Moaning During Sex? I Do It And My BF Has Commented On it Negatively
So I am 21F and definitely learned about sex from porn and books. I like to moan during sex. Not sure if I learned this from porn or if it’s natural.
I like to moan and I feel like it lets my boyfriend know I’m enjoying myself but in the past he has commented on it being annoying. Any advice or thoughts on this would be appreciated!
MusoPhotoFilmo: He may feel like it’s not a genuine moan. For me, the times when a moan is hottest is when someone starts, realises and catches themselves and then giggles embarrassedly.
Sometimes also volume can be the issue. Small ones through a closed mouth but close to their ear can be much more enticing than loud, guttural ones
Wonkified: I’m confused, does he want you to be silent? Or are you screaming? If it’s the former, kid’s got issues. Is you getting off also annoying? If the latter, tone it down. Either way, we need more information, and you likely need to get more information from him.
hyg346: Get a new boyfriend. No honestly, a lot of women I’ve been with moan when it’s being done right and they’re enjoying it. I’d take it as a compliment that I’m doing it well enough to make you moan, if he’s having an issue with it that’s his problem that you two should address: Why does it bother him that he’s pleasing you? I guess if it bugs him so much I suppose try containing yourself and toning it down, but that would take the fun out of it if you’re trying to hold yourself back. 😐
22Livia: Tone it down? If you behave like a porn actress he might think you’re faking it.
FakeUnicorns: Moaning is entirely natural for both men and women. It should be genuine though and not forced like in porn. If a guy told me that my moaning was annoying that would be a deal breaker.
jman12311: I’m sorry but he’s a weirdo lol. But like another person said, maybe he doesn’t think the moaning is genuine.
HappySubbie: It annoys me that somehow many men think loud moans are fake just because pornstars do it. Just because your woman doesn’t moan loudly like pornstars do, it doesn’t mean it’s not a natural thing that other women do to express pleasure.
That’s how I express extreme sexual pleasure. When I’m quiet, that means I’m feeling meh. Make me scream. I’m not toning anything down. It’s like tickling me and demanding that I don’t laugh. I mean, maybe tape over my mouth will work.
UsernameForSexStuff: Hearing a woman moan is literally my favorite thing about sex besides the actual stimulation part. I’m loud myself. I could hold it back if I wanted to, but why?
MrsValentine: If you’re not sure it’s natural then you’re probably playing it up a bit. Which may be quite obvious depending on how much you’re playing it up…
whiskey_pants: I can get loud. I don’t watch porn so no clue how it compares. Sometimes it will cause me to laugh when I catch how loud I am being when I need to tone it down for others. I often sometimes get so used to trying to be quieter I forget to be looser when I get the chance.
I am not sure why anyone would be negative about it. I used to do massage for a living, and many many people moaned during hitting a knot and working it out. I actually think the noises people make in massage are generally rather loud and sexual sounding. LOL