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How common is it to climax and leave your partner completely hot and bothered but not finish the mission?
So I’ve been with my partner for several years. We used to have an incredible sexual relationship. He always made sure I reached my destination more than once on almost every occasion. But for the last 3 or 4 years it started to turn into him reaching his exploding pearl rope and completely fulfilled, and if I get mine great if not, well oh well, he got his so it’s all good. This has turned into a habit. Is it normal for a PARTNER not just some one night stand, but your actual mate, to only care about themselves during intercourse? There is no attempt at even trying to get me there. No foreplay, no oral, no fingers, no toys, nothing. It just -stops- it’s over. I’ve tried to talk about it. We’ve gone out and bought toys together for fun ideas. Bondage kits so he can tease me mercilessly, vibrators,dildos, etc.
He wants me to masterbate on top of him now. Ok cool I can get into that! But really want to be pleasured by my partner. If all I wanted was to masterbate then there wouldn’t be a fucking problem to begin with.
Anyways back to the point. If you’re a guy reading this and this is normal for you, please tell me so I don’t “think the grass is greener on the other side of the fence” if you’re a guy reading this and this is fucked up, please tell me and and if you could be kind enough to tell me how to motivate him better at seeing me as a NEEDING woman. If you’re a woman reading this please share your advise and stories. TIA
mwise003: My wife prefers PIV w/ clit stimulation simultaneously. This means she ALWAYS cums before I do and I’m fine with that because after I cum, PIV is over. I make sure she is COMPLETELY satisfied before I try to finish.
Your SO is a selfish lover. No the grass still may not be greener depending on who’s lawn your gawking at, but imho your SO is selfish.
How do you change this? Well you say you’ve already talked to him about it, yes? So can you tell when he’s going for his big finish? Maybe stop him and say I’m not done yet. Or maybe after sex tell him your still horny.
You could also try directing sex to something you know gets you off. Say he likes to cum doggie but you cum better from mish, then say you want mish 1st etc…
As a last resort you could just stop having sex and when he asks why your not interested tell him: “It should be no secret. If you didn’t get to finish during sex, you wouldn’t want it either!”
falecf4: I’m am not going to.comment on what you should or shouldn’t do but I’m surprised you have accepted this situation for as long as you have.
For me personally, I love to give my partners pleasure which usually translates into me getting them off before we even get to PIV, multiple times if possible. Then I try for more orgasms via PIV. Obviously the amount and effort varies but that is my typical routine. In fact, I’ve had to work on being better at receiving. I guess sometimes a quickie is all she wants…
DirkDieGurke: It’s very common and also very very fucking rude.
prettiestGOAT: This happened to me in my relationship with my ex. Spent the first year and a half attentively making sure I came every time. Then, he got lazy and selfish. The next couple of years he’d always cum and he’d barely touch me; the only times I’d cum would be if I got myself off during or after. And while I’d touch myself he’d just stare off into the distance, not even looking at me or engaging with me on any level.
I didn’t care about the orgasm as such, just feeling wanted and desired and attractive – loved, even – enough for him to *want* to get me off. I felt disgusting, ugly, kept asking if there was something wrong with my vagina – that I’d happily go to the clinic if he thought things had changed down there. Nothing ever helped, unfortunately, and I just got more and more humiliated and sorry. It’s the shittiest feeling, I’m sorry you’re going through it.
I still don’t know what it was. My ex and I were in an incredibly co-dependent relationship, and he gradually treated me more and more like shit as the relationship continued; the situation in the bedroom seemed to spill over into life – or, more likely, the other way around – in terms of him not caring about me. He blamed it on feeling depressed, but never explained why or how that meant he wouldn’t touch me. Eventually I couldn’t talk to him about it (or anything negative or critical) without him blowing up at me and shouting and threatening to break things off. It was a rough time. I’ve since come to suspect that he had a humiliation kink (he certainly abused our D/s relationship in other ways as well, at least), or maybe this was a way of taking out anger or resentment on me.
In answer to your question – I don’t know. This is a meandering answer and I don’t know what the solution is except to talk to him. I’m assuming your man is more understanding and less abusive than mine, and maybe it’s just a case of realigning his priorities. At the moment he sounds selfish as hell and I’d never put up with that ever again. I know it sucks though; it sucks to *have* to ask when, for you, giving your partner pleasure is a way of showing your love for them. But no – this isn’t acceptable, and you shouldn’t have to put up with it. I remember almost wanting to cry with joy and disbelief when the next guy I slept with slid down my pants and told me I had a perfect cunt, and went down on me for minutes moaning enthusiastically. It so happens that we eventually ended up in a relationship a couple of years down the line, and he never makes me feel less than sexually confident and attractive. Which is what you, and everyone, deserve.
