounded the way you want. That was me with my ex before my husband. His dick was too long. My husbands dick is shorter but perfect for me, whereas the ex’s long dick always hurt me and I hated having sex with him. I use to think there was something wrong with me because I never wanted sex and thought I had low sex drive. Husbands dick fits me perfectly and now sex is a lot better. Turns out, dicks and vaginas are somewhat like Cinderella and the glass slipper.
NoGoodKeister: All dick, when used well, is good dick. There are size queens out there, sure, but when the majority of men in the world have under 6 inches, I think you’ll find the majority of women are just fine with that. I think most women would complain more about not being able to use it, or not giving good or enough foreplay.
OliveCake: I (F) have had experience with all sorts of sizes, from tiny to massive. Overall it made NO difference to how good the sex was. One partner with a smaller penis was AMAZING in bed, probably my best, and some guy with a larger than average Penis was really not that good of a sexual partner. And all variations in between those two. I don’t expect a disclaimer, in fact that’s part of why it’s fun to undress and discover a new person.
hellswrath_: To answer your question, I think it is up to the man if he’d like to disclose it beforehand. When I had a fling with a man that had a smaller penis (in girth and length), he did tell me beforehand. I like knowing what I can about a partner before I sleep with them, so I appreciated the info. But it didn’t factor into my decision to sleep with him. When I did (the fling lasted about a month, we hooked up a lot in that time span) size played no role. I had fun! I was satisfied. I’m female.
Ambitious_Hippie: I remember years ago reading the Kama Sutra in translation and being elated to discover a whole section that goes into detail about the different sizes of penises and depths of vaginas. It was put into rather unflattering terms (cow/bull, horse/stallion, rabbit/hare IIRC), but the point of it was: we all come in different shapes and sizes, and we love all there is to love. I’ve been with a variety of partners (different ethnicities, circumcised/uncircumcised, different sizes) and you just adapt to the situation as it.. ahem.. arises. You can always find a position that works great for both parties getting off, it just takes creativity and exploration. Oh, and hands, fingers, tongues, lube… it is NOT about size (for men) or depth (for women); it’s about angles of penetration and caring enough to keep working at it until you can make each other come in all kinds of lovely ways.
whyaremyeyesburning: I’m female, and I think discussing your size with a partner puts an unnecessary pressure on them to reassure you that it’s fine, no matter how they feel or what you say. It comes off as needy.
But it’s something you can address during foreplay/sex, while you’re trying to figure out what works for you.
I_Like_Turtles_Too: I’m a woman, and no. No, don’t warn someone about the size of your dick. It’s gonna be a weird conversation and neither one of you are gonna be comfortable.
I’d never worry or be upset about the size of my partner. Sex is about the experience together, no matter what’s in your pants.
sinscyanide: 1. Don’t do the disclaimer thing.
2. Don’t ask her if it was big enough afterwards.
3. Have confidence in your penis, and she probably wont think twice. (That doesn’t mean be cocky)
I haz pussy
capricorn68: Because there are varying opinions on the importance of size, giving a disclaimer may cause more problems than it will solve. Some of the best sex I’ve ever had was with men who were on the smaller side – including the only vaginal orgasm I’ve ever had. My current partner is self conscious, because his previous gf harped on it. But it’s just the way he’s made, and I have no complaints. I love him either way and our sex life is great so it works.
nestene4: I’m female. I usually assume that guys think they are smaller than they really are, just because so many guys have insecurity about size and are used to some of the insane size in porn.
I’ve had that talk with a few of the guys I slept with but those usually went one of two ways: a guy might brag about how huge he is and those sessions *never* we’re anywhere near enough fun to be worth it or a guy may try to bring up size hoping I’ll be ok with “something too small”. It *never* has been too small for me to have a lot of fun with and one of those was my late husband, who fit me perfectly.
I’ve run into too big to enjoy without adaptation, especially as the really big guys tend to think all they have to do is whip out this monster that doesn’t fit and probably doesn’t get as hard either. I’ve run into guys of any size with erectile issues. But I’ve never had a bad time simply because someone was small and we couldn’t figure out something fun.
