Went to a sex club, and I’ve (21f) never felt so liberated
I’ve wanted to go to a sex club for a couple of years now, so when my fwb showed interest in going too we bit the bullet and went.
It was honestly such an amazing experience. Me and my fwb didn’t do anything in the club, but being around and talking to people so open about sex was incredible. Over the last few months I’ve been exploring my sexuality and feeling guilty over it, but there was absolutely no guilt to be had over this situation. It was a club full of people appreciating the magic of sex and what it can make you feel, and it was a wholly positive environment. I walked around in my garter belt, heels, stockings and nothing else, and I felt so comfortable and sexy.
If you’re ever considering going to a sex club, after a lot of thought and ensuring this is the right time for you, I would highly recommend it. I can’t wait to go again!
c0mp1ex88: Good on you! Im glad you had a fun time. Being around like minded individuals is the best part, it definitely helps you with confidence.
mbp1203: What is a sex club…
exia1995: That sounds amazing, glad you got to experience that. Are you in a large city? Even in my medium sized city I can’t find any clubs for me and my gf.
pauly_jay: I have an honest question about sex clubs (coming from someone inexperienced, and seeking to be active sexually).. are people ever worried about catching STDs? Yes it’s obvious that condoms are in use, but are people ever worried about herpes? Considering how common herpes is (and not really a big deal), do people ever disclose if they have cold sores and/or genital herpes? Or is it just assumed everyone has it and no one really cares.
I am also 21 and want that liberation, but get paranoid about these things, so don’t take this comment to be weird – just want honest answers from sexually active folks!
pangea89: Sex cauldron!
facesitdisposable: I’ve recently found myself in a position where I can make this happen for the first time and I’m so excited. Really glad you had a great time!
As my wife and I got older and exclusive to her girlfriend, who worries a lot about STI, we stopped playing but continued going to parties because of the atmosphere. It’s fun. And my wife is an exhibitionist. She really enjoys getting attention running around in next to nothing like that. Even at 63 she’s been called the life of the party, all smiles and dancing naked after her first drink. Her saying is she has to wear a little something to keep ‘em interested, but it’s never panties.
Reptilesblade: And I’m reading this between demos at an event at my local BDSM dungeon right now.
Welcome to the club!
Sp00nsauce: I would think a sex club would be a sausage fest. I never knew this was a thing and don’t understand what a sex club is.
fahr1: In Nashville, There is the TSC or [Tennessee Social Club](http://thesocialclub.com). There is a swingers bar too, [Menages](https://www.menagesclub.com/)
I personally have never went, i was a chauffeur and took people there a lot.
totential_rigger: Can I ask, do you think it’s the kind of place you could go to alone? I’m female. I’ve always wanted to go to one but have no one to go with
freakylittlesecrets: r/Swingers is great! I love lurking there. I’ve made a few comments here and there. Nice group of people too.
alexandriajewel: I’ve went with my boyfriend a lot! They’re fun and super freeing! I love being naked/being watched
kdaugherty1977: My girlfriend and I recently started going to a sex club and absolutely love it. It does feel good to meet so many like minded people that make you feel good about just being you.
susielikescaramel: I really want to go but I think I’m a bit too old….
Eader206: How do you find these places?
leothelion07: I have always wanted to go. Maybe one day..
zomblina: Going to lifestyle clubs helped me soooooo much with my sexuality and how consent SHOULD ALWAYS BE . Also so nice being around people open about intentions and kind. I did rope modeling and some then just started going. Dungeon areas and games, live art and painting events, really good healthy buffets , art exhibits, dance floors! ah. I miss them!
somesparetime: Hey, it’s good to hear you explored some and liked it!
sloopymeat: my girlfriend went once and said it was horrible. she just wanted to watch but nobody would leave her the fuck alone and kept touching on her etc and just being really rude and forward.
throwa563: I’d like to go to one but I’m in a wheelchair and feel like people would think I was out of place.
sexSF: I live near San Francisco and go to sex parties all the time. Besides getting to have all kinds of fun sex, I have found a community of trustworthy, kind, loving people. It’s a community that I feel a part of and for the first time in my adult life I don’t feel alone.
Red_N_Wolf: The club I went to the women are free to enter. So I was like fuck it, free drinks, food, and show. Took my ex roommate. She was not a fan of the “up in heaven” room. First time, went alone. It’s dark in heaven…….
The smell of sex, check. Naked people, check. A woman having an orgasm while being tied up, check. Sad faces of women trying to save their relationship, check. Dudes trying to ask me to take off my clothes, check. Watched people fucking, check.
I just sat there most of the time. Never did anything. Did I get turned on? No. For what I saw… the moment you take off your clothes, you are allowing anyone/everyone to touch you in ways you are not use to. For example… a young guy goes up to a couple. The wife is sucking her husband. The husband is laying there enjoying the bj. Then the young dude goes up and starts touching and licking the husband. The wife starts giving the young dude a bj.
So good luck to anyone who wants to be open about their sexuality or just wants to have fun.
Moln0014: How do I get into these sex clubs?
ARtoFLgirl: Where did you hear about it? I’ve always wondered where people found them!?
Swizzle44: Umm where are these sex clubs?
KnottyWerewolf: I don’t know what a sex club is, is it distant from a normal club or a strip club?
Elephlump: I’m 33/m and have never in my life had an experience 1/4 as liberating or impactful as that. Count your blessings.
man2112: As a single man, I’m jealous of this. Most clubs won’t let in single men.
leah_amelia: I’m so glad you’ve had a good time! You’re about the same age as me, I’ve thought about going to one before but I can’t seem to find any in my area. If I do find one, I’m sure I’ll go at some point, even if I’m a bit nervous. I hope you’ll go back again though to your sex club, sounds like you felt incredible there
bluesky747: I’ve been to one once only but it was so liberating. Congrats on your first experience!
Picklerick5339: How do you find one in your area? My gf and I would like to see for our selfs both in our 20’s also live in ames iowa.
OurXxXLif: Best sex club out there?
desolatewinds: the only active goth community in my city also happens to be a sex club. i only want the former though. glad for you that you found it empowering though. thats definitely one way to fight against a sex negative culture.
TheSkinnyAmerican: Question, how did you find the club?
MeMafician: It’s good to see people liberating their innermost and natural desires. I wish if there was any such open minded community in Bangalore, India.
adi_vale: Where can I find a sex club? Like, what exactly do I search for in google maps? Lol….. sorry if dumb question….. or where do I search?
AlexanderTuner61023: I had the same experience last month! I was in Berlin and went to KitKat… oh boy that was amazing
totenkaffee: In what city is this?
sniffmypanties1029: Sounds like an amazing experience.. I’ve never been to a sex club.
FastCarsAndDope: What’s the etiquette for a single man to go to one of these places? Is it mainly for couples?
nottrollingipromise: I’m glad there’s a place for everyone. I’m sexually conservative so I could never go. I dated a girl that was in that lifestyle and I never wore a condom with her. I regret it to this day. Other than that, glad you found your place!
Xudda: Nope no thanks
kryantastic: I think that sex club ruined your ability to correctly form a title.
FabulousVlad: You americans have all the fun things! In my Eastern European poor hole I have nothing. If I would live in the west, I would already have two dom girls giving me head pats and calling me a good boy. I will move to Australia!
gunnapackofsammiches: Such a good time to be had! My SO and I go like once per year, usually New Year’s.
knowitallz: They are so pretty damn liberating!