AncientDragons: No, see- your guy is being a jerk. There’s no reason he can’t do oral or use his fingers on you to get you off. Even after he’s had an orgasm.
This is fucked up and I would never expect my female partner to put up with this. Why shouldn’t she get off, too?
wholesomefeminist: Doesn’t matter if it’s common, it’s a shitty thing. Talk to him… 3-4 years? I can’t imagine keeping something like this in.
Lucy-Aslan: I think it’s as common as selfishness, lack of compassion, indifference, laziness and greed.
As long as his needs are being met by you he feels no need to change. My advice is for you to stop asking him to change UNTIL you are ready to put some action behind it by leaving him if he doesn’t. Once you are ready, communicate that to him clearly. If he makes a good faith effort then work with him, if he doesn’t, follow through on your decision to leave. Haven’t you done enough to motivate him already? Consequences need to get real.
buffystakeded: You could just talk to him about how it makes you feel. Communication is always key. I wouldn’t say it’s fucked up, but it sounds like he’s gotten lazy.
That-Albino-Kid: I always ensure I get my SO off before we even start PIV. I usually go down on her until she’s good. Then i don’t have to worry so much about the duration; be it 5-20 minutes in which she may or may not cum but is satisfied regardless.
as everyone els has said. He’s a selfish lover. Ask for a change or find someone who will do that for you
snowhuntress: As some of the other posters have suggested, I think you need to consider how important this is to you – ie are you fine staying with him even if there is going to be no change from the status quo, ever, and he is going to continue to be a selfish lover that doesn’t really seem to care about getting you off? Because if it is important, he needs to know that this isn’t just a “want to have”, but rather is a “need to have” for you, and that your will move on from him if he isn’t willing to look after your needs. Also, if you’re not already doing so, I would having these conversations outside of sexy time in the bedroom – it may drive home that this is a serious issue for you, and not just your knee jerk response to being sexually frustrated in the moment.
I have limited experience with long term relationships. My current boyfriend of 2+ years, though, consistently cares whether I get off during sex. Sometimes, depending on what we’re doing, I get off before or at the same time as him (I suspect this is that my boyfriend is usually aiming to have happen). Sometimes I don’t. But when that happens and he’s in his refractory period, he goes down on me, makes me sit on his face, fingers me, uses a vibrator on me, etc until I do. Sure, there have been a couple of times when that hasn’t happened – eg if we’ve had a few drinks, and it’s late, and we both conk out after he’s done. But I know that I can expect him to be doubly concerned with making sure I get mine the next morning. I have also had FWBs of a few weeks and months who have had a similar mindset and who truly cared about my pleasure. No, the grass is not always greener on the other side – there are plenty of selfish assholes out there who only care about their own pleasure. But I never kept them around – they are not worth it.
I admit I don’t quite understand why he thinks you masturbating on top of him is a solution. You mentioned you’ve bought toys, including vibrators – does he use them on you and are you able to get off if/when he does? What about the other things you’ve bought for him to tease you with? Is he just too lazy to want to use them, or when he does use them do they all still result in his coming first and not caring about what happens to you? I mean, there’s obviously a lot of things – low effort things – he can probably do to get you off. But if he doesn’t give enough of a damn to want to bother, and if he’s not receptive to you when you raise the issue, then I’m not sure there’s much you can do to change him.
BystanderBrad: I’m a guy and I think it’s only fair for both of us to orgasm. So if I cum during sex but she doesn’t, then I’ll go down on her. Sometimes if I’m too tired I’ll tell her and she understands. So you’re not wrong to expect that, especially since he knows how to get you off. Sounds like he’s gotten complacent and lazy. You should just be straight with him and tell him how it’s not fair to you, and how he used to get you off multiple times.
GirliestTomboy: I can tell you that this is my exact situation as well, and even I recognize that it is selfishness on his part.