Go ahead and talk beforehand; that’s almost always a good idea whatever your size. Maybe size matters to her and probably it either doesn’t or she’s better not trying to fuck an eggplant anyway. But don’t put it as “I’m tiny and will disappoint you”. Talk and find out what makes her zing and you’ll probably both be happy.
gerrythegiant: We must we keep calling it a “member?”
skywater101: Anxieties like this, which as a below average black man I share, are why I’m sort of glad a dating website like 7 inches or better exists.
My hope is that women who are focused on that can go there, so that the rest of the ladies taking a chance on us, are the ones who can forgive a small one
WildPhilosophy: I once had a woman tell me unsolicited that her vagina looked like a Playboy vagina (whatever the fuck that means). When it came down to it, she had what was in my opinion one of the most boring vaginas I’ve seen. My point is, it’s probably best to let someone form their own opinion of your genitalia rather than setting expectations. Plus, discovering a new partner’s genetalia is one of the more exciting parts of sex.
colly_wolly: Women are more likely to achieve an orgasm clitorally, so learn to use your tongue and don’t worry about it.
tinye-: >Do you think men with slightly smaller members should have a talk with a woman he is about to sleep with before the act about his penis ?
Like other comments on here… As a heterosexual female, no. I wouldn’t want that discussion because then I would literally be thinking does he think my breasts are too small/too big for my body? etc. I would literally make it about what I THINK my flaws are. That isn’t what it should be about. If someone shames you about your body then that person is a POS. Do NOT have sex with them.
SketchyPornDude: I had quite a bit of anxiety about my size when I was younger, but I was comparing myself to porn dick and didn’t realize that those dudes were outliers.
I mean, I think women care about size, the same way men care about pussy lips. We think about it, we have our preferences but it’s not something to twists yourself up over. If someone’s not into whatever you’re supplying, move on to someone who will.
Size isn’t as much of an issue as guys and gals make it out to be though. Guys need to get out of their heads and just get down to business and enjoy themselves. We all should.
Rollec: Male here: if you think the most important aspect in sex is the penis, then you are already fucking up. Sex is way more than that. It’s the build up, the tension, the touching, the kissing, that raw desire between two people. I want to taste all of her as she does for me. If a woman is not into what I just said, then it’s not going to work.
Don’t disclose your size and don’t be intimidated by woman who say big dicks are all that. Im average and haven’t had any complaints. Own your dick bro. You are stuck with it. Be confident, be sexy, eat some pizza.
PEAbob234: Women say that dicks that are too big doesn’t feel good.. some girls love feeling a huge dick inside them..it’s all about preference.
lolly_pop_: I don’t think size matters, it’s more what you do with it!!
I had an ex who wasn’t the best endowed and he completely made up with it in other avenues if you know what I mean!
pedro_mcdodge: Some women love giant cocks
Some women love small cocks
Some women love all cocks
That’s what makes women so amazing. They’ll all different in their weird and wonderful ways.
faith_kills: Interesting learning experience was I slept with a couple where the male was impressive. We both had sex with her and I noticed that her response was similar with both of us. I suppose I wasn’t expecting that but there was very little arguing with her response. The only difference I noticed was she was OK with anal from me but not him.
BlackJesus420: I’m a guy, and a gay one. Gay men are probably worse about dick size than women, and to answer your question…
I’m not gonna bring my perfectly normal and functional penis up in conversation before getting naked just because it’s slightly smaller than average. It’s NOT a disability or something to warn a partner about. Be proud of it, man, and if they don’t like it, it’s on them and they can end things if it’s that big of a deal.
lillycrack: Breaking news: women are individual, autonomous beings with their own unique opinions and bodies.
seterwind: No one cares more about your penis, then you.
Seriously, most partners when the mood gets going aren’t going to care what your penis is like, only that it’s there and it works.
Those that do care, size queens and such, will usually bring it up. Such as “God I want your huge thing in me.” That’s the only time I would bring up your size. If they are expecting A King Kong Dong then you should set right the expectations.
