What are you doing tonight? This.
Fun fact: May is National Masturbation Month (yes, it’s an actual thing)! And to celebrate the wondrous activity of self-pleasure, we’ve rounded up a bunch of ways to get yourself off using orgasmic advice from sex experts Ian Kerner, Ph.D., author of She Comes First, and Emily Morse, founder of Emily & Tony. Let the best 31 days of your sex year begin!
1. Use Lube
The wetter the better! Nearly 50 percent of people said lube made it easier for them to orgasm, in a recent study.
2. Get Your Girls In On the Action
Here’s a little known secret: Nipplegasms exist! So get your breasts involved—you just might surprise yourself.
3. Invest in a Sex Toy
You’ve heard of the infamous Rabbit but have you heard about the pleasure tool that simulates oral sex? No? Well then you need to check out these 11 crazy new sex toys that will basically give your orgasm an orgasm!
4. …Or Two Toys
Why stop at one? They come in so many different shapes and sizes that you can even use two at once (one on your clitoris and one that hits your G-spot), says Morse.
5. Bliss Out Your Bedroom
Tidy up, light some candles, and get into the mood. It’s hard to feel sexy if your room’s smothered in month-old laundry and yesterday’s Chinese food containers. Hey, they don’t call it spring-cleaning for nothing.
6. Go Slow
Quickies are great in a pinch, but you can have the best orgasm ever by delaying your big finish. Right when you’re about to climax—stop, breathe, and rev up your sex engine all over again.
7. Explore Your Body
The vagina isn’t your only erogenous zone. In case you didn’t know, your body is a treasure trove of not-so-obvious pleasure spots just waiting to be aroused, says Morse.
8. Focus on Your C-Spot
Studies show that clitoral stimulation is a huge deal—but we probably didn’t need to tell you that. So go ahead, hone in on it.
9. But Don’t Forget About Your G-Spot
Because your clitoris isn’t the only part of your vagina with super-sensitive nerves.
10. …Or You Could Go for Both Simultaneously
Did someone say blended orgasm? Yep, it’s one of four (yes, four) orgasms all women should experience.
11. Play Some Porn
Sure, it’s all fake, but the view’s pretty nice. Plus, you can hit play on whatever you want—even if it’s something your partner totally isn’t into.
12. Read Something Erotic
There’s a reason why Fifty Shades of Grey was a best seller…
13. Put on a Show
Not for a camera—have your S.O. watch you from across the room as you touch yourself, suggests Kerner. You’ll feel like a sex kitten, and they’ll be even more excited to hit the sheets.
14. Do Kegels
Doing this sex exercise during solo play intensifies your big O to new levels, says Morse. And who doesn’t want that?
15. Use Your Imagination
Seriously, who hasn’t envisioned Channing Tatum, Joe Manganiello, Brad Pitt, Matt Damon, Joseph Gordon-Levitt, Chris Hemsworth, or George Clooney while masturbating? (Did we miss any?)
16. Don’t Stop at Just One
Multiple orgasms are one of the biggest blessings of being a woman. Give yourself a hand, ladies. Learn the three steps to having multiple orgasms here.
17. Switch Positions
You experiment with different sex styles with your partner, so why not change things up when you’re going solo?
18. Move to the Tub
Is it just us, or is there something oddly arousing about being “dirty” in a clean place? Plus, warm water feels amazing anytime, anywhere (on your body).
And while you’re in the bathroom, a showerhead works just as well (if not better) than battery-powered playthings.
20. Vary the Motion
Flick, rub, massage, blow—just play around. Apply different pressure or move your hand (or toy) in new directions to find your perfect O.
21. Masturbate More Often
One study found that women get handsy at least once a week—but we say you deserve a second helping (or more). After all, sometimes masturbation can be better than sex.