In the past I’ve stopped him before he finishes and asked him if we can do something else for a while (kiss, make out, tease, play around) so he can come down a bit, and then we go back at it. I cum quite quickly from PiV so that’s enough for me, but I’m not sure about you.
acidretro: Yeah, I experience this too with my SO. I’ve made comments but not too much has changed really. How old are you? I feel like a lot of older guys on this sub seem to be more into making sure their partner gets off. I realize this is a huge generalization, but something I noticed.
SexQuestionAwayItGo: Sometimes I cum before shes completely satisfied, sometimes not. No matter which…it’s not over till she wants it to be. Anything is on the table at all times…fingers,my mouth, toys, sometimes she just rolls off of me or I pull out and she will just grind on my face.
My sex drive is probably surpassed by hers only because she can literally cum for hours and hours. If i was hard forever wed probably pass out ontop of each other every night.
I suppose once in a while would be ok, but the fact that it’s now a habit…and I sense from your message…that he knows and just doesn’t care.
To fix it, it’s not on you..all it would take for me is for her to tell me she needs more. You shouldn’t need to motivate him, especially if you guys are exclusive. You aren’t needy in my book, you want a sexual release and you aren’t getting it. Communication is key, let him know its such a major problem you are talking to anyone who is willing to give advice…maybe that will tell him he needs to try better. It sounds like he was up to the task before, so it’s not impossible.
Pyehole: He’s got a mouth, he’s got fingers. If he isn’t willing to make sure you get your cookie too he’s a horrible lover. The only thing you can do is tell him that if things continue that way they won’t continue at all.
FitMumofThree: It’s selfish but I know it happens and it’s shitty when it happens because they’re too self absorbed to care.
TheoreticalCall: We avoid it by making sure I get my orgasms before he does. Because we know when he’s done, he usually likes to melt into the bed and relax, so he makes sure he gets me to the same level of satisfaction before he finishes.
The only time this doesn’t happen is if I am not going to be able to orgasm for whatever reason, I just let him know and he can finish whenever without worrying.
Beshe: I have been married for 10 years this April, together for almost 15 years
For me, I have tried to read the situation as every time is different. I can usually tell when my wife wants to get off, or when she doesn’t want to worry about it. We are lucky because she can cum from PIV so a lot of the times she cums even when she doesn’t need to
Over the years she has taught me that sometimes she doesn’t need to get off, and the act and being close is enough for her
For your situation – I think it’s an issue that you need to escalate. No different than him not doing his fair share of the chores – your sexual needs are not being met and I don’t feel that’s fair.
Marriage is about taking care of and being there for one another. As you said, if it was just about cumming you could go and take care of that yourself but that’s not what you want
I personally feel him telling you to masturbate on top of him is very lazy and I think you will find it hard to cum like that because you will feel resentful that he won’t participate in making you feel good
Good luck!! You deserve to cum as much as he does it’s a 2 way street
edubkendo: My greatest sexual pleasure comes from giving pleasure to my partners. Sure sometimes we want a quickie, we skip the foreplay, jump straight to PIV, I pound away fast and hard, and when its done its done. But if this was par-for-the-course for me, I’d be incredibly unsatisfied with the state of things.
theshiz892: If he’s like me and just loses pretty much all interest in sex for a while after finishing, try not to hold that specifically against him. If you’ve made it clear you’d like to get off more often like I’m sure he does, and you’ve compromised with him, yet he still doesn’t seem to be compassionate, considerate and not really be putting in real effort, then you either need to talk to him again (more seriously probably) or start thinking about making some hard choices…
parmyzen: Oh. Super common. Unfortunately.
BoopSnootExpress: It feels like you know the answer based on how you’re asking the question. I hope you find the inspiration needed within the other responses to stand up for yourself in this scenario.
You both deserve to be pleasured and have release. That’s what intimacy is. When one is missing out, it becomes something else. I’m not the best guy to ask because my answer is “she should be getting off way, way, way more than him” but I’m a sub. Outside of kink, it’s absolutely unacceptable to leave a partner unsatisfied as a habit.