Other than that rare case, your penis is a baby maker and a pleasure part. It works, have fun, that’s the only expectation most people have.
SunnyDayGirl: Any prior conversation would most likely turn most women off. I don’t care about size….however, bjs and anal are much easier with a smaller penis. But as for sex it is really a compatibility thing….let it happen naturally. If this woman is “the one” she won’t care about your penis size. If she does then she’s simply not for you. Now go enjoy yourself!! ;0)
instrumentnerd: Just saying, the best sex I’ve had in years was with a man who was well under average. It doesn’t matter that you’ve got in your pants.
SandGuardian-1: Female here. In all honesty, my boyfriend was insecure about himself about his size when we first had sex but when I saw his penis to give him oral, I was happy to see he was not massive or anything similar. He’s a perfect fit for me. It doesn’t hurt and it actually feels pleasurable to have piv sex. Before I met him, I had sex with men with larger penises and I never enjoyed piv sex until now because it has always hurt (not even in the sexy way lol).
Eszti89: I too prefer smaller ones. They get much harder, they work harder, they don’t hurt as much, you can do more with them AND you can fuck harder. And they’re easier to deepthroat haha.
Never met a penis too small but I have had too big.
Also: I don’t think you should feel that you have to bring it up. It shouldn’t be a problem. And if your penis is in the micro-penis-size then you always have fingers, mouth and toys to enjoy as well. No biggie 🙂
coquilover: A lot depends on her anatomy. A chic with a shorter vaginal canal would find a long dick pounding on her cervix less than enjoyable, maybe even painful. It’s like trying to find the two puzzle pieces that are a perfect fit.
spicyrice97: F21 here, I’ve had guys with fairly small dicks (probably a little under 4”, maybe smaller from what I remember) and tbh the smallest was fairly good at using it. I’ve had guys with huge dicks who didn’t do anything with it really, just in and out and fairly painful if not properly lubed and certain positions. Now I have a coil as a contraceptive I can’t take anything too deep so I much prefer smaller dicks
charrliezard: Trans Guy here – I still use my cunt for sex and love being penetrated. Tbh all my “spots” are fairly shallow, so length really isn’t a thing for me. Girth is slightly important but tbh my kegals are in great shape so I’ll clench to meet you where you’re at.
I don’t think you should disclose. I’ve had a couple guys go “okay so you should know about my dick” and it always puts me off. Guys who talk about being small make me feel like I have to talk them up just to get their pants off, and then reassure them during and after that I’m happy. Guys who talk about being huge make me think “Oh here we go, another guy who thinks he has God’s gift to women” and anticipate it not being as big as they say. Only once has the head’s up been accurate, and it was a guy who really truly was so huge I believed his warning that he’s hurt precious partners. Even then, I didn’t need the head’s up.
I can tell you I truly DON’T CARE. By the time I’ve decided I like you enough to let you see me in all my naked, pre-op glory, let alone penetrate my front hole, dick size is not a thing on my mind. When I see it, I’ll take a moment to analyze how we’re gonna use it and then we’ll get down to business. Also, like someone else said, penetration alone likely isn’t gonna do it for me. Go down on me, use your hands. Let me use my hands while you’re in me. I promise, it’s fine. Something will work out. If I don’t cum, I’ll let you watch me finish myself off. Then we’ll cuddle, and make plans for another romp.
TL;DR: By the time I like you, I already like your dick. Don’t talk about it beforehand, it makes me feel weird and anxious.
Damnharddecisions: Female here. I prefer shorter, less girthy dicks for sure! It’s much more pleasurable to me when I don’t feel like my uterus is being stabbed to death. Sex has always been painful for me, but the few times I did it with guys with smaller members, it was the biggest relief not feeling pain. For the record, having a longer or thicker one does not make me see a man as more sexy or attractive, it does absolutely nothing for me and I do not equate it with how “manly” he is. That seems to be an unfortunate idea that males might have created among each other (very sorry if that’s not true, that has just been my perception gained from life observations so far).
