Dear Dr Sex,
I’m a twenty-nine-year-old professional who has had his fair share of women. I’ve slept with many women over the course of my life. But I still have not had the pleasure of sleeping with a woman on the first encounter or for that matter, on the first date.
I don’t have a problem charming women, and I do eventually sleep with my dates, but I cannot seem to seduce them on that first night. At best, we make out and fool around, but it never goes all the way. It usually takes a week or two before I bed them. I seem to be missing that little extra oomph .
I would like to experience the feeling of having a woman so attracted to me that she’d be willing to sleep with me on the very first night. You know what I mean: lust at first sight. How do I close the deal and get her to sleep with me on the first date?
James the Salesman
The cursed perception
Imagine that you could be the guy who sleeps with a new girl every time you go out. Well, you are about to get a taste of The Player’s first-date score strategies, accidentally discovered through my personal experiences.Meeting many women and sleeping with them on the first date is the story of my life. You might think that these sorts of experiences will boost your ego and inflate your head. You’re right, but be warned that it might also blur your perception of women.
I have slept with many women, ranging from single ones, to those with boyfriends, fiancés, husbands — I’ve even bedded good female friends.
Same old cliché
The very first woman with whom I had the pleasure of sharing more than a mere tequila mezcal worm on a first date, claimed that she didn’t normally do that kind of thing. I simply smiled at her but thought to myself, Yeah right. That’s what she says to all the men.But I quickly realized that all of these women were using the same old cliché over and over again to explain their promiscuity: “I never did this before,” or “I don’t normally do this.”
What kind of a fool did they take me for? Using such a cliché is the equivalent of a man using, “Do you come here often?” as a pickup line. Couldn’t they see that I would read right through their lies?
Predicting the first words that would come out of their mouths became a game to me. It was all too easy. At one point, I even interrupted my conquest’s statement. “You, you know, uh, I’ve never…” I jumped in with, “Yes, I know. You’ve never done this before.”
Needless to say, she was a little surprised and felt a little embarrassed. But it was just another notch to add to my belt. Things were just too simple, and no effort was necessary in order to bed these women. I couldn’t understand how women so easily gave themselves away to me on that first encounter.
Was it me or them?
Benefit of the doubt
This obviously satisfied my sexual appetite, but after a while, I began to wonder if it was the women that were just too plain easy or if it was my charm that was getting me some fine fanny on the first date.After all, I found it a little strange that all these women were saying the same exact thing over and over again. Maybe they were really telling me the truth. Maybe it was the first time they tried such a thing. Maybe there was something about me that they simple could not resist. But what could it be?
Retracing my steps
I decided to give all these women the benefit of the doubt. I stopped and retraced my steps to find out what the common denominator that hooked these women into my pants was.After a moment of reflection, I realized that they all said the same thing over and over again: I was a great kisser. Could it be? Is it possible that my kissing ability was the reason for wetting their panties? The only way to find out was by asking some of the women the real reason why they slept with me so quickly.
Man on a mission
So after much convincing, I finally got together with a septet of women whom I had slept with on the first date. I was straightforward and asked them what it that was that made them all sleep with me on the first date.A few giggles and jokes were cracked but after a few drinks, I finally got the answer to my question. Amazingly, all seven women came up with the following five characteristics:
Being in shape, well-groomed and stylishly dressed helped get my foot into their bedroom door.
2. Charm & Confidence
The fact that I was very charming and confident made them all attracted to me.
3. Harmless Character
They all liked that I never spoke about sex, or implied that I wanted to sleep with them on the first date. The women admitted that since they felt that I was harmless or a challenge, they wanted to get intimate with me. The Player says, “It’s okay to speak sexy or dirty with a woman in order to get her blood flowing, but never on a first date, or else you’ll be giving your plans away.”
4. Oozing With Sex Appeal
The fact that I was harmless (a challenge), charming, confident, and good-looking increased my sex appeal. Apparently, the women could feel and smell the sex emitting from my pores.
5. Great Kisser
They call me the seductive, passionate, synchronized kisser. I like to call myself, “Mr. Kiss Kiss, Bang Bang.” Keep your kisses passionate and long. I always kiss for hours before trying to make a move. Eventually, she’ll get so hot that she’ll make the move for me.
The Player says, “Most women will judge a man’s sexual ability by the way he dances or kisses. But let’s face it, it’s not his tapping feet that will close the deal and get her into his bed (or the local motel). What really convinces a woman to sleep with a man is his kissing prowess.
So who’s coming home with The Player?
They don’t see it coming
These beautiful, but easily charmed women proved to be very helpful. They unsuspectingly helped me discover the secret characteristics that make it very difficult for women to resist me. Now all I had to do was perfect these five characteristics and I’d be sleeping with all the women that my heart desired.
I decided to test and apply my theory. Needless to say, I was not disappointed. You see, most women already had the idea that they would allow themselves to sleep with me, they just didn’t know when.
I, on the other hand, knew that it would be on that very same first date. Most women don’t see it coming, but I surprise them with an ocean of passionate seduction through my kissing and before they know it, they’re confessing that they’ve never slept with a man on the first night before.
Close the deal
So what did you learn today? Everything starts with a kiss, so never ever underestimate the power of one. It is your Willy’s best friend and the deal-closer to convincing a woman to sleep with you on the first date. So how do you do it?
Everyone has their own kissing style and they should work on it to perfection, but I suggest that you do not concentrate so much on the tongue as you should on the lips. Remember to move your lips and tongue in unison. Moving in synchrony is one of the most telling signs of attraction, and it shows that you are on the same wavelength.
Use your tongue as a teaser, give her an orgasmic kiss, and before you know it, you’ll be hearing these fine words, “You know, I’ve never done this before.” Don’t doubt her, she might just be telling the truth.
One last word of advice: don’t waste your time with virgins. They’re usually like hard-boiled eggs: easy to eat but hard to crack open. You’ll have better luck winning the state lottery than bedding a virgin on the first date — not to mention that it will probably be the worst sex you’ll ever have. You’ll also want to avoid the consequences of sleeping with a virgin on the first date; she’ll be calling you at 2 in the morning (every morning) crying, “Why didn’t you call me???”
The Player wants all his friends to keep safety in mind. Remember to practice safe sex by using protection, especially for first-date sex or one-night stands.