An easy way to find out if this is okay behavior is to ask yourself if you’d be okay living like that for 50+ years.
justforme267: I’ve been with my wife for 8 1/2 years and we’ve been having sex for about 8 years. I always make sure she has an orgasm. It’s very important to me! If your partner isn’t getting you there or insists that you do all the hard work, then you need to speak up. Tell him to stop being lazy and start pleasing you. Sex is supposed to be fun and satisfying for both people. If your husband is still not interested in doing anything for you, you need to stop having sex with him. That’ll change his attitude real quick.
wmasters1: This is fucked up. He needs to take care of you. For me it really turns me on to make my gf cum.
whattheO: This started to be a problem with my ex and I. He would do some foreplay and get me wet before he penetrated me. I already have painful sex and we realized that while I was wet, it was almost impossible to insert himself. If he was able to penetrate me, he would cum and I would be left to finish myself off essentially. It took a couple of tries before we realized that I need to cum at least once before any insertion happened. It became a rule before any sex that he would get me off before he inserted himself. It was nice because it wasn’t painfully tight for him, and I got to cum without fail.
You could maybe tell your partner that he will be getting you off first from now on. If he doesn’t give you an orgasm from foreplay, he won’t get to have sex with you. Stick with the rule and I think after a couple of times of being shut down for any penetration, he will understand that he needs to do more work if he wants to get his dick wet.
Smokeandmirrorshere: He’s a selfish lover. Don’t put up with it. There are many men who aren’t selfish and care about getting you off.
scomet33: God he should be embarrassed that he consistently doesn’t please his partner. What a selfish jerk. Its disrespectful to you to constantly give up when he’s done, without even trying to make it enjoyable for you, like he thinks of you as a piece of meat to get off to and not a human being with her own desires. He needs his ass kicked for this pathetic behaviour.
CrazyStupidNSmart: I mean, I used to get off my ex-girlfriend after I came, but it just felt really boring, because the sexual energy and interest left me after I came. The solution would be to have him get you off FIRST, before he cums.
We didn’t have very good communication and I think I honestly didn’t care enough about her pleasure, probably mostly due to social conditioning. I now realize my folly. Yes, it’s important that your partner cares about your sexual pleasure. But try to fix it in a way that works for both of you.
shinyshinyredthings: What? No that’s not ok! My husband often comes before me but he damned well better stay awake and finger me while I masturbate until I cum. And cuddle afterwards.
fluoxine: Honestly, I feel like this is a pretty common thing. Men just get kind of…. selfish sometimes, to put it lightly Communication is key here. Try initiating a good, please-don’t-change-the-subject-type conversation. Don’t let him back out of it or get around it. He needs to know you’re hurt and/or upset, because if he doesn’t care after that, THAT is a huge issue. There’s no shame in saying, “Hey, would you mind helping me out a little?” Because it seems a little unfair, and you deserve to climax just as much as your partner does!
In my experience, this is usually a quick obstacle to overcome. A lot of times it’s an “Oh, I didn’t know that bothered you! I’m sorry!” situation and it’s pretty well resolved after that. If it doesn’t go like that, I say he doesn’t deserve you, lol. Just gently bring it up sometime and see where the conversation goes, but don’t back down. Let them know how you feel. Best of luck!
sknabcv2: I’ve been this guy. Im not going to try to excuse it. Just going to tell you my side of it. I hated the relationship. I was deeply unhappy and that translated into our sex life. I just didn’t care. Even when I did try she just made me feel like shit and emasculated me if it didn’t happen so I stopped trying. Were not together anymore. But early in our relationship it wasnt like that. Just started happening a good year or so after everything went to shit.
I’m not saying you guys are in the same place. But if this is a somewhat recent development then maybe its worth talking to him about and maybe examining yourself to see if you are happy in this relationship (outside of the sexual aspect obviously.)
My_Frozen_Heart: Woman here. There’s no easy way to put this: you have a selfish lover on your hands. It’s probably not uncommon, but that doesn’t make your situation any better. Since you’ve talked to him and he is apparently unwilling to change, you have to decide if this is something you are willing to settle for, or not.
Orangecabbage: Not common at all in relationships where both people actually care for each other’s satisfaction.
muzicluvr84: My ex started off attentive and gradually decreased his interest (at least in me) and got lazy and selfish in the bedroom.
*note that he is my EX*
I remarried and have been with my husband for almost 11 years. He has never once, in all the times we’ve had sex, gotten off before me or left me unfulfilled. Ever. I don’t think he would even consider it. Knowing him, he’d probably try until he passed out or worse lol. But seriously, your guy needs a clear, solid, honest discussion about this. I’m amazed you have held out this long. And if he is still unwilling to make sure you’re satisfied, it just proves he’s a selfish jerk. You deserve better than that.