Edited to add: Makes BJs a lot more enjoyable too – less gagging and sore jaw! I hope no big dudes get offended by my post. We all come in different shapes and sizes (i’m quite petite) and this post just goes to show you that there are ladies out there like me who prefer smaller sizes!
probably4porn: Im a bisexual man
In all honesty i prefer small dicks. Im really submissive (even in vanilla sex) and small dicks are just easier for me and require less preparation. I love worshipping a huge dick, dont get me wrong, im just not very good with them.
mfsocialist: Yup. Totally pointless getting down about some chick with a massive vagina
missweetnothing: Unless you have a micropenis, I don’t think you need a discussion before sleeping with a new woman.
And cock is cock. I love all cock, I don’t get the size hate
bluescrew: I’m a woman and I am not turned off at all by a small penis. However, I am very turned off by a man’s insecurity about his penis size. It’s not just men with small ones who exhibit this; it’s almost all of you. No joke, i am dating someone who is above average in size, and he’ll make catty comments about a charming fit black friend like “it must be nice to have women just flock to you because of your big dick.” No it’s because he’s at the gym at 4am every day, man. You could be the same way if you set aside the time for it. Overall fitness and personal style are so much more important to shallow women than dick size is. And neither one is important to women like me. Y’all think SO much more about your dicks than we do. It’s frankly insulting for you to assume I’d care enough for it to affect whether I sleep with you or not.
The minute a dude apologizes to me for his dick size, I’m out. That’s so off-putting.
faith_kills: The most outspoken tend to be the inexperienced. They latch onto it because quantifying other things is beyond their capacity. I find enthusiasm in any package is a far greater asset than package
AlucardD20: I think overall (Male here) women don’t care at all as long as the pleasure is there. If they are treated well (in and out of bed) it really doesn’t matter… now that doesn’t mean they don’t want or like big sizes. I also think that some women are much like men in the sense when they are with their friends/pals/whatever and the chance to “talk it up” happens, it will happen, whether they actually feel that way or not, sometimes people like to brag. I think its only human nature.
darkwebme: I’m myself on the larger size of the spectrum and to be honest it never really matter to my SO. I tend to finish quickly no matter what and it often get painful for her if the angle is not right or if we go at it to hard, so penetration is more a way to get intimate and release the tension.
When we were younger, I use to ask her what she thought of my penis and she was always like “oh it’s perfectly ok” but in a way that wasn’t boosting my ego, I learned later that it was not because I was not well endowed but because it never really mattered to her as much as it mattered to me.
With the years I’ve learned to know her and developped my “hands skills” and I am way more efficient with my fingers than with my penis anyway.
In a nutshell, my size is really not a defining aspect of our sex life and even if I’m perfectly happy with what we have it’s really not what we focus on.
Skyfall-24: It is what it is. Just make the most of it. Don’t care about what others think.
Women have variable opinions on size (among other things) yes but as do men about women’s boobs, ass, smell among other things. Don’t make a big deal out of it by overthinking.
ManBoostingFormula: Female here and no, no one should have to disclose anything about their body to you. It’s a personal thing, and if someone doesn’t like you once you reach that level, I mean that says more about them than about you.
Htom_Sirvoux: I can’t imagine a more perfect way to ruin a moment that by apologising for yourself. Confidence is sexy, “just fyi I have this thing that may not like about me” does not project confidence.
ModernMuse20: Like me , never accepted that men could love women in different shapes, was inconfident with my curves so now im slightly overweight not just curvy , i always prefered having sex in dark rooms . Loool what a fool
TurtleMelinda: Female here. I don’t feel as though this is something that a man should disclose before getting serious unless it is a “no sex before marriage” situation. Honestly, I’m a little freaked out when someone is huge because I know my body doesn’t match well with that. There is a lot of stigma behind a guy needing to be massive and it’s BS and unrealistic.
atownclown: Good for you! Female here & the best sex I’ve ever had was with a guy that had a small penis & the worst sex I ever had was with a guy that had a large penis! Just be confident in yourself!
taniapdx: Sex is about so much more than size. My husband is probably at or a bit above average (not that I’ve measured), but is far and away the best lover I’ve ever had because he puts in the work. He rarely initiates penetration before giving me multiple orgasms, and by the time he’s ready I’m already a squealing pile of goo. It really only takes a few minutes of foreplay and no matter the size, your partner will be begging you to fuck them.
GodmodeOG: “before the act” – this made me laugh haha
renaleah: I am female. I absolutely adore both husband and having sex with him. His penis size is unremarkable. What he does with it is miraculous,
caswalmac: I feel the same way except I realized that I was an ugly woman and have never been happier or more confident accepting that I’m a 5, not a 10.5
grapefruitsnacks: It makes it awkward when the guy talks about his self-consciousness about his penis before sex.
ArticleArchive: Don’t mention it before hand, my experience (longer than average penis, slightly less girth than average) is that the more “average” your penis is, the more eager your woman will be to try everything you can think of without fear. Deepthroat, anal are two “big” acts that larger cocks aren’t good for. Any man that has enjoyed the pleasure of ticking the tonsils of a eager woman or a nice tight butt (while reaching around to pull some nipples) realizes that average CAN be better if you play your cards right. I’ve only had woman make a comment and she ended up being a vile, terrible person … so thankfully that helped me outta that relationship!
Raedev0606: Sometimes I have to tell my husband he is a bit too long for me. Sometimes it’s better if it’s shorter because it pokes the hell out of me if he goes in to far. Can be painful at times. There I said my opinion lol. Be happy about it. You’ll get someone who absolutely loves it
Ironicbanana14: My boyfriend has a normal size dick and he says all of his previous girlfriends said he was small and that he was 3 inches when in reality he’s over 5. They didn’t ever want to have sex with him only give him head. Its great sex. It took me months to convince him i wasnt lying or faking orgasms.
I hate how some women (or other men) will tear him down just because he has an AVERAGE penis…
lapetitemort_eu: > be a man of actions, not words
Dont mention things that are irrelevant otherwise they will become relevant.
Do some researches about Sex techniques and improve in “what Women really want” (and not what we think they want), this will give you the ability to make Women addicted even without using your penis.
P.S. also respect Women. Dont become a jerk who just want to have Sex. Too many men forget about this.
Caught_On_fire99: The best sex I ever had came from a guy who had a slightly below average size! Plus, even at that length he still bumped my cervix a bit (ouch). Get really good at using fingers/oral/foreplay and you’re golden
La_Ferg: Personally, I find it a turn off when guys talk about their dick size be it big or smaller. Own what you’ve got and know how to use it! That’s sexy! I also think most women are mature enough to not make a big deal out of it. I always say bigger does not equal better. In fact more often than not, bigger hurts and just kinda kills the whole vibe.
My boyfriend is fairly average and we have amazing sex! It’s important to remember there’s soooooo much more that goes into sex than just the penetration part. It’s the experience as a whole, and your dick is merely a part of that experience!
jessicadiamonds: While I know there are some women who actually care, most don’t. I’d really rather not have a man discuss the size of his penis with me.
If, as someone suggested, there’s a bad reaction upon getting intimate, one that feels humiliating, that is not a kind person. Even if she is not that into it doesn’t mean she should act like that.
Also, and maybe it’s just me and YMMV, but the word “member” when used for penis makes me cringe so hard. I wish people felt confidante in just calling it what it is.
Coziestpigeon2: Male here. Don’t bring it up, because then you’re showing your partner how much you obsess over it, and that’s almost the exact opposite of showing confidence and charisma.
Same deal if you happen to be well-endowed. Bringing it up is just bragging and looking for an ego-stroking, unless it’s something specifically being asked about.
Bringing it up unsolicited, whether its big, small, or average, is just screaming “I don’t have the confidence to do this without some heavy external ego stroking.”
Also, important for people to understand that bigger is not always better for women. Frequently, bigger can cause problems, pain, discomfort, and be genuinely unenjoyable for both parties.
LemnLime69: all that really matters is the clitoris in a female orgasm, you still have hands and a tongue, so even if you cant get her off with just piv sex, you can get her off in other ways
specialPonyBoy: Measure yourself accurately, then go buy a dildo of that size. Hold it, maybe put it in your mouth, imagine it *inside* you. It may change your perspective.
lasagnaman: Am man with smaller than average penis. Don’t mention it, just fuck her good.
BlondeSizeQueen: Every girl is different and guys need to realize this, good for you.
Imago_Mothtoya: I am a bit above average, so I may be biased, but I don’t think it should be mentioned because it may come off as you lacking confidence. The first time I went skinny dipping, it was me, my wife, and her best friend. At first, I was nervous because I knew that with the cold water and overthinking the situation, I would be small some of the time, (I’m a grower, not a shower) but I decided to get out of my head and since we were all adults, I figured she knew how penises worked, so I shouldn’t worry. It was a fun experience and actually helped my self-confidence a lot. Honestly, I think that confidence is much more important than the size of a man’s member when it comes to impressing the ladies.
wheel1234: My favorite thing about a smaller dick;
1.) riding it! My clit will hit your pubic bone and when I grind and I get off
2.) I feel super confident giving head. I can put the whole thing in my mouth, and really give a good bj
3.) a Hard fuck sesh does not hurt
4.) my cervix is safe. Gettting my cervix poked even a little dries me up SO fast
Things I Don’t like about a smaller dick;
It Takes Away Confidence!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
If you seriously don’t care about our labia or nipple sizes, understand we don’t need(or want,some of us) a porn dick.
But with that said, all dicks of all sizes rock. They all have perks…..Expect for micro- but only because I’ve never experienced one so I can’t say….
Edit: I’m a woman
booklovingrunner: You wasted a lot of time being insecure
purpledad: The smallest peppers are the spiciest.
fap_fap_fap_: the only function of penis size is to determine the hierarchies in the locker room.
SybilFae8374: My first time was with a guy with a smaller member and after the initial pain, I thoroughly enjoyed it. He was a fantastic kisser and was always passionate with me. I was more turned on by his passion and the way he moved in me more than anything else. I don’t know of any female (in my circle of friends) who’d zero in on a guy’s penis size as their main sexual attraction. Oh, and talking about it with a girl before sex is bit weird. Oh, I’m female btw.
KVirello: Male here. Don’t give a disclaimer. Your dick is your dick. If it’s an issue for them, you shouldn’t be fucking them anyways. You do you man, have fun and enjoy life.
Anilxe: My partner has a fellow average sized dick but *holy shit* he really knows how to use it. I’ve been with girthy guys and long guys, but they were the pump and dump kind of fellows. My partner eats me out, fingers me, etc. He makes sure I come multiple times before he even starts.
Sex is magic
ReadItWithSarcasm: News flash…
Everyone is different and has different tastes.
There’s someone out there that appreciates you for you.
Go find that person and quit trying to be the person you’re not.
b00tysk00ty: Gay man, here. I actually prefer a smaller dick when I bottom. I mtself am average, but have never had a complaint. But inevitably, sex to me is more about the connection, not the parts.
_AMARILLA_: I definitely dont want to have a conversation about it right before doing it. That’d make feel insecure about myself too, and no one would get laid for sho.
IMO, it has nothing to do with size or how you use it. Its about the the enjoyment and pleasure you are giving to your partner.
In my early 20’s, I dated a guy with a very large penis, and we had sex a handful of times, because it didn’t feel good AT ALL, and it was all about him.
My ex is above average, both in length and girth. We both have a high sex drive, he indulged my kinks and I his. Pure ecstasy. Sex was outstanding!
The guy I’m seeing now, is significantly smaller, with a much much lower sex drive. At first was challenging and frustrating. I didn’t have an O for a while…
I’ve never told him about my disappointment, but he is intuitive and pays a lot of attention. Now, he is learning to read me. How my body and mind react to what he does/says. He remembers and does it the next time, So sex is getting better and better each time.
Also, the more I get to know him and the relationship develops, the better it is.
Fortunately (for me, in this case), women develop a stronger emotional attachment to their partners after sex, and a some point the emotions/feels and sexual satisfaction intertwined, becoming more or less the same chemical reaction in the brain. Hence, why sex with a SO/FWB is better than a one night stand with a stranger -no always tho ;)-Or tinder date (that’s what kids do nowadays, right?)
[I theorize, that this is one of the reasons of Battered Woman Syndrome. Just my opinion.]
Don’t sweat it OP, there is a pan for each pancake.
thewriterlady: I’m a woman and I care much more about how a partner treats me and how sexually compatible we are than I do about the exact size and shape of their genitals. Since everyone’s genitals look different, I probably wouldn’t even notice a slight variance to the average. There’s definitely no need for a sit-down discussion before hand about it.
h2oxygen: Size never matters to me.
I had sex with three ranges. Above average, average and below average.
I was satisfied with all of them. It does not matter, as long as you know how to fuck.
I happen to be one of the horny peeps, so I get what I get and be happy with it.
Sex is all about both sides satisfaction for me.
61104: I’ve (F) found that guys with big dicks think that good sex = porn-style ramming, like their anatomy is enough to make sex pleasurable with no effort. Best sex has been with guys who are smaller than average. A bit of humility tends to make for masters of foreplay and more creative fucking.
A disclaimer would make me feel like I was expected to disclose my own bodily surprises (stretch marks, etc). You have nothing to apologize for.
yessmetoo: >Do you think men with slightly smaller members should have a talk with a woman he is about to sleep with before the act about his penis ?
StuffLooken: Male here. As others have said, mentioning it would probably be a bad idea.
Think of it this way. How would you feel if she told you she had protruding labia just in case you weren’t interested in that? Or that she hasn’t shaved so is probably really bushy? Not the best foreplay talk and at the end of the day, if you’re into her, you probably don’t care.
I don’t think anyone has ever gotten into a prospective partner’s pants and gone “you know what, that’s not what I was hoping for. I better go.” (Assuming, that is that it’s the right set of genitals that they were expecting. A surprise in that sense isn’t *usually* welcome. YMMV)
As long as it’s clean and healthy, she’ll be just fine with whatever she finds. It might not be her usual preference but if she wants you overall, she’ll adapt and love what you’ve got. My dick’s not the thickest and while my wife loves to be filled she’s happy with me the way I am. It means that occasionally with some slight gymnastics I can slip some fingers in too and that drives her wild. “Whatever works” has never been more appropriate.
omega_dawg93: if you need to disclose your measurements, so does she.
why do we do assume women are all built the same? they’re not. there is just as much physical variation with women as there is with men.
there are some huge cocks out there… and there are some naturally wide & deep vaginas too.
pinkawapuhi: Ahh I’m so glad this is getting through to someone. I hate when people lump us all together. Size literally doesn’t matter to me at all. There are more ways to orgasm than PIV, and it’s much more satisfying to be with a man who knows what he’s doing and who is enthusiastic and creative about my pleasure, rather than one who just absentmindedly lets his big dick do all the heavy lifting. (Spoiler alert: being rammed with a big dick isn’t that great)
AL3XAND3R03: Woman are caring creatures. They like to make people feel good and positive.
What they say to each other in private differs greatly to what they say elsewhere.
I’m not being negative or against your ideas. I’m just writing my views.
Notanalt4859384: too many insecure man children think that all women are one hive mind. we are all individual people with our own likes, dislikes & dreams. WHO WOULD HAVE GUESSED?!
AL3XAND3R03: I think most woman do care about size. I’ve heard them talk amongst each other about sexual experiences when they thought I wasn’t near. Not once have I heard compliments about small guys and always praising the big guys.
Size might not matter to a small percentage of females but in most cases it does and to believe otherwise is not being realistic.
Then it comes down to what exactly you